Believe it or not, that's pretty tame compared to the subset I was part of from around 8ish until 24.
There are many, many frightening communities preaching stuff like that or worse out there. What makes me angriest is often the most vocal adherents are not men or women raised in it, but those who adopt it later in life in response to fear/need for control and then cripple their children with it.
I think there's always a risk for checking in or intervening.
The line for when your gut is telling you that its good information for staff to know is going to be situational, personal, and frankly how much you think staff gives shit (which admittedly is not much on many places).
While I do/have intervened icly by calling out ic behavior in scene (if its appropriate for the personality or status of my pc to do so) or more classical RL strategies of coming over to talk to the person being targeted to give them either an out from engaging with someone who is targeting them or to get a better read on how they react, that also can get some heat (esp if the person is using ic to be inappropriate/aggressive with ooc motivations). It is a difficult thing to balance. But hey, if they are doing this in public (whether that is two people getting jollies forcing others to watch, someone targeting someone in public or at a scene they feel they must be at so that the creeper has access/cant be avoided as easily, whatever) ICly I think its okay to incorporate ic responses to it in your own poses. Sometimes that is enough to get the other person to page you with a "s/he wont leave me alone," if they are feeling uncomfortable too.
I'm sure they would have if this was still going on when the hourly cleaning/towel person made their rounds. Unfortunately, at the time of the incident there was not a staff person there. This is probably why there's well posted signs everywhere explaining the rules on age limits/what direction to run when/track etiquette on the stairwell entrance, both door into the track itself. But you know, I'm open the the idea I'm a bitch with impossible expectations in this situation.
You would be surprised at how much people will come after you first TS and relationship play when you play an elderly pc.
Its almost always because they cant be bothered to look or read, but.
That being said I have had PCs that would totally pick a date being verbally trounced and enjoying the wit of an Olenna Tyrell PC over a naked lap dance from the hottest hott Instagram model 20something ninja/phd/warrior PC, so maybe I'm just biased.
Someone did make a remark to me that superhero places were even more sex crazed than WoD, though so I mean I can see why maybe those pcs don't get played.
But come on. Alfred would get laid more often than batman probably. 
Yes. Absolutely, the reason the civil rights movement has made any steps at all is to be sweet and honeyed and thus win over the vast majority of people to their cause. That is how miscegenation laws were outlawed, how for a time there were voter protection laws, how non discrimination laws became enforceable, ect.
I guess it is possible to laugh and cry at the same time.
Also a lot of MLK's activities have been, to use a crappy term, whitewashed. He was decidedly NOT a honeyed sort of man. We like to kind of reremember him as such, but--not so.
@Pandora agreed. The phrase "adult more" can be really super ugly thrown out in certain contexts.
I do agree though that there is always a certain element of "make me" involved in political change, at least in the US. It doesn't have to be violent make me--but there does need to be some sort of staying power and risk other than whining about "well I VOTED for it this one time, omg it didn't happen right away, it's useless." Not only do you have to speak out/do petitions/beg people "not on your side" to coax them sweetly to your own apparently, but you also do need to be prepared for personal risk and violence against your person/family/community.
I think changes happen superficially more quickly now that we are kind of in a post-hierarchical society (or one in which strict hierarchy is crumbling, I'm not convinced we're post- it yet), and that has implications from government to parenting to just social structure in general. But wanting to affect change frankly is a lot of work. Boring work too. Paperwork. Showing up. Dealing with asshats who are like "omfg you didn't use the right words to make me feel good even though I would have agreed with you probably otherwise, say it again more correctly you stupid racial/gender/sexual-slur and be respectful!". Because yeah, you're going to have to deal with more of those than you will people who want to beat you down in the street (because most people aren't going to get up off their ass to do that really).
But still. I mean, I am watching this happen somewhat within my political party. SO many people freaking out and whining about needing to spend 10 hours at a caucus. Yes, it's annoying as fuck. However, when things are put on by volunteers at the local level, if you want things to change well get up off your ass and help! Help others who have the time, if you don't. Get in the face of the party platform decisions (in my state a lot of that happens online). If you're too poor to afford making it to the next delegate level but you have the time, then say that--so that those of us who don't have the time but do have the $$ can send you there. Or cheer you on and publicize you if we have neither.
