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@kanye-qwest said in Forgiveness in Mushing:

I forgive people on and off line when they take responsibility and show dedication to change.

How often that happens is /shrug

Same, but I'm learning what change I'm willing to accept is sometimes part of the problem. I don't think I'm the only one, as evidence how often I still hear people say things like, "Well if only they did something different..."

Well they didn't, so what are you going to do about it? Because at the end of the day, what happens next is not just up to them, but ourselves, and we have control of only one of those two factors.

Accepting the situation is something that I think too few people strive for. I constantly try to improve, and it frustrates me when I think I have no progress in this field.

Follow-Up from my much earlier turnaround: D’Arcy Carden is an amazing actress.

If you are not watching The Good Place, then what are you doing with your life?

I...I just learned about this!

rtalsoriangames
JANUARY 25, 2018 AT 1:00 PM
Actually we have a new updated Cyberpunk 2020 edition coming up called Cyberpunk Red. There will be updates. It will primarily be Fuzion.

Red? RED? Get it?!

I'm at the same time nervous and excited with giddy anticipation. It seems to be planned to release alongside CP2077 of course.

Where have I been for the past 10 1/2 months?

I've been watching Maniac on Netflix, and I am in love with it. Holy shit Jonah Hill. Holy shit Emma Stone. It's the closest I've seen anyone come to Brazil, with less social commentary and a more modern take on surrealism, plus a deep, satisfying pacing. Its writing style reminds me of Moon.

@tempest said in Constructive (keyword) Criticism of Arx Systems:

Creating an echo chamber seems like a bad idea.

That's constructive criticism.

Agreed, but here's what's going against the Echo Chamber theory:

• 100+ Players
• Feedback from people who are engaging the system

Here's what's going for it:

• People who don't like Arx aren't playing it
• Once the feedback is given, there's no discourse
• (edit, someone reminded me) Arx is kind of ban-happy against nay-sayers

I have my own reasons to not trust Arx staff; they are varied and well-documented and I won't repeat them here.

That Arx staff believed that this thread was for them was their first mistake; the person starting this thread is not an Arx staffer, and so their farewell from this thread was entirely for themselves. Nothing wrong with this, though it was a bit of a polite middle-finger to the existence of this thread.

I'm honestly not surprised nor phased by it.

This thread is for us, Soapbox posters, to play around with the ideas of systems of a game. That's it. As I said before, anyone who thinks anything more or less of this thread is probably fooling themselves.

We're all fools from time to time.

If any one person takes this conversation and makes a system with this as feedback, then this thread is a win. Arx doesn't do things perfectly. Nobody does. But we can take what Group A does and apply them to Group B. We can talk and discuss and invent and that's pretty goddamn amazing.

If Arx staff was getting too emotional about it, then it's for the best for everyone that they've taken their ball and gone home.

So...how about that prestige, eh?

Lady, if your pre-teen girls are coming up in my face playing the "I'm Not Touching You" game, doesn't make them exempt from the "My Angry Snarling Is Also Not Touching Them" game. In fact it makes the opposite. One of the two of us is legally responsible for their behavior, and it's not me.

@wizz said in Constructive (keyword) Criticism of Arx Systems:

Arx aside, we've had some great discussions here......... ere these many years gone

Discussion here would be great if it weren't for everyone involved.

Because we're not pretending this is a thread about Dead Celebrities:

@Ganymede said in Dead Celebrities 2019:

Not to unnecessarily politicize,

Was it necessary, though? Was it?

the state of culture and religion in the United States.

The only good thing religion has ever done was give people structure and hope. Give me a minute and I'll come up with the list of harms it has done. But there's one gigantic reason I won't:

People need structure and hope. Without these, there's no chance for any society.

Notre Dame? It is too many things to let burn down, and even I was angry at the mere thought that it might've been arson. (I'm holding onto the belief that it wasn't.)

Like Sparks, I'm angry about the St. Landry situation even though I just learned about it, because no innocent people deserve to have their culture attacked just for being different. Donation: Complete.

