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    Posts made by Kestrel

    • RE: Diversity Representation in MU*ing

      @onigiri said in Diversity Representation in MU*ing:

      I think I've also posted at length here before ranting about the rampant fetishization of queer characters -- though this is not the specific topic to talk about that.

      I mean, kinda is. This is the same reason I don't think white people who are uncomfortable doing so should feel obligated to make an effort to play POC. People who want to do it and can do it comfortably will just go ahead and do that anyway, and people who feel ill at ease about it should just trust their gut.

      I feel there's very little harm in people writing what they know, whether that's their own culutre, ethnicity, sex or orientation. The likelihood of harm is much higher in writing about experiences that aren't yours, and offensively mischaracterising them through an external lens. If this were more than a hobby, and we were writing for publication or an audience, I'd care more. But in this hobby, the only audience we're writing for is one that's actively participating in the writing process already, and don't require others to tell their stories.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Diversity Representation in MU*ing

      @Tinuviel alt text

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Diversity Representation in MU*ing

      @GreenFlashlight said in Diversity Representation in MU*ing:

      @onigiri said in Diversity Representation in MU*ing:

      I've largely found MUSHes to be far more progressive when it comes to gender/sexuality politics than when it comes to race.

      If you say so. I've found that people's progressive attitudes toward my gender and sexuality directly correlate to how much they can fap to them, which I guess is better than a lot of reactions but is still pretty creepy.

      This is the perk of being pansexual. People mistake me for woke because I'll fap to anything.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Diversity Representation in MU*ing

      @Jeshin said in Diversity Representation in MU*ing:

      For those wondering what crazy facist @Kestrel is talking about, pretty sure she is refering to Az from HavenRPG aka Cullen.

      Honestly he's not even the only one but he's probably the worst. Or maybe the best? I dunno. He's so nice when he isn't on a murder/rape/stalker spiral. And by contrast there's Ppurg who just unabashedly spouts antisemitic vitriol -- calling me 'a corrupting jewish influence' with regards to Daed, and openly declaring that women lack superior male intelligence, but at least that inability to help himself makes his toxicity transparent.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Diversity Representation in MU*ing

      @egg said in Diversity Representation in MU*ing:

      @Kestrel Why shouldn't I be mad? If I spend most of my leisure hours in a place where "representing yourself" = white (and even moreso, Aryan half of the time), shouldn't I want to see change there? Is it as important as the film industry changing its racial bias? Of course not. Does that mean I shouldn't care at all? No.

      Because the kinds of people who predominantly play white characters, especially in such a way that telegraphs their obsession with "white heritage", aren't the kinds of people you want playing people of colour. If their biases are apparent when playing their own ethnicity, imagine how gross it would be to see those biases apparent when they portray a different one.

      I know an honest to god fascist in this hobby, and by that I don't mean 'some dude who is kinda racist', I mean, 'uses an iron cross as a forum avatar, obsessed with authoritarian and nationalistic themes, checks every item on the Ur-Fascism list.'

      His characters are all, without exception, male, significantly above 6', muscular and athletic, and have descriptions that wax lyrical about how fair his hair is and how structured his strikingly white face is. Ideally, I'd kind of like him to, I don't know, catch fire or something, fall into a woodchipper, leave the hobby, whatever. But insofar as we're stuck with him (on games where he has yet to be banned), I'm just GLAD he only plays this one type of character, both because it makes him easy to identify and avoid, and because if this is his idea of white masculinity, just imagine what his idea of asian masculinity might be. (And I already know what his ideas of women are, based on a persistent pattern of harassing them.)

      He's a pretty extreme example but he has little red flags I tend to notice in other people in the hobby who aren't as awful but, shall we say, mildly suck.

      Researching your character is a good idea, but research can't undo biases. I know a seasoned anthropologist who will tell you this quite glibly -- many of her white male colleagues find foreign tribes entirely fascinating, and know a lot of facts about their culture, but that doesn't change the fact that they fetishise, objectify and exoticise them like they're some interesting little growth on a petri dish, a cute pet or a fashion accessory.

      Should white people work to undo their biases? Of course. Are MU*s the battleground on which we can help them do that? I am doubtful.

      I know plenty of people in this hobby who play characters across the full spectrum of the human experience, and do it well. These are people who, for the most part, don't actually need more encouragement -- they already take it upon themselves to read up, ask people from the culture they're roleplaying for feedback, and do it because they just want to, not because they want some kind of medal.

      And then you also have people who never have and never will, and you know what, it's probably best they just stick to that, too.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Diversity Representation in MU*ing

      Things that offend me: racist stereotypes.
      Things that don't offend me: white people playing white people.

      Of all the things to be mad about, this ain't it.