It's hard fucking work. If someone needs to be wined and dined in order to "come over" then honestly, just be polite and then leave them alone. Theyre' not worth the energy that could be expended elsewhere--work on the people that are actually wanting to make an effort too. There are lots of those guys and gals too.
I think the only way you can have a cohesive, compelling setting is to be relatively rigorous in your enforcement of it. Including removing PCs that do not comply, standards before and after CG, ect.
I think the reason why it does not happen so much in big tent games is because the more spheres (especially the non mainline ones) you have and the more specialized rules you have the less likely you are to have all your staff be able to implement rules for setting and character standards across the board.
I kind of think that making a massively multisphere game with no population caps means that you are agreeing to sacrifice some degree of cohesive setting and consistent standards of characters and storytelling eventually. I'm sure there are teams that can sustain it for a little while. But you cannot expect everything from every game. I think players (and staffers too) need to cut the big box game staff a little slack in this regard, especially on places that allow for every player to have tons of alts, meaning the volume of PCs is high.
If you want to prioritize player freedom that's great, but that also comes with costs. And it's definitely a truism that people tend to want what they want with NO sacrificing anything else. 
I mentioned women because yes, on the surface maybe a lot of people might think Awww what a nice/special thing, but I think it's mostly other women that might feel that twinge of assault alert if it actually happens to them. Maybe guys would feel scared in that way though, dunno.
And yeah, it's the couple of requests that are denied followed by weird visit that freaked out my suite mate where he refused to give his name and made her feel uncomfortable enough that she warned me in a email about some stranger looking/asking about me, and then this final letter last night revealing his identity.
Though in my case this would be showing up with all that stuff after 30 years. In case anyone was wondering, it's not romantic. I get FB messaged from old boyfriends now and then (it is a thing that people look up people they used to feel attached to, I've reconnected with a couple of junior high besties who have become solid friends again).
But something about this really creeps me out. 
still feel disturbed.
I think this is just going to be one of those things that until the systems catch up (like domain) people are just going to have to OOCly deal with as far as maybe new people will catch up to them (at least momentarily) in IC house stats. If staff does make domain something that is more dynamic, I feel pretty sorry for them in many ways, because my experience is when you implement dynamic systems into a game where they weren't there before, you have to deal with a lot of angst when people have to maintain power. I'm not sure how that will fit in the "no harm/no foul" for amount of activity/sharing that's expected on the game that /does/ help a great deal with not only rewarding people who are on the most or have the most ooc know how, ect. But I'm betting they're discussing it and are sensitive to that as well.
Also, what part of my reaction isn't part of the real world of adulting? I've owned my own practice for 3 years, asshole. During that time, I know personally 3 practioner a who have been assaulted/robbed. There are every few years serial rapists who target massage therapists because of the evening/weekend hours. It is why while we are considered medical practioners in my state solo practioners in particular are encouraged to have some way to screen first time clients and we retain more right refusal. I can (and have) kicked someone's ass out of my business mid-session because of their boundary violating behavior (they kept trying to brush against my thighs even after I told them to stop--but you know maybe after multiple times it was accidental, I hope they didn't think I was saying they're a bad guy)
If you called a mechanic, and asked them for an appointment for a tune up, and they said they were not able to take you as a client at the time, would you think it appropriate to drive over anyway a few weeks later and poke around asking what a specific mechanic was up to and trying to enter the business beyond opening hours to see if you could meet up with them? I don't think most bad or good guys would really think that was normal, or not odd and weird.
I guess I don't adult well though.
@Ominous why do you want to encourage a greater age range of PCs?Are there special story incentives to be had?
Let's take your example of a 40 year old in your game being considered nearing the end of their useful life. Why do you want to incentivize playing a PC that the society at large will consider a has been or being good for little else than being a plot dispenser. Do they have special built in roles/powers/niches? That to me seems like a better way to encourage more age diversity than extra XP, as well as making those PCs valuable and so theres reason to include them while all the 18-late 20s pcs are getting hitched and pumping out offspring on a L&L game.
I think age diversity for age diversity's sake and offering people a handful of extra XP just doesn't work very well, because again, absent some kind of built in recognition many people just don't want to create a pc that has had most of their fun adventuring and development behind them before they even hit the grid, and numbers on a sheet seldom means you are included more in play or otherwise.
It does not really help to close the gap on play power differentials between PCs either (if that's desirable). But building in non xp incentives might. Maybe people can't manifest major magical abilities until they're 30. Or older pcs have more social influence (based on mechanics) that majorly kicks ass if they are called in to assist on a task, ect.