I may believe that God is dead (long before 2019), but good people deserve to thrive.

@tinuviel said in criticism not allowed in ad threads is only enforcing a false positive, prove me wrong:

@paris said in criticism not allowed in ad threads is only enforcing a false positive, prove me wrong:

If there are any important updates

If the updates are important enough, they can post a new ad.

I disagree on this one. Advertisements should absolutely include, "We're now including x!" This keeps the advertisement pure and the board clean.

@Auspice said in Random funny:

Today I saw a car with a sticker on it that said 'Actual Size'

That's funny.

@faraday said in criticism not allowed in ad threads is only enforcing a false positive, prove me wrong:

Not stomping all over their game advertisement is one way to do this.

Is "stomping all over their game advertisement thread" a hundred posts about what character you'd make for a game? Because coming back to the topic title of this thread: Criticism not allowed in ad threads is only enforcing a false positive.

I...mostly tried not to be doom-saying. Mostly. I was surprised when anyone said I had succeeded. I had four people independently contact me warning me away from the people running the game for doing what I accused them of doing, so is it hyperbolic reaction or a topical rant?

I'll pull out the tiresome "agree to disagree" on that, because everyone is going to come at the information from their own experience (which is good) or to shut down the complaint (which is not).

No game creators should get a free pass from criticism. No criticism should get a free pass from criticism. The problem with Soapbox is when it becomes unconstructive, and what we consider unconstructive will always waver.

I had a shitty experience on a game. 90% of that was my fault, but the 10% that wasn't was confirmed by others. Should I not say anything, knowing that there's bad actors lurking on a game? (In before people tell me that I should be better at saying so. Thanks, I know that.)

But you're going to disagree. You see the world as being something that can be polite and calm, and I envy you for it. I get angry when people aren't polite and calm, becoming my own worst enemy, but as criticism not allowed in ad threads is only enforcing a false positive, I'm going to stand my ground on this one.

Either 'ad and updates by the poster only', or make it part of the constructive forums in general.

There needs to be an addictive help group that is not antagonistic towards athiests.

@too-old-for-this said in criticism not allowed in ad threads is only enforcing a false positive, prove me wrong:

@thenomain The human kind. Honestly? I think we're all more critical of each other on the forum than we normally would be. I don't think there's any one particular reason for it, either, its just a thing that happens for a number of different and changing reasons.

It's Wora Culture:

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And @Paris, I thank you, I really do, but as many people have said, it's up to me to fix. I won't ask for volunteers, I feel horribly bad talking to friends, because they have their own problems. I feel like shit 99% of the time that I'm not good enough, that I'm not calm enough, that I'm not living up to my potential, that I've failed people who have trust in me, and even through all that I've never publicly mentioned any of this on the board because that's not going to change who I am.

Apos has it 90% right. As knowing is only half the battle, and nobody can be reasonably asked upon to help, then one has to at the very least give understanding that people are who they are.

And here we are, with a keyboard and an audience and how easy is it to be to bang out a frustration, with no consideration to what's being said. Even people who are not aged Woraites fall into it, because that's the Done Thing.

I hate it as much as I hate myself for participating in it.

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@rucket said in criticism not allowed in ad threads is only enforcing a false positive, prove me wrong:

You're not alone in noticing a circle jerk of defensive behavior in this whole situation.

Meg was honest about it.

KQ hit the breaks on it.

Saosmash talked to me in private about it.

Apos...was Apos about it.

It's easy to like your friends and think they're the bee's knees. I personally consider the +1 harmless most of the time. As long as nobody takes it seriously, the worst of it is that people congratulate each other.

One of the first things that happened on The Reach was Roanoke removed friends of his from staff for harassing another player for playing blatantly gay characters. Seeing your friends in an honest light is hard.

Everyone I consider a friend has the ability, and has on multiple occasions, told me when I've crossed the line without doing so in defensive of something they like. It's the difference between "you're being shit toward me by attacking something I like" and "you have no right to dislike things I like".

