This question reminds me of a character I sorta miss: a snarky, shapeshifter prostitute on Shang that... well, she existed for random drunken commentary.
She had what she called 'the Narcissist Special': she'd transform into a duplicate of whoever hired her, "for when you finally take that long-standing advice from multiple parties and decide to go fuck yourself."
No one ever took her up on it, yet... no one was properly offended when she suggested it, either, so... call it a draw?
@Admiral Since I've come up in your reasoning to have a dim view of them in that regard in the past, I need to make clear: there are zero issues I have with anyone there. I probably should have mentioned that ages ago, but I keep forgetting since it hasn't come up again.
(The problematic folks from the Reno Threeboot are not part of the current team.)
@mietze Yeah, that's definitely a thing. It's a thing in general, really: "I did something wrong, so now I am going to flail and gnash my teeth in such a dramatic and histrionic fashion that instead of you being mad at me, I'm going to make you feel sorry for me and console me." In a lot of cases, it's a negative consequences dodge.
Hate that garbage.
@mietze said in TS - Danger zone:
almost universally in RL and otherwise many folks find it super hard to ask for what they want out of a situation or proactively state boundaries.
And a lot of times, when (generic) you do state boundaries, people take issue with the very notion of (generic) you having boundaries, which does not make things any easier.
@RDC I totally get this. And in some way, as a GM, "Bob feels a creeping chill down his spine as..." vibes more like a crossing of agency boundaries than "You feel a creeping chill down your spine as... " does when conveying GM info, and it becomes difficult to write around one or the other being an issue.
At a table, we'd just say something like, "Bob, a moment before the monster appears, you feel a chill down your spine. Suzy, you see a shadow flit by above that catches your attention. Jack, you rolled for shit, so you're oblivious. Go!" This feels more natural in group scenes, even if it translates over.
...but this feels like, while we could do it that way on a game, it takes some of the flavor out of things, especially when -- when running something for an individual -- it's often about that flavor and detail. I guess it's possible to just pose for the world/NPCs and page that stuff or OOC comment it? But it feels like it puts a larger burden on the player for providing the bulk of the story writing there.
@Arkandel It's a valid question!
It's also one I never, ever want to know the answer to.
@magee101 said in Firan Secrets:
I just play those games with my RL partner now though, so I haven't need it on a MU in a long time, as in yah know sexy text times.
There's no M. Night flick-ending twist going on here, bud.
@magee101 You... do understand that not everyone engages in RP of sexual subject matter to fill their RL need for sexual stimulation/inspiration/contact/release, right?
All the 
for pics of black kitties on Halloween. (Happy Halloween, y'all!)
One of the furballs we're looking at to hopefully adopt is a black kitty, and she's adorable. We've been waiting to hear back from them to find out if she and her even poufier adorable sister are still with them. Fingers crossed!
@Coin I had trouble getting started on Van Helsing, but I was grateful once I did. Not sure why it was a bumpy start, but I know I tried three times before it really 'caught', despite finding it interesting each time.
The cast is pretty amazing, and it has managed to surprise me here and there, which is pretty rare for TV these days. (Christopher Heyerdahl alone needs to dull down the awesome so the rest of television can keep up just in general, seriously.)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vAoaksK9mZM
Costume geeks? You owe it to yourselves.
Our sadness over kitty is one thing.
Tesla -- our remaining kitty -- being the soul of sadness over her sister no longer being with us? Is truly breaking my heart.
She has always been our most social and affectionate kitty, and for her to be the last kitty standing is... oof. Oof, y'all.
When we adopted her and her sister at 3-5 years old -- we still don't know, nor did they -- we were told she hates people. Is antisocial. Will barely let you pet her, and don't even dream of picking her up. 'Should be considered purely decorative and will spend most of her time hiding.'
Wow, were they ever wrong.
She's the dearest trilly cuddleflouf ever, and seeing her like this is just... oof.
@RDC Probably for the best. We have also had our dustups in the past, but I'm happy to see the you you've been lately around here. You sound much healthier and happier, and that is good stuff.
@Meg I have done things RL just as crappy, knowingly or not.
I'll totally talk about her private business right now: I firmly believe she had no idea at the time and people should not consider this intentional wrongdoing on her part.
I felt bad for her, and I still feel bad for all parties involved.
@Meg said in How to put an end to whisper game attacks?:
@surreality I don't think this is constructive. I don't think it's fair to say that this thread doesn't belong in the hogpit. I mean, you did just accuse someone of sleeping with a man with a fiancee. I don't think there's any situation in which this thread gets constructive from there.
When she's talking about who I told about her sex life? That is who I told, when they inquired about the apology. The end. Yes, it does look a little different in it's real context than 'she ran around gossiping about my love life' as she has chosen to present it, but that is simply the reality of the situation.
ETA: This is something I never would have chosen to bring up publicly on the board. There's a reason I contacted her privately as she describes: to prevent exactly this, after she began bringing this up in public elsewhere.
