Speaking of apologies, I've come to realize I've been responding to them entirely wrong my entire life. I always have responded with 'it's okay', which it wasn't, otherwise there wouldn't have been anything to apologize for to begin with, when I should have just been saying 'thank you'.
Well, I've been quiet lately, not really having kept up with the site since the move and all the discourse of the past few days besides the basic premises. I've caught enough to know that this could get deleted by admin and/or banned, which I'm fine with. I do hope that admin will read this and, if nothing else, take a moment to reflect upon all of what has been going on and the maybe behind the why people are feeling the way they are.
Derp: As I am the type of person who usually only check for things in threads that might pertain to me or are direct responses to me, mostly for the preservation of my mental health, I'm largely ignorant as to what Derp has done to earn the ire of people, especially in light of his having made admin. But that's not really the point of anything. What is the point is that people have come to staff with concerns over his addition to the staff here and they are being wholly ignored. People are not comfortable with his past behavior and are trying to point out that they think he's a poor choice for an admin and are either being forced to decide to leave or are being banned. Definitely not the way things used to be. This is very sad and I am confused as to why the person in charge is seemingly indifferent to the negative impact it's having on MSB.
Freedom of Speech: (Yes, I know that freedom of speech doesn't apply here, but it's the only way I could think to 'lable' this point.) In the past, we have had the blessing of pretty much being able to say what we wanted to, as long as we followed the few rules there were that made a lot of sense. But now I feel like MSB has become some kind of police state, and our ability to say what's on our minds and to voice our worries and concerns have been stripped from us. I think that is sad. It is like we're now living some kind of distopian, fucked up 1984 thing where Big Brother's watching us and our very words can get us taken out. Quite a 180 from how things used to be. I can only speak for myself, but I don't feel comfortable with that idea and the idea of having to tread carefully out of fear of pissing admin off.
Bans: I think this deserves am emphatically typed 'WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK!?'. Adding to the police state vibes this site now has, people are being banned for continually trying to get their points acrtoss about whatever subject they're feeling whatever way about. I get that there were a lot of posts made in what was a relatively short amount of time, and Ganymede asked for people to stop, but let's be a little realistic here. People who are feeling like they're not being listened to are not going to be quiet. They are going to be quite the opposite they are going to yell and shout and act out until they begin to feel like they're being noticed. So maybe, instead of kicking people off of the site admin should've met with those who were/are angry and listen to them? Maybe not right now, but hopefully it would've been in something of a timely manner? I dunno. Maybe it's naive of me to think that could've been a good idea.
Gany: I am going to start this with saying I like you. We have played together on several mu*s over the year and I feel we have established something of a friendly rapport despite not really interacting when we weren't RPing. That is why I want to directly address you. I am sure all of this turmoil sucks to have to go through, and I am sorry if this post only serves to add to whatever stress you might be having to deal with, so I'll keep this short. Please reconsider everything that you've said or done over the last few days, okay? Because, as the way things stand, nothing good is going to come out of anything.
Alright. So. I guess this was my last hurrah before I say goodbye. No need to ban me. I'm leaving my key right here on the table and am locking the door on my way out. To those I call friend, love all of you wacky people. Stay in touch, please. Anyone I fought with and/or kind of wind up becoming enemies with? Eh, it was what it was. Hope y'all have a nice life. Anyone who wants to get ahold of me knows how to do so and has permission to give other people my contact information if they wish to do so.
To close this out, have a paraphrased quote - It's been real, and it's been fun, but lately it hasn't been real fun.
So long and thanks for all the fish.
TE
@A-B said in Tips for not wearing out your welcome:
And I take it that by "calmly" you mean "pretending to be calm"?
Not to speak for @Cupcake, but in most social things, calmly means rationally and like an adult. You can still feel whatever way you feel about something or whatever, but calmly means you're not flying off the handle, exploding, going off and throwing tantrums, etc.
I want to add my two cents on something @Groth said. MU*ing is not a good way to learn social and/or communication skills. Period. Text is horrible for picking up social clues. You can't really grasp intent easily, at all. Sarcasm is a bitch to pick up on, even for people who are adept at social stuff... look. Someone wants to learn social skills? They need to go out into the real world and interact with people who are more than a bunch of typed words on a screen.
