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    Best posts made by Kestrel

    • RE: RL things I love

      Having my own desk.

      Dear lord I never appreciated when I was younger just what a difference not having to work physically next to other people can make.

      A) I can procrastinate on MU* without feeling too awkward about randomly having pictures of celebrities on my screen or looking like a l33t h4xx0r. (Oh goodness, the amount of times someone's assumed I'm a tech wizard because I had a black screen with scrolling text open.)

      B) Nobody judges me for headbanging like an idiot or boogying in my seat to the music in my headphones.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: A bit of trouble on Firefly

      Ah, yes. It is the exact same player who harassed me. Thanks @bear_necessities.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Dating in the 2020's

      @SinCerely said in Dating in the 2020's:

      All of my serious adult relationships started online. Met my first boyfriend in an IRC RP chat, that was 8 years of glorious fun and he's still one of my best friends. Met my husband on WoW, he was my GM and I traded soundbytes for enchant materials. Poly, so met another SO in an MU*. I don't know what to do with people I meet in real life other than to feed them and give them coffee. I'm too awkward to express attraction if it's not somewhere I can delete and correct before hitting enter. Dating sites give me the willies but I do like the social personals app Lex.app, because I can meet friends that way. Still poly but dating? I can't remember how to do that.

      One thing I appreciate about online dating culture is the feeling that it’s helped destigmatise polyamory.

      I myself am not poly, but I feel like a few of the people I dated in my youth were. If they’d been able to just say so early on without fear of social repercussions, a lot of heartache and frustration could’ve been avoided on both sides.

      Negotiating expectations and knowing yourself is hella important.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: A bit of trouble on Firefly

      @Sunny said in A bit of trouble on Firefly:

      @Pyrephox

      I realized the other day I have been out longer than I was in, finally -- I've lingering trauma (who doesn't in their life?!) but I'm mostly OK. Things like this make me twitch a little though, because the MOs are similar. I imagine if I had to actually deal with it on a game, I'd probably end up triggered really bad. But I don't staff any more, and this type of thing is literally why I will only play on games where I know I will be safe, and why I bail so freaking quick on a game if I don't.

      Yeah, as I said to someone else about this situation in private, what bugged me most about it wasn't this guy specifically. This guy wasn't a blip on my radar.

      What got under my skin was how grossly familiar it all felt. I was like, I know this guy. No, not this guy specifically. I mean This Guy. This Guy that exists everywhere in the world. This Guy.

      Also why I didn't respond to his pages once he started spinning because good lord have I been down that icky road before. The only way to win those kinds of mind-games is not to play.

      RE: a post in RL peeves also, thank you for sharing your experiences. I am slowly but surely learning to better trust my gut.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Dating in the 2020's

      @saosmash said in Dating in the 2020's:

      I mean. No one HAS to date. I have deleted my OKC profile within a couple weeks of making one every time because yeah ... it sucks.

      Maybe one day I'll meet somebody but I'm 35 and haven't gotten around to it yet so I guess it just isn't that much of a priority for me.

      Least I got a kitty.

      Cats before prats fam.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: A bit of trouble on Firefly

      I have a strong preference for:

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      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      My family: When are you going to get a real job?
      My psychiatrist: There's no need to wash your hands obsessively. What are you afraid might happen?

      Me, with OCD, hand sanitiser in every handbag and coat pocket for years, able to work flexibly from home: 😏

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Diversity Representation in MU*ing

      @GreenFlashlight said in Diversity Representation in MU*ing:

      @onigiri said in Diversity Representation in MU*ing:

      I've largely found MUSHes to be far more progressive when it comes to gender/sexuality politics than when it comes to race.

      If you say so. I've found that people's progressive attitudes toward my gender and sexuality directly correlate to how much they can fap to them, which I guess is better than a lot of reactions but is still pretty creepy.

      This is the perk of being pansexual. People mistake me for woke because I'll fap to anything.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Covid-19 Gallows Humor

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      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Diversity Representation in MU*ing

      Am I the only one whose sexual orientation changes depending on who I'm dealing with?

      I'm gay when machismos come a-flexin' and straight as a board when MU* lesbians want a giggly pillow-fight.

      Then I go back to being gay anytime I'm in the vicinity of linen shorts.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Covid-19 Gallows Humor

      @Wretched

      The only correct response to this statement, and the genius who came up with it, is a shit-eating grin and a, ‘You first.’

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Diversity Representation in MU*ing

      Can someone please ban @Caractus already

      I put myself through reading his Arx app and no one should ever have to put themselves through reading anything this lying, racist POS writes ever, honestly.

      You're as black as I'm turquoise.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Covid-19 Gallows Humor

      This guy's on top of that radical new cure.

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      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Attachment to old-school MU* clients

      @ifrit yes pls gimme dis

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      I think white-knighting gets a bad rap.

      I really wish politics didn't get to me so much, but seeing another racist comment left completely unchecked in an online community I'm somewhat invested in really bothered me today. The only person who remarked negatively on it was me, a person in the demographic being targeted.

      I can count on one hand the number of times that I've felt like someone who wasn't in the demographic being targeted stood up for me when I was. And those scant few incidents stick in my memory because they meant a great deal to me. It's not that I can't fight my own battles, it's just that it gets really tiring to always have to.