@OldFrightful I haven't actually mentioned anything about this situation since the mess a year or so ago, at which point I considered it closed.
I have seen the 'tag team gossip and attack' behavior persist, however. Not on my end. I said I was done with it, and I'm done with it, have been since.
@Meg I have specifically asked that not happen. If mods need to smack or edit something, that's a better course of action here.
Her current mode is already 'dogpile with attacks'. Let's try not to enable that.
I was asked, at the time this all happened a year ago, by the fiancee of this person about the matter, as they were already aware of something going on, and were unsure if it was true or false. (I still don't know myself and was clear about this at the time.) That's who got the information and why; it did not go further by my hands.
I do not deny this for an instant.
Anyone who thinks of me as a monster is welcome to do so; it was no different than the screenshots shared with others in this conversation regarding things said about them, my own culpability wholly included.
I told you I did not go throwing this information around in whispers, and I don't. That I was making amends to others for my part in doing wrong to them was very well known at the time and no secret to anyone. That incident was not exempt.
Yes, other people knew about it at the time. Any time any of those people inquired with me prior to this, they were directed to you, full stop.
After you decided to go around making up craziness and spreading it to every discord circle in creation about me, when I was doing things like gathering up home goods for your new place and trying to be supportive of you without saying a bad word about you to anyone and telling others they shouldn't listen to the gossip about you and to give you a chance?
Yeah, you caused a lot of hurt with that garbage behavior. You don't care about any of that, though, and never have. You've never been sorry for any of the harm you did, and you continue to engage in the same behavior without a shred of remorse. (Spoiler alert: I don't. I learned my lesson.)
You want everyone to overlook it, but they should not. You hurt a lot of other people, too, and worse, you used me to hurt other people.
I still haven't forgiven myself for that, because I should have been smarter than that and realized that someone who constantly talks as much ugly trash about people as you do was doing it to me, too. But that isn't even really the problem. That would simply be fair play, all told! Listen to someone burn a bunch of people, you better damned well expect they're doing it to you, too.
There was one key difference: for a long time, I thought, 'well, at least it's real ugly things these people did' until I saw how completely unfettered from reality the things you were saying about me were and realized that the accusations and gossip about others was very likely to be similarly untrue. I am still horrified with myself for believing any of the things you said about others, because it made clear just how little you care about the truth, and how intent you are on causing genuine harm to others.
Hell, after the crap you said about the personal RL relationships between others on the forum for months, you sure have some nerve acting like this is the worst thing that could ever be done to a person when you violated multiple people for kicks in precisely the same way on record.
@thesuntsar Ghost was mentioned as someone currently blocked for taking part in the current round of garbage.
@tek Tell you what. There are screenshots floating around somewhere of the kinds of things Auspice was drumming up with others about me at length without my knowledge for months before any of the above occurred. If you don't believe people attempt character assassination in this hobby for trivial (or no) reasons, please be careful and vigilant. They absolutely do. You are a decent person and I would not want to see the same things happen to you.
Sadly, block doesn't hide the little icon in the 'replies' at the bottom of the post. 
It does remove the post's placement entirely, unlike ignore, though.
I do remember what you're talking about, too, Roz -- and it's good to know where it was coming from, even if it's much later. That was kind of you.
Broadly, I have concerns about this person's behavior kicking off again (or never having stopped) since they were quite successful in their smear campaign the last time around. That concern is increased due to their constant posting, along with that of the two people who pile in to enable and encourage them to do so.
I can't fault people who don't know me from a hole in the wall from believing whatever -- I did the same thing. This trio seems increasingly emboldened to attempt to define me to others not just in whispers, but increasingly all over the board. 'You always... ' '...find an example, because no?' <no example is found> has happened numerous times now, for instance. The 'let's see if we can find a way to label her a bigot!' game being played is especially horrid, since it plays into that 'use people's best intentions against someone' manipulation that I know I fell for myself.
Sorry, you three. I define me. My actions define me, for better or worse. Your nasty speculations that you whisper up amongst yourselves that you bring here and present as objective fact on a regular basis are not OK, and that shit should stop.
ETA: And in case it's been long enough that this specific has become unclear, I made disclosure/amends to people after I had been smeared up one side and down the other and realized they had been doing the same to others for ages to me, inspiring me to go after them in ways I should not have done. I had done nothing whatsoever to the person who is 'so hurt' when they were running around making claims that 'the only reason they and another long time friend deigned to speak to me was because I wasn't finished their wiki' (huh?), that I was harassing people (who went 'huh?' themselves when presented with this information), and encouraging another cluster of folks to circle-jerk about what a horrible monster I was on a regular basis for a long time.
There's the initial hurt and harm.
I don't ask for sympathy or pity for it, but this person shouldn't forget that's how they behaved when I was going out of my way to be a good friend to them at the time.
