Okay, so. I've been coping with this for about two months, and I'm still having trouble dealing with it.
My oldest brother and I have been fighting since the election kicked into high gear. He was vehemently anti-Hillary (but had no argument for or against Trump). It came to the point where we simply decided the best thing was to not talk politics to each other. But then he posted a meme on his facebook of a photo of a famous pop singer holding a blow up dildo on stage and the caption "X is supporting Hillary - Because she's shocked at what Trump said and is fighting hard for women's dignity".
And I kinda lost my shit:
1. An artist giving a sexualized performance (whether you approve of/enjoy that performance or not) has nothing to do with her private sexual behavior.
2. Her private sexual behavior is NONE OF YOUR FUCKING BUSINESS.
3. Her choice to perform is not the same as a man laughingly admitting to sexual assault. Even if she's promiscuous (and there's absolutely no proof that she is, and even if she is, see #2) she does not deserve to be assaulted for any reason ever.
4. For you to equate consensual sexual behavior or sexualized expression with sexual assault is basically the equivalent of you spitting in the face of my sexual assault and telling me I deserved it. Yeah. I'm ashamed of you. Hope you're proud of yourself.
His response was to inform me that he was entitled to his opinion and "let go of the hate". This is after not only this thread, but a seperate one in which he tried to get me to agree that the artist is "a slut".
I haven't spoken to him since, and it's #4 in particular that hurts because it's clear he doesn't see how badly he hurt me or how toxic what he said is.