Well, it's not like the darlings of conservative and Christian talk radio don't show up at glitzy dinners for RT and other orgs, since at least the 90s and probably before. That's been hidden in plain sight for decades even when Russia was the bad guy.
@Ominous when you start with a bigger chunk of XP in CG it can give a short term boost (depending on how rapidly XP in game is earned and how), but yeah, it doesn't last forever and is not much of a incentive, and you're still going to be smoked by the 18 year old that's been on the grid playing for a year. So it really doesnt help bridge the power differential that builds up in a game over time. And absent other incentives I think that is probably why people tend to gravitate towards younger PCs, because it doesn't feel like their older PC gets any benefit from not being 20, because they do not perceive that part of the PC to be particularly valued.
There are always some folks that prefer older PCs because they enjoy them. But they would play them regardless of XP boost at the start, most likely, because unless the XP gain on the game as a whole is truly glacial any starting xp gain advantage is lost pretty quickly.
@Lisse24 I would love that too, but judging from the shit I am seeing even on "the liberal" side, I'm expecting things to continue to worse and get uglier between now and November 2020. They don't even bother to repackage or rewrite stuff from the 90s!
@Kestrel people do not always take rosters because they are "unsure and uncommitted", sometimes it is an avenue to take a PC that is known to be thematic and appropriate to the setting or even needed/wanted skillset. It allows you to avoid irritating people on a channel asking what's wanted or making a PC to try and fill other people's wants and then dropping/never finishing them because interest is lost or the oc creator gets pissed because someone else makes a similar concept and they are not uniquely desired anymore. Or cluttering up a who/character list with a shitload of many PCs that realistically you know will not be played after about a month and the newness wears off.
Not that it can't happen with rosters too, but unsureness and noncommittal is a player thing that many people who turn up their nose at pre-gen pcs often have in spades as well.
@L-B-Heuschkel that's my strategy as well. I just have historically run into more than a few kind of insufferable people who will very loudly complain how their PC is just too deep and complex for everyone else around them who of course are so much shallower. When in fact there were lots of interesting stories to uncover in those other PCs, its just that fewer people wanted to deal with the Oh So Complex person because they were kind of a critical impatient jerk.
To some degree it's not enough to have a really interesting story on a mush, you have to find people who would like to tell it with you. I think that escapes people sometimes or is their biggest frustration and sometimes rather than address that aspect they will blame others for not being up to par.
It's a human impulse, I think that most people can find themselves sucked into.
I find I have a lot better success being happy on a place if I really examine my expectations and see if I can recalibrate a bit. Usually I can find at least one or two people that are very reciprocal in allowing me into their stories while also being interested in mine and building new ones.
I struggle sometimes to have reasonable expectations, but I am always a lot happier with everything and everyone if I do.
I have had a bad headache (it isn't a migraine, or at least not like any other migraine I have experienced) since Wednesday. I can take enough medicine to make myself function at work but otherwise I just want to lay in bed. I am pretty sure it is the seasonal temperature change since it feels like someone is driving an ice pick up my nostril through my sinuses and into my brain, which makes me LOOK even grumpier than I already am because I end up doing the one eyed squint/lip curl if I'm not very conscious about it. It is super annoying. The only upside is that my big fluffy cat wants to cuddle me all the time right now even though it's my husband that is her Special Person. And my other cat just wants to sit on my head and try to electrocute us both by attempting to gnaw on my phone's charging cord.
Unfortunately I find that the tools that could in theory help identify people who are open to whatever particular kind of horrible my PCs have in them/about them have often backfired when I have tried to use them. Maybe I should give them a try again but I'm leery.
Because I-player have no difficulty in engaging I scenes that involve certain subjects doesnt mean that I want every PC who has that in their background or who is open to incorporating that into their play to feel entitled to my time or to approach me because they are super excited about getting their <subject> on; and sometimes people assume because you are open it means you expect THEM to be open to that subject to play with you or they assume you are a <subject> fiend that is only into that kind of play.
This is compounded when you are in mixed company as far as people wanting to ask oocly if something would be welcome, or touching base oocly.
When you can find people who are willing to push ic boundaries while respecting ooc ones, and who are trustworthy to handle experimentation with difficult subjects but dont then weaponize it oocly later though, that really can be amazing. They're definitely out there.