      So, I don't care if this is considered virtue signalling, white knighting or white saviour. I'm not saying people doing this should be awarded trophies or have biopics made about them. But sometimes, be the one who tells a friend, 'Hey, knock it off.' Do it so the people in the demographic being targeted don't always have to feel like it's them against the world, or like that stuff should be considered normal, and gets a pass, because it doesn't bother anyone else.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Cultural differences between MUDs and MUSHes

      @ThatGuyThere said in Cultural differences between MUDs and MUSHes:

      @Kestrel
      It seems to me from this thread the biggest cultural difference between MUDs and MUSHes is on MUD IC has primacy, things tend to me looked at mainly though the lens of IC.
      On MUSHes OOC tends to have primacy, some aspects of this I think are positive some are negative.
      The feeling I am picking up from MUD folks is that the game is meant to simulate the life of the characters in a very sim like fashion.
      On a MUSH there is more of a focus on creating good fiction, one example is I was in a scene a couple of nights ago. It went well story got moved forward and it reached a natural conclusion. I am sure many like this happen on a MUD on a regular basis. In case we just decided to fade there, not wrap up no how folks got home just fading to the character chatting, much like a fade out of a scene on TV or in a movie. The scene had served it's purpose nothing more need to be said. From what I gather on a MUD those of us in the scene would be expected to actually pose out good byes and navigate the grid to our residences before logging out. Instead of +ooc then logging out.
      If this correct? Not judging just trying to make sure I have things straight in my head.

      All accurate, and I definitely see the benefits as you describe. Often having to wrap up a scene with the minutiae can be frustrating or just dull.

      In some ways MUSHes are less spontaneous, in other ways more so. You have to prearrange RP, but once you go +ic, the scene starts immediately and provides you with instant gratification, in terms of the fact that you can dive straight into the action. There is less RP, but the RP you get is better. I have often been very bored IC on MUDs, waiting for more interesting things to happen. I am often bored on a MUSH waiting for RP partners to log on or be available, but at least they usually give me their full attention when the scene begins. I can spend the rest of my time online more wisely, doing other things rather than picking up scraps from inattentive/mediocre/temporary RP partners on MUDs, tavern-sitting etc.

      Regarding the simulationism though, I actually don't know whether MUDs or MUSHes are worse. Yes, MUDs are simulationist, but I feel like MUSHers tend to have less IC/OOC separation. The ability to control what kind of RP you're involved in to such a high degree allows for a lot more wish-fulfillment and, IMHO, isn't healthy. It is a lot easier to be a Mary-Sue on a MUSH, because if you don't want to, you never have to expose yourself to anyone who would rain on your parade. See also my bafflement on this thread. It weirds me out that people would strictly arrange for and only play out perfect relationships, even perfect friendships, or expect other players to alter their characters' normal behaviour to minimise conflict. But, I intend to follow the advice others have given on this thread about self-selection (ironically), so hopefully I won't have to deal with this too much.

      @TNP: Sleep is for the weak.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: RL things I love

      My depression has basically disappeared completely and I'm both shocked and perplexed as to how tf this happened.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: MU Things I Love

      MU* things I love...

      Running into an old friend on a different MU*, not realising who they are, and them not realising it's you. Get thrown into a scene together, have amazing chemistry, massively enjoy the RP anonymously, and then get to be surprised when the mask comes off way later. "Wait, that was you?!"

      This has happened to me a number of times now, and every time it does I want to scream with joy. Most recently it happened with someone I hadn't RPed or communicated with in over a year. But, turns out, they're just as awesome as they were back then, if not even better. Much <3.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      @GreenFlashlight said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

      The version of the Bible I grew up with did not portray the Ten Commandments as single sentences. They were whole paragraphs listing examples and exceptions. I remember being really scared that the one against killing had a provision allowing for people who break into your home at night, because until then, I hadn't realized that was a thing that could happen. Don't let your kids read the Bible.

      I went to school in Israel, and the Old Testament is part of the national curriculum. I studied the entire thing in Hebrew. Twice. (Basic & Advanced studies.)

      People really underestimate children, because much as Harry Potter didn’t lead me to devil worship, the Bible didn’t lead me to God worship. I thought it was a fun story full of action, adventure and great world-building, but ultimately ridiculous and that the God character was wholly unlikeable. (Serious temper issues, abusive, bit of a controlling narcissist.)

      Anyway that’s why I became an atheist at the age of 6. But Jewish culture encourages questioning the Bible and my answer to it was always ‘NO.’

      Let your children read fantasy, there’s no harm in it.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Sensitive cultural/political/religious aspects of game themes.

      I happen to think that rape, sexism, racism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia and the like make for great storytelling — this coming from someone frequently derided as a SJW — so I tend not to understand why anyone would want to exclude these themes from their story where they should realistically apply.

      If you're building a medieval fantasy world like Middle Earth, then these themes aren't massively necessary. This is an elegant solution if you want to create a setting where these issues don't exist.

      If you're specifically setting something in Victorian London or 1940s New Orleans or something, though, I think you should include the relevant themes of political/identity conflicts. Otherwise, what's the point of setting something in these eras to begin with? Just to have the glitzy glamour/vintage/retro style while sweeping the baggage under the rug? I think, if you were trying to be 'sensitive', that's more insulting than being explicit about issues of the era.

      Where it leads to issues of marginalising certain players and their preferred archetype (e.g., saying no women who are more than x), it's the responsibility of the game-designer to create a reasonable loophole, or perhaps just choose a different setting. For example, instead of setting a Noir somewhere white and affluent, set it in New Orleans, where women of colour can play pivotal roles 'behind the scenes' as voodoo medicine-women or jazz musicians, despite the social climate of the country they live in. If you have a Victorian London sci-fi setting, invent some kind of secret society that operates out of the London Underground, and in which women can be badass and gay men make out or whatever. You get the picture.

      (Coincidentally, I'm currently working on a Noir project set in New Orleans, so this is very much on my mind.)

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
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