$500 sounds super reasonable for a database migration. I'd offer to do it, as migrating databases is part of my day job, but I'm not familiar with the forum board code enough to think I could do it in a timely fashion.
I vote we get in touch with the migration team, see if this price still stands, and then collect donations.
@macha said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
@tributary Hey, School/Office Supplies are also exciting.
Good. I've decided that in honor of the gender binary being bullshit, I am buying myself another set of rainbow colored pens. Or maybe some cute notebooks to sit in my queue of cute notebooks that might someday get used.
Personally, I message @Sparks about 2 days before I have to fly somewhere and make her tell me what I should download onto my Kindle. Then I buy a ton of books all at once and read them over the following months. Then I buy the series or sequels if they exist.
Eventually I run out of books, and I flail until @Sparks answers my messages again.
It's a system. It's maybe not a great system, but it's a system.
I thought the point of moving to this new incarnation of the board was so that we didn't lose all of the old history.
Where is it?
If it will not be coming up at this site once more, is it possible to get a backup of the database or something so that it may be archived elsewhere?
If this is noted elsewhere, please let me know. I've been feverish and semi-conscious for at least three days now and everything here is very confusing and not very straightforward. Especially since there seem to be Hog Pit threads in Mildly Constructive, and that seems broken at best. Or have we decided it's all the Hog Pit? Because that seems a bit ass backwards, considering that was an opt-in space.
@auspice How on earth does Publix not have ham? Why would you leave the store without ham? Ham is so fucking basic. Trust me, Publix has ham somewhere. GO BUY ME SOME FUCKING HAM, INSTACART SHOPPER.
When 2E comes out, I will acquire it, read it, and make a decision then. It is too soon for me to make the call.
Until then, we are going to play our game happily with 1E.
So hold your damn horses. This decision will not be made lightly or impulsively.
@derp Okay, thank you.
If in your deliberations you decide that you do not want that stuff here, I would be happy to take a backup off your hands so as to archive it somewhere. I am assuming that by the time a decision is made, I will be coherent enough to manage such a thing. Database migration is a part of my day job, after all.
@Quinn Life and work are going to be like that. A PhD always takes longer than you think it should. Always. And then 40% of your elderly committee dies, and two of the three remaining won't talk to the third, and you get a job in industry and start thinking, "Maybe I don't need a PhD for my career..."
@betternow said in GMs and Players:
@greenflashlight said in GMs and Players:
If a game's policy is that any claim of harassment must be proven with incontrovertible evidence, then that means we are comfortable beginning from the position that people who report abuse cannot be trusted, right? That they are liars or, at least, too mentally incompetent to understand what other players are doing to them. Since such people are so untrustworthy, their reports must be investigated, correct? That's the only reasonable thing to do. No one's saying they're liars, just that they can't be trusted.
That is not what anyone here has been saying. That's twisting words, and pretty much the EXACT kind of gaslighting they're referring to. I am sure I'll be chewed up for this but VASpider, DownwithOPP and yes, even Ruiz, all practiced this exact thing. It's how they get AWAY with abusing people, by turning the accusations onto the VICTIM, and having staffers BELIEVE THEM over the actual people they are hurting. By not asking people for actual proof of the abuse.
I speak from experience, and if Cobalt were still active she could confirm, that this is precisely what VASpider did on Darkwater, the first iteration of the game, where she literally told staff several players were being abusive to her. Those several players weren't even really interacting with her, and certainly not abusively, and had no idea of who she actually was.
This came down to an apology from Cobalt to me years later when Darkwater 2.0 was made, and a personal invitation to come play there.
I hope this helps with the distinction of "letting abusers run free" and "actually making sure the accused is the abuser".
It's true. And as I recall (but I barely recall, as it was long ago), staff looked into things and eventually got to the point where it was obvious that VASpider was the problem. Then we politely told her to leave, because she could not conduct herself in a manner appropriate for fostering the community we desired on Darkwater.
(Cobalt is alive and well, doing things other than mushing. Mostly taking care of a very large puppy.)
@fang You have been sent in-game mail with the code for this:
@too-old-for-this said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff
@Deviante Yeeeeeeeeeeees. Sorta like how I watch House Hunters. I love hearing what the couples each do for a living, and what their 'budget' is. XD
"My husband is a professional dog walker, and I used to teach kindergarten, but with our first baby on the way, I've decided to give into my passion in art. We've got a real strict budget of $1,200,000, and I'm so excited to see what we can do!"
@faraday said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
This is a kid who is literally in tears over math homework because there's an insurmountable wall of awful in front of them that's keeping them from reaching their goals.