I got into streaming Mass Effect 2 after having it for several years (got it for free from Origin when they were still giving free games away). I never thought I'd get into a game like that like I have, but... holy hell. I really do like it.
As of Friday, I am a Twitch Affiliate. This is something that I am very proud to have accomplished as it means I'll be able to help my family out here and there. I know not to expect the BIG BUCKS!!! some full time streamers are fortunate enough to make, but it should be enough to maybe help with food and bills and maybe even give us some mad money so we can do fun things.
Thank you to all for everything, from the information and advice and the offer of someone to talk to. I am sorry for not saying thank you before now, but I really was in my feels, as that saying goes, and got myself into a bit of a funk as a result. But I do appreciate everything.
Good news is that he'll hopefully be home soon. The doctor's doing the right thing by not rushing him out the door too soon and I am grateful that is the case. I spoke to my son today and he seriously sounded like a different person in a good way. He was accepting of the fact that he was going to have to stay for a little while where that news a couple days ago sent him into a tizzy and caused him to hang up on me (he did end the call abruptly, but only because I made him emotional by calling him brave). He even asked about his brother, saying how he misses him, and asked me to let his daddy know he misses him, too. There is a long road ahead of us to get the rest of the things done, but we're getting there, slowly but surely.
As interesting as a topic as this is, I think we've derailed things and gotten away from the point of this thread.
This is the first time since my husband moved to Florida for work that he'll be home for the holidays. Won't be here on Christmas Day, and he'll only be able to be here for a couple days, but I am beyond thrilled.
I got paid so am holding onto my money so I can take my guys out for a nice dinner, but beyond that I think we're just staying home and relaxing and getting a few things done that need to be taken care of. Will be a lovely way to celebrate this year's yule.
I don't make this known outside of certain circles often but my oldest is autistic. So someone doing that is offensive to me.
So yes. I am fucking serious.
ETA: Why are my feelings on the subject being questioned to begin with, especially after having explained why I found it offensive in the post you quoted me in? It isn't like I'm playing SJW or anything like that. Autism is something we have had to struggle with for pretty much his entire 20 years of life and is something that strikes close to my heart.
Okay. So, since I have history with this person, I feel like it's my responsibility to share it if only to keep people from falling for his line of horse shit:
I came to BSO first as Cassie, a pilot who wound up befriending/befriended by Zachary. I likewise struck up a friendship with his player. At first everything seemed pretty cool, we skyped (and too many lines were crossed that are best left unmentioned) and got to the point where he started to confide in me. At first it was his lamenting how the staffer who played his NPC wife wasn't playing her anymore and we both convinced her to let me play her instead. That was so wrong of us to do that and I know that in hindsight, but I wanted Zach's player to be happy as I want that for anyone I consider a friend. If I am remembering correctly, I was later told by someone - might've been her original player or maybe it was someone who was in the know, I do not remember now - that the reason his wife was no longer being played because he was harassing them OOCly.
Towards the end of my original stint on the mu*, Zach started to mention how he felt like staff hated him and they were conspiring against him, andhe was going to leave the game. He had me so turned around that I believed him despite having known Dropkick from RPing with him on Hestia and such and I left BSO to play on another game with him. Two or maybe three months passed before it came to light that he was OOCly harassing someone there, too. It was that time when I cut all ties with him and returned to Orion, tail tucked between my legs as I was truly afraid that no one would want me back after what happened. DK and everyone welcomed me back, thankfully and things went on.
So yeah. He's a manipulator. He's a liar (he had told me he was in the Army and was injured in the Middle East, something I doubted but never asked for proof of, as an example). He will play the victim to try and gain sympathy and support only to then turn into some psycho asshole . He is absolutely someone who needs to be avoided at all costs.
I love forgetting I entered a giveaway, only to then be notified that I won.
Being on a game that allows the players to make huge actions as their characters without making them jump through fucking flaming hoops of fiery death and shit.
For as much as I've complained about money, I can finally say we're pretty much caught up on bills. So figured I'll celebrate that fact by commissioning some arty stuff from friends to improve my stream.
Trying to get the thread back on topic:
The game is a lot of fun. I have a couple alts already, and a third in CG. The theme scratches several itches of mine (like how I've been wanting to RP as a Sky Captain-inspired pilot character) and, at its core, is enough to pick up enough to make getting into RP easy.