      #MU*sSoWhite is a nonsense hashtag. I assume it's referencing #OscarsSoWhite. These are not morally equivalent crimes.

      The Oscars (and RL media in general) being white-dominated is a problem because non-white people don't have the same opportunities in life, nor do they receive the same/fair recognition as their white counterparts. Real people are affected when out of a diverse line-up auditioning for a role, only the white actors stand a chance, or white people are paid more, etc. And when non-white children grow up only seeing white protagonists in the media they consume, they're made to feel like they don't matter and never will have the same opportunities white people do. Similarly, when media depictions of women give the impression their sole purpose in life is to be a romantic/sexual satellite for men, that gives people of all genders the wrong idea of how to treat women -- and in women's case, how they ought to treat themselves.

      No one is hurt when white MUers play white characters. You aren't paying your played-by royalties. You aren't denying starving black artists the opportunity to perform in your world. You aren't taking away representation from POC. You are representing yourself. Everyone who plays these games has the opportunity to represent themselves and live whatever gay/female/black/disabled/whatever fantasy they like. We make our own superheroes.

      I have literally never looked at a mostly white, mostly male or mostly straight ensemble on a MU* and felt ostracised by that fact alone. It would be different if, out of 10 female characters and 20 male characters, all 5 leadership positions were filled by dudes. It would be different if someone called my gay/POC character a slur.

      I have however frequently been disgusted by POC characters clearly played by someone who doesn't belong to that minority group, who uses the character's "exotic" skintone to base the entire concept on. For example, a weed-smoking, uneducated black criminal who spends most of his time talking about KFC, drugs, and white booty. (Yes I have run into this. MULTIPLE TIMES.) Please don't encourage these people by suggesting they're heroes for providing #representation.

      What I do think played-by choices often reveal is beauty standards. Most people pick faces they think are attractive. I often cringe when I read descriptions that wax poetic about how super blonde and teutonic and alabaster-skinned some elegant specimen of Western masculinity is, or when people list their "race" on a character page as Nordic/Irish/white, especially when that's a custom field rather than a default one. Maybe if you're one of these people it's worth examining your own biases.

      Do it quietly, in your head.

      And direct your white guilt towards more important causes.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: RL things I love

      What I love right now is having people I care about who are as mad as I am about vague general handwave at the world stuff.

      Having someone to be angry with, to vent and shout with, is a wonderful catharsis I needed more than I knew. Weirdly, it makes me feel saner. Like the world tries to gaslight us but this person gets it and having that to lean on means the world to me.

      The world is burning but I know they’re always there to pass the hose. Or flamethrower, depending.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: MU Things I Love

      Getting back into the swing of things after a prolonged break.

      Sometimes, I have this persistently unfounded notion that if I go too long without exercising my creative energy, I will have forgotten how to do it. That I can no longer write well, have forgotten everything I ever knew, or have passed my peak, or something equally silly like that. And these anxieties always get worse the more time passes, making the prospect of going back a bigger and bigger hurdle to surmount.

      All it takes is one good scene with one good friend and it all comes back. And I remember that no, I haven't forgotten, and (smugly) I'm still a pretty damn good writer.

      Those muscles haven't atrophied. They just needed a nice stretch.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • Bystander Intervention: Handling Harassment

      Given everything that’s going on in the world right now, this is a useful resource for everyone, IRL.

      However, I saw this and thought it might also be worth sharing within the MU* community, for people who want to help safeguard it against harassment but don’t always know how.

      Some harassment takes place in private, unseen, in pages etc., and in these instances it’s harder to deal with. But if you see echoes of it in scenes or public channels, try this approach:

      https://www.ihollaback.org/bystander-resources/

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Covid-19 Gallows Humor

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      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: RL things I love

      @Tinuviel said in RL things I love:

      @GreenFlashlight said in RL things I love:

      @Kestrel said in RL things I love:

      My depression has basically disappeared completely and I'm both shocked and perplexed as to how tf this happened.

      Obviously you went for a walk and drank some water.

      And had some kale.

      I've been chugging kale and SSRIs for years now, so clearly there's something to this.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: RL things I love

      My depression has basically disappeared completely and I'm both shocked and perplexed as to how tf this happened.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      @Aria

      lol

      My post above yours was about my widowed elderly neighbour.

      The walls are thin. The garden windows are frequently open. She has been consistently awful to me (literally tried to blackmail me, vandalised my garden door, somehow found my dad's number through google research or something to try and contact me through him after I blocked her number) so, I'm sorry, but I have no shame. When the boyfriend's over she gets to listen. I don't put music on.

      I feel so called out.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      When someone whom you owe absolutely nothing, who is in no position whatsoever to haggle, asks you for a favour but is super entitled and disrespectful about it.

