@Rinel said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
But now I'm more confused, lol. I rarely miss deadlines, but that's because I tend to cram at the very last minute. Maybe I have mild ADHD? Talking about this is really weird because, like... some of the stuff is me to a T. All the time. Messy (more like absolute disaster) of a room, papers always everywhere, scattered, disorganized, make fancy plans and never go through with them, always forget to send thank you cards, bills pile up, etc...
But, like, at work? I'm fine at work. I mean, I get distracted constantly, but I get shit done on time, even though deadlines are really stressful. I don't know if this means I just have a mild form of the disorder or if being undiagnosed for 30 years means I developed coping strategies that let me function albeit miserably.
So, hm.
On the one hand (this is important) we are not healthcare professionals seeing you in person and it's a long-established truth that a layman or first-year student reading a medical textbook or the DSM will learn to their surprise that they have goddamn everything. We can't give a diagnosis.
On the other hand, what we're talking about and what you're talking about sound like a lot of my experiences, and it seems likely you have it too. Most psychiatric disorders are on a spectrum in any case, so sometimes teasing out the exact difference between a mild disorder and a personality trait is as much a definitional issue as anything, yeah? And if it is similar enough, we can at least share sympathy and coping strategies. (Although I don't recommend looking for those from me.)
And yes, as mentioned, a lot of us manage deadlines by using the stress-panic to cram it in at the last second. (Little anecdote: in college, I had one professor who was always annoyed with me because he kept getting A- papers from me that would've been a solid A if they were just proofread. The reason they weren't, of course, was that I'd finished the essays three minutes before class started and set them to print in the lab I passed on the way.)
Personally, I often do a lot better at work than otherwise because "do X thing in Y situation by Z time" is direct and manageable while "sort your fucking life out" is vague and undefined and open-ended and I'll get to starting it as soon as I'm done watching YouTube and shitposting on MSB.
And yeah, 30-odd years of coping strategies are a whole thing, which is why it's easiest to get an ADD diagnosis as a kid. It's a been a whole level of fun for me that, being resistant to medication or therapy already, I get psych people assuming an ADD diagnosis in my thirties means I'm cruising for drugs.