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[Catsmeow]

@surreality

As I'm pretty terrified petrified freaked the fuck out not really a fan of dolls, the idea that I have to dress them daily or the doll feels --- makes me uncomfortable. I suddenly do not want that doll under my bed either.

I do have a friend that is sort of a collector and I hear it all the time. I think it's creative, but it is ... strange.

[surreality]

@Catsmeow They started making fantasy creatures and whatnot. This was a case of SHUT UP AND JUST TAKE MY MONEY YOU BASTARDS!!!

I have a doll Anubis lurking in the back of a closet somewhere as a result. And am sad I missed the Bast in broke mode.

[Arkandel]

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[mietze]

Wellll I guess now I have the answer as to why ever since I had children flying makes me anxiety riddled (despite loving to fly as a kid/teen/young adult)--- I thought it was me, but really it's the kids.

I am going to put my eldest on a plane to New Orleans from Seattle tomorrow until Sunday and I have had 4 panic attacks and a bunch of dry heaves in the last 48 hours. Luckily dad can drive the carpool so I don't freak her out with my freaking out.

She is going to have a great time. I love that she gets to have this experience of solo-ish travel as she will be entering high school this fall. I always feel like I ripped my kids off because they have lived in the same house since birth, while at my eldest's age now I has lived in 3 countries and 11 US states.

I trust the people she's traveling with and staying with. But I still want to hurl, pass out, and have a coronary all at once!

[Tinuviel]

@mietze said in RL Anger:

I am going to put my eldest on a plane to New Orleans from Seattle tomorrow until Sunday

That is a rather long flight.

[A. Meowley]

@Tinuviel: Oh pfft, it's not tremendously long (& how is exploring the flight duration helpful?).

@Catsmeow, it's awesome that you're able to not dish all your fears onto your kid, & she gets to go on an adventure with friends. Such a great way for her to navigate growing up. Best of luck for her, & you during the trip!

[Tinuviel]

@A.-Meowley re-read what I was quoting, and you'll understand what I said.

[Catsmeow]

@A.-Meowley

Um... that was @mietze

[ThatOneDude]

@Tinuviel said in RL Anger:

@mietze said in RL Anger:

I am going to put my eldest on a plane to New Orleans from Seattle tomorrow until Sunday

That is a rather long flight.

@Tinuviel Mine flew from SF to Kuwait alone... Easy money.

[Catsmeow]

I think @Tinuviel meant that the flight was going to last /tomorrow through Sunday/. I don't think he meant the actual distance.

[SparklesTheClown]

My parents are staying here while their new house gets ready for them to move into it (here being my grandmother's house).

I'm already irritable.

I legitimately hate my life and my parents make me wish I didn't exist.

[Deleted]

My entire family recently cut me off over a bad online review.

I'm just about done with family as well.

[surreality]

@HelloProject said in RL Anger:

I legitimately hate my life and my parents make me wish I didn't exist.

Sometimes, I think this is the purpose of parents. If it weren't for the people I know in the hobby who are amazing parents, and the few friends I've had who had awesome ones, I'd think this was a universal.

@Admiral said in RL Anger:

My entire family recently cut me off over a bad online review.

...this actually beats my family for crazy by a mile. That is not easy. What in the actual hell, man. What happened?

[Misadventure]

@Admiral A review of you, or by you? Or by you, of them?

[Deleted]

My sister bumped my appointments every time I would set one with her to cut my hair. I drive 4-5 hours to visit family, sleep, then go to get my hair done by her the next day. She knows it's my only time to get it done so she uses my appointment as her 'squeeze other clients in' time, since I'm family and she knows I'll wait.

She knows I'll wait, and pay her 20 dollars for a haircut, plus 10-20 dollar tip, plus take the family out to eat after. Well, this time I had enough after she bumped me for a -DYE JOB-. Which is... a long ass time. 1.5-2 hours. She expected me to wait the whole damn time in her lobby. I told her no, and that I wouldn't be using her services again, and that I would be leaving a bad review online.

My mom said 'If you do that you're not welcome here anymore. At least she is -doing- something with her life.' So I immediately hit the big red button, because -fuck them- for saying I am not doing anything. I have my own apartment, my own car, in a city where I moved by myself and handle all my own shit.

My sister has never been alone and bounced from boyfriend to boyfriend to husband to husband, always being taken care of. She's lost custody of her daughter once, and gone bankrupt as well. Also I make more money than her.

But because she's married (third husband) and has a kid, the family just assumes she's doing something more with her life than me? Fuck them. I put up a 1 star review on facebook for a business that has 1500 five-star reviews, moving their total down to... 4.9 stars. And that .1 star is worth the family cutting me off.

So that's the story of how a 1-star review made my family cut me off. Life, am I right?

[Ganymede]

@Admiral said in RL Anger:

So that's the story of how a 1-star review made my family cut me off. Life, am I right?

Like, I have no words for this.

If you want family, I'll give you family, man. We're good people and we don't do shit like this to each other. Ever.

[Catsmeow]

@Admiral

I'm sorry. My family is this sort of crazy, so I empathize with you. Sometimes it sucks but sometimes we need to distance ourselves from the people we share DNA with. Family isn't just about blood and genetics, it's also friends and being there.

[SparklesTheClown]

MUers are some of the only people who have made me feel like I have a family except for my grandparents and my best friend.

Everyone else just wants to fucking fight over stupid shit, do insane fucking manipulative witchcraft bullshit because apparently old people have nothing better to do, or just be con artists and try to talk me into joining pyramid schemes.

Granted, my birth father's side of the family are really, really good at somehow actually succeeding when they join a pyramid scheme, I don't wanna fucking do it.

My family makes me feel isolated, on top of all the shit my immediate family has done that's delayed my life so much. This is why I work so hard and why I've dedicated myself to trying to learn music and code and stuff. I just want to get out of this and be independent.

[Paris]

Re: toxic relatives: I cut my family off years ago, and it was the best decision I ever made. They kicked me out when I was 16 for being queer, stole my few possessions, and even recently offered no assistance whatsoever when I was diagnosed with terminal cancer (my brother stated that doing anything for me would be a 'bad investment' since I'd die anyway).

My in-laws are no better: they told me I should have let sweetie lie in her own filth than literally break my back to help her, because now I was 'a burden' on them; then told us we would be screwed if we tried doing things on our own, then tried to bully us into turning over all our money, including cancer funds, and control of our home, over to them. When we refused, we had to get cops to oversee removing them from our home, because of escalating threats.

So now it's just us. We are sad that we don't have functional family, and it's difficult being two disabled people having to go it alone, but the peace that cutting off all contact with toxic family has brought can't be overstated.

Being allowed to cover our own bills, buy our own food, come and go as we please and splurge when we want to with the money we make, for the first time in over a decade, is awesome. Having a quiet house with no drama is the best.

[SparklesTheClown]

Update:

My mother treated my stepdad like shit for no less than 10+ hours today, and I could barely sleep through that + my neighbors drilling holes in the wall. Then my stepdad finally snapped and threatened to burn the house down with everyone in it.

Personally I hope he does it, I'm just about done with all of this shit and if I can't even have five minutes of peace to get my shit together, I'd quite honestly rather he just fucking do it than me have to spend more time here.