When I was a kid, my third grade teacher made us do word searches for spelling problems and I hated it. I thought it was pointless and stupid and awful, and complaining to my mother only resulted in her telling me, "Word searches are fun!"
Homework is awful as a child. It's just awful. And while I understand practicing things like speed math and handwriting, for the most part, it's unnecessary.
One of my big coping strategies for dealing with tasks I didn't like was to work with a group. This works better in college, where study groups are more of a thing. If other people are working with purpose, it helps keep me on task. Even if they're not, just having someone there to be a minor distraction helps.
Anecdotal example: When I taught university, I found grading exams to be utterly excruciating. I loathed it. If I had time to do oral one-on-ones for 250 people 4 times a semester, I sure as fuck would have. But no, so it was paper exams. So after every exam, I'd take my friend Jen out to lunch somewhere that would tolerate us taking up a table for 3 hours. And she'd sit and chat and read while I graded, and the work would get done.
Another anecdotal example: One of my students had ADD, and she had an official testing accommodation that said she needed her exams printed on yellow paper. Why? Because she'd basically formed a coping strategy that allowed her to focus on yellow paper as priority. She took her notes on yellow paper. I once left her exam, printed on its yellow paper, on my office printer, and I was so crestfallen when I realized where it was that she just smiled in delight at me for understanding how important it was and told me she'd just take it on white. Because I had, of course, offered to leave a room of 90 other students taking exams to run fetch it.
@horrorhound said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
Ehhhhh. Idk man. The engineers who make theme parks are reeeeeeaaaaaal fond of CAD and whine a bunch when they get paradox from Reality.
I've done CAD on and off for 20 years now. I put myself through college doing AutoCAD drafting. I had a position for awhile where I used AutoLISP and VBA to make AutoCAD and Microsoft Office communicate very smoothly so that I could do my job in like 2 hours and then read my book for the next 6. I still do some CAD work, freelance now.
I am super judgmental about CAD drawings.
Because I've seen a lot of garbage produced by a variety of different shops, and it's clear every time you get a bad drawing that someone didn't understand anything about the software they were using. Finding things in an ostensibly 2-D drawing that don't connect because someone drew them three feet off the ground -- not that they go there, but whoever drew it had somehow screwed up a setting and said, "Whatever, it prints fine." Trying to figure out why the scale of a drawing is off and discovering it only works if you set the program to measure metric but give it Imperial measurements. Noting you cannot fit equipment into a closet, much less leave a 6" clearance, because an architect disregarded an engineer's requirements.
Generally, in my experience, people are so bad at CAD that they don't understand why their CAD doesn't correspond to Reality because they think CAD is infallible. The computer is only as smart as the user.
@kestrel said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
But the therapy I see recommended for ADHD is CBT, and my awareness of the history and proliferation of it in modern psychology leads me to be very sceptical of it.
I have done CBT with a therapist who didn't stand to profit from it in any way, and I had a really good experience with it. I was really functional for months and months afterwards, but I've found that not practicing at it means that I don't do the mindful things I'm supposed to be doing.
You can buy your own CBT workbook off of Amazon (or your local bookseller) for about $30. Some of the things in it will apply to you, and some just won't. Make sure your therapist is not an idiot who insists on following the book even when it doesn't make sense. Also, maybe don't buy from the therapist directly.
I mean, I could also pull my copy of the workbook off my bookshelf and submit some exercises semi-regularly here, sort of like group therapy. It is the kind of thing that you do want to spread out, because you want to try to practice some of the mindfulness exercises regularly. Like, for a week or so, before you up the challenge.
I feel like CBT is a great structure to use if you have a good therapist, but it's not perfect. I would definitely do it again, just to refresh it all.
I have updated with what I am currently playing. You can find me now in games.
My first thought was that I wanted to play a baker who makes cinnamon rolls as big as your head at a family cafe. It sounds like there are others who are also into the family cafe business. Let us put something together so that we are not running sixteen competing coffee shops.
(Or maybe I will go the easy route and volunteer to play @Roz's ex and spend a lot of RP time having delightful arguments with @Roz.)
@thatguythere I also had one of those situations in college with an answering machine. The only people who ever called that number were our moms. (Our friends texted our limited talk-time mobiles.)
We did change the greeting to: "You've reached [Rachael] and [Monica]. If you're not calling for [Rachael] or [Monica], please don't leave a message. Otherwise, hi, mom, your daughter will call you back later."
One day, we got a message that went, "Hey. I know her name isn't on the answering machine, but if you guys can get in touch with Sandy, tell her that Melissa is looking for her. It's really important."
You can't win!