      Damn, Karen. I already said yes just to keep the peace between us, but if you're gonna keep being a bish I can just not do the thing and 'forget' to reply to your emails from now on.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      @nyctophiliac said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

      I saw someone peel mushrooms before. Ridiculous. The dirt cooks off.

      MSB needs a sad react.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      @Groth

      Look, I said it was petty.

      But honestly, who peels beans???

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      My really petty peeve today is people overcomplicating good, simple recipes that have been perfect for generations.

      Not in a way that adds a fun, interesting twist to it — I love a good fusion — but in a way that just makes it worse. Silly pretentious stuff that feels like someone thought having a longer list of ingredients or adding more steps is the same as making something better.

      I'm talking about stuff like pea guacamole, carrot hummus, or the latest nonsense I've seen, using bicarbonate soda to strip the skin off of beans and then scooping them out of the pot at a gentle simmer instead of cooking/enjoying them as they are. Just stop. Why? Why?

      (Quarantine has me on a crazy foodie kick.)

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: MU Things I Love

      My favourite person: I wanna write with you.
      Me: Same.
      My favourite person: I'm playing in this place.
      Me: But that place is a shithole. 😞
      My favourite person: OK, I will roll in where you're playing then.
      -Literally a day later-
      App submitted.

      feelsgoodman

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      @Admiral said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

      There is such a thing as too far left, I found out today. I got banned from r/AgainstHateSubreddits for suggesting that all catholics aren't hatemongers. Not fighting. Not screaming. Just not moving lock-step with folks on the very, very fringe of the left. Those folks are... everything the right accuses them of. They've gone off the deep end. Witch hunts. Which is ironic, I know. Considering catholics are their target now.

      So there is such a thing as too much 'SJWing' and 'White Knighting'.

      What you’re referring to is something I’d call “purity politics”, and I don’t think it indicates the person is too far left so much as that they’re just a bully who also happens to be left-wing.

      This happens in any movement/community of any kind as soon as it starts to gain some traction. For example, above someone gave the example of gatekeeping within the Star Wars fandom. Other examples I’ve witnessed:

      • You aren’t a real vegan if you’re [eating palm oil / in it for selfish reasons / a pet owner / letting your cat outdoors / pro-capitalism / pro-Israel / pro-choice because abortion is murder / a sex-positive feminist because that still exploits women’s bodies / anti-vax because that kills children / pro-vax because that contains animal products]

      • You aren’t a real feminist if you’re [sex positive / sex negative / gender essentialist / gender performativist / anti-hijab / pro-hijab / radical / not radical / not vegan / pro-capitalist #girlboss / demonising gender roles / supporting gender roles]

      When people follow purity politics, one strike on any count is enough to discredit an entire person of their value system, leaving many feeling politically homeless due to a lack of support from any camp. E.g., I don’t think being a liberal who’s OK with capitalism makes you right-wing. That’s nonsense. Even though I, myself, am anti-capitalist.

      I could be a little shit and call this mentality “class reductionist” as many POC have been criticising lately, and therefore decry the people doing this as not left-wing enough for me either. It’s a two-way street. But I don’t believe in gatekeeping, bullying and purity politics, which has nothing to do with being left-wing, it just has to do with having your head up your arse.

      “The left” is a pretty broad umbrella and people have different views. According to the political compass I’m extremely left-wing but I like to think I don’t engage in this behaviour. It also puts me right next to Noam Chomsky, whom I personally dislike and disagree with on many issues. I don’t think that invalidates his position on the spectrum, nor mine.

      So, tl;dr, don’t take it to heart.

      Also, the right-wing does purity politics too, and I find theirs a lot scarier. Nazi Germany had it really down to pat, and the modern right loves to call people cucks and degenerates — a term which basically means “race traitor”.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      I think white-knighting gets a bad rap.

      I really wish politics didn't get to me so much, but seeing another racist comment left completely unchecked in an online community I'm somewhat invested in really bothered me today. The only person who remarked negatively on it was me, a person in the demographic being targeted.

      I can count on one hand the number of times that I've felt like someone who wasn't in the demographic being targeted stood up for me when I was. And those scant few incidents stick in my memory because they meant a great deal to me. It's not that I can't fight my own battles, it's just that it gets really tiring to always have to.

      So, I don't care if this is considered virtue signalling, white knighting or white saviour. I'm not saying people doing this should be awarded trophies or have biopics made about them. But sometimes, be the one who tells a friend, 'Hey, knock it off.' Do it so the people in the demographic being targeted don't always have to feel like it's them against the world, or like that stuff should be considered normal, and gets a pass, because it doesn't bother anyone else.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      Kestrel
      Kestrel
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