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@Ghost said in Accounting for gender imbalances:

Apologies. I thought we were answering a guy asking for advice.

That's really unkindly dismissive.

@dreampipe said in Spirit Lake: An Original Modern Fantasy Game:

My crotchety fellow will have been born in the town a long time ago, but had been a little over ambitious and decided to whisk away to city-life for better opportunities. Unfortunately he'd struck out one too many times and after two decades away from the home turf, there's nowhere else he's got to go. He doesn't know many of these younger faces around and he's pretty behind on the times.

Will probably enjoy digging in a musty used bookstore, give side-eye to the youths on instagram and take his coffee black. Also still uses a flip phone.

He's gonna be so happy about how modern and hipster Garrett has made the cafe. ENJOY THE TABLET CASH REGISTER AND LATTE ART.

i am so tired of job hunting and job rejections that i just want to curl up and cry

@thenomain If you feel really strongly that there's something to excuse, you can just post up a log of the offending behavior on an appropriate forum post. Presumably it would speak for itself.

@Macha You probably need an employment lawyer if you can swing one. I know enough to be pretty sure your employer needs to enter into an interactive process about this: they can't just say "nope, can't do the accommodation you want, so the conversation is over." Their reaction indicates they don't have a very good understanding about what their responsibilities are.

@TiredEwok Sure, I'm not talking about people not making any effort in regards to asking someone to leave them alone, establishing boundaries, etc. But my strong disagreement would come down to "just block the person and wait for them to try and finagle around the block." So I guess my objection is more about "just use coded blocking tools if that person can't respect you asking them not to contact you." Because the simple fact of "person doesn't respect someone else asking them not to contact them" would be something I'd want to act on as a staffer.

@Arkandel Divorce? She sounds like an A+ troll. You gotta appreciate talent.

@Thenomain tl;dr "you're too emotional" is a common derailing tactic in debate used against women who express any sort of investment in what they're arguing about. a lot of women who have experienced it or witnessed it a fair amount don't appreciate seeing it because its most common usage is to try and shut them up.

@Aria said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Boss's Day.

I just got an email about it from one of my coworkers wanting pooling together money for our two managers.

Why? Why does this bullshit "holiday" exist?

It's bullshit. The Ask A Manager blog I know has had posts responding to the question of how to discourage this sort of thing from coworkers.

@Ghost In this case, it would be evading a staff ban, not so much the other stuff you described.

@Goblin On the other hand, I left a bad fit job without something new lined up and spent almost two years hunting for the right full time position. I am SUPER glad your situation worked out, but it can easily turn out terribly. People should definitely try hard to line something up before putting in notice.

I vaguely recall us having a thread about this or a similar tabletop system maybe a year or two ago? I seem to remember it also being a decent conversation. I don't ever think it's a bad thing for people to discuss ways to enhance player comfort while also balancing matters with story integrity and the like. I'm generally great at digging up old threads, but I'm having trouble thinking of how to even start searching for that one.

Cheesecake is gross. Enjoy your LACK OF DOWNVOTES.

@Ghost said in GMs: Typical Player/GM Bad Habits:

I hesitate to say that maybe there's a better way, like include in the prp signup a quick one-sentence explanation of how their character would be involved. Probably wouldn't go over well though if PrP runners got to pick their players.

That's so fucking nuts to me. I know exactly what you mean, and you're right that people would get salty, but that salt would be straight-up bullshit. If a PRP runner has a lot of demand, they should be able to pick from the volunteers whoever might be best suited and most fun for the plot they have in mind. But I also hate the signup system that boils down to "first come, first serve," because it just favors -- whoever's online when the event gets announced.

@insomniac7809 said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

A friendly co-worker had a tragic loss last night.

I want to be clear that I'm not peeving at her, I'm peeving at myself for not being able to figure out what to say about her... I dunno if it's a full "crisis of faith," but definitely "why would this happen, she was such a good person" anxiety along with the grief.

Cheerfully nihilistic existentialism works for me but is incredibly unhelpful as regards comforting rhetoric.

IME? Just keep it simple. "It's really terrible that X happened to you. I'm so sorry. If you need anything, please let me know." In the end, just feeling like a person is there and sees you in your grief and recognizes it is the important thing. Don't trip over yourself trying to make it perfect; that often ends up with people retreating entirely because they don't know what to say.

@tek oh my god i know that feel SO HARD

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@Ghost said in Gray Harbor Discussion:

@Quinn said in Gray Harbor Discussion:

There were definitely non-straight people in 1941 Berlin

Oh, I'm sure there were! However a story about trying to write about living life as that character would please in an environment where they had to constantly risk being discovered and thus sent to a death camp would be less than enjoyable.

It might be enjoyable to someone? People like to write about different kinds of tension. It sounds like it wouldn't be something you'd enjoy, but that's not a universal. But in any case, this point:

On this particular topic, when it comes to LGBTQ, I think it's easy to assume that people matching those demographics existed during the era, but whether or not those demographics could be roleplayed in the open as accepted while maintaining historical integrity wouldn't be very feasible.

...is actually an entirely different conversation than the one people were talking about. It's definitely come up on the board in the past for people to chew over, talking about the value and feasibility of flexing history to set certain oppressions to the background, but it's not really related to the points that were being discussed. Which is more "these people have existed everywhere in every point of history, even if they haven't been publicly presenting as such."

I became friends with @saosmash back when she was in the early days of law school and honestly from an outside perspective the bar prep and exam process sounded like it was more miserable than law school itself.

@Ghost No, I already got the point you're making, which is about historical realism in presentation. My point is that the conversation prior was about allowing certain identities to exist at all, even in an entirely historically accurate way. Not for them to exist in an open, ahistorical way. It's the difference between "you can't play a gay person on this game" and "the historical realities of the time period mean that that character concept will face the obstacles and oppression that were seen in that day."

The conversational thread prior wasn't about whether or not people should be forced to bend their setting to be ahistorical. It was about the idea of not allowing certain fundamental types of identities to be played at all, sometimes despite them definitely existing.