(You were right @skew. Sorry.)

I have just as much right to dislike things as everyone else has the right to like them. Where I was wrong was not in that I had a complaint, it's how the complaint came out.

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The Main Complaint: If you do not know me, do not tell me what I think, what I like, or what I want. You have no intrinsic right to do this to anyone, let alone me. I feel that Spirit Lake staff, in their understandable frustration, betrayed this, which means they may betray this to others.

I may be wrong. I hope to god that I'm wrong. It comes with the context of "understandable frustration", but there you go.

No, you don't get any more proof. Take my word or not. Think critically. Be a responsible netizen.

Do not fear the Shitty First Draft.

Guess who was bribed into coding CtL 2e for his CoD system?

Me. It was me.

No exposed code yet because I'm still working on how to do Contracts, and I need to make Clarity a health system.

The system is otherwise very straightforward.

@BigDaddyAmin

One of the things that bugs me about "they are not us" is that it goes both ways. If they, whomever "they" are, cannot accept that we are not them then I have a reduced sympathy. Nobody should get in trouble for that situation, and yeah that kind of overriding hospitality mentality happens here and there in the US, too.

Yes, this is why it's called a culture clash, and no, this does not excuse the West for being aloof to the differences either. But I should no more be punished for enjoying Fallout 4 than ... Well, fill in your favorite analogy here.

That said, I don't think killing innocent people is a culture that we should accept, no matter the differences. Even if that culture is our own.

Data Entry people.

Thank you thank you one million times thank you. I cannot stand doing data entry, so everyone who volunteers to do this, know that without you we would be a whole lot more miserable.

@Lithium said in RL Anger:

Nobody is saying ALL Men are /anything/ just like nobody is saying all of any <insert subset here> is anything.

Then people need to stop saying things like, "Why do men...", because it's no less offensive than saying "why can't women drive". That is, it's pretty fucking insulting all around. If we fought this long and hard to strike this kind of question from our cultural vocabulary, then people aren't doing the world any favors by bringing it back in.

No, they are just propagating the underlying issue by turning it around on perceived aggressors. They need to fucking stop.

If they don't mean "everyone", then we need to stop seeing videos like "17 Questions for Men". Why not something more informative like "17 Questions for Bigots". If you can't make your message clear, then you need to change your message.

The reason it is so fucking offensive is because it is statements like that that are used as a shield against awareness. It's a response that serves no purpose because it deflects from the actual problem at hand, and that is that /some/ of these people /are/.

Yes, this is my complaint. Take what you're saying and now view it from all sides, ask yourself how you would act if the issue was pointed at your gender. (This was 100% of the point in the videos Tyche linked to.) Get out of whatever self-described label you're in and think. Otherwise, you are acting just like you're accusing Tyche of acting like.

The real answer needs to be:

How do we make this problem go away?

Yes, but as long as people--MRA, Militant Feminists, whomever--are mis-phrasing the issue, then coming to a consensus like this is going to be impossible.

If the answer to the issue is "not me", there's more evidence that the issue is being phrased poorly. That this has been the statement/response for a decade means that people are having a time approaching it critically. It's kind of creepy to me, and smacks of cultish behavior. Super creepy.

In summary, if even you can't explain why "Not All Men" is offensive (you haven't, really), then I invoke my right to call you out on promoting propaganda. If your objection is that it means that whatever is Not My Problem, then welcome to the real world. Support your thesis. Stop relying on a movement which makes enemies out of reasonable people.

@Kanye-Qwest said in When To Stop Listening To Those Voices:

@Thenomain said in When To Stop Listening To Those Voices:

PHB (Psycho House-Beast)

Here's a term that should go back to the 90s. And then the 90s should go to jail.

Hah, House-Beast. Editing it to Hose-Beast.

Also, why?

Edit: Looked it up out of curiosity. Never knew it had a female use. I’ve always used it gender-neutral.

“Absolute Fucking Basket Case”, then.

“Control Freak With No Self-Control”, perhaps.

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