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    Best posts made by Aria

    • RE: Good Music

      @macha said in Good Music:

      @aria I don't go to events anymore or anything, but I do remember that one couple that their clothes when they took the crown had actual SWASTIKAS on the fabric. Holy dramabomb (and rightly so)

      They stepped down and left their Kingdom in the hands of what was effectively a regent shortly thereafter. They tried the public non-apology apology first and it didn't work out.

      Now, to be 'fair', the piece being referenced was a bit of woven trim based on an actual historical pattern accurate to the time period of their clothes/persona, all of which long predates the Nazi party, and is complex enough that it takes of weaver of demonstrable skill to make it. That said, YOU STILL DON'T WEAR THAT SHIT, let alone when representing the populace. The SCA even has pretty explicit rules against offensiveness and obtrusive modernity in both names and arms that the College of Heralds pretty heavily regulates, to the point that I've seen a local Baron -- who had no idea that part of his name that he'd been using for twenty years -- could be connected to a relatively obscure group associated with the IRA. I didn't either, until another Herald from Ireland pointed it out. That name was quickly shot down with profuse apologies from the user, who literally had no idea and meant no harm, and edited to a degree that it was similar enough to what he'd been using without crossing that line. Even then, he cleared it with that same herald just to be sure and was generally mortified about causing entirely unintentional, even potential, offense.

      That couple very much should've known better, and probably did know better, and my guess is that they were testing how far they could push things despite the weaver having been warned many times that making the trim was a bad idea. To the point that general usage of that trim in the past in skill competitions has been a gentleman's agreement of 'make maybe a snippet of it with the not-swastika part to prove you can do the technique, write about its historical usage, and then swiftly apply said technique to making a not-offensive pattern that you don't have historical reference on but can now submit in competition and everyone gets what you're doing and why'. Or at least that's generally what with do with that pattern in my area, which may not be the case on the other side of the country.

      It's really not that hard to not be a massive hateful jerk about it, but people intent on being hateful jerks WILL try to hide behind the shield of "But but history!!!" to cover their tracks when they get called on it. Screw them.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      @silverfox said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

      But the opposite parents are just as bad. The ones that blame their nine-year-old for having poor time management and trying to get out of work.

      I'm pretty sure that's just called "being nine years old".

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: Good TV

      @coin Yeah, I give a lot of credit to Penn Badgley for responding to people that liked is portrayal of Joe with basically what amounts to "He killed four people. What else is there to say?" when a lot of actors would probably just enjoy the attention.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      @surreality I assumed his comment could more accurately be translated from "I think I'm being clever" to "what I'm really saying" as this:

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      Otherwise I would've been nicer.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: Dead Celebrities 2019

      @surreality said in Dead Celebrities 2019:

      Not like I have a single dime to donate to anything lately, but ideally if I did? Not sure, ideally both. Neither because of tears shed because churches are burning, and each for very different reasons. There's really zero comparison beyond the surface here.

      ^ Pretty much this. One is an act of race-motivated terror and should be deplored for the hatred it displays and the fear it caused. The other is a tragic accident that destroyed hundreds of years of history and art within a building that's been a cultural touchstone for millions of people around the world and over the centuries.

      They are both awful, awful things that people have intensely emotional reactions to -- for very different reasons. Aside from "churches", they're not the same thing at all. Care about both. I promise you that if I can do it with as much of a misanthropic bitch as I am, you can, too.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: The Dog Thread

      Oh, god. Queer Eye did a shelter dog makeover and I might literally die from cuteness and feels.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      I realize that the 4th of July holiday is upon us and that, given that I live in a densely populated neighborhood, there's going to be a lot of people setting off fireworks....

      Except you assholes have been setting them off every night since Monday. And tonight, you started setting them off three hours before it even got dark outside.

      Stop scaring my dog. 😠

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      @Ghost said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

      Sigh. Moms, yanno?

      Actual phone conversation I just had with my mom.

      Mom: I just had a holy shit moment.

      Me: Oh? What happened?

      (Brain read everything my mom says from this point forward in a conspiratorial whisper voice)

      Mom: I just went into the bedroom and you wont believe what I saw.

      Me: (Strung along) Oh? What?

      Mom: Your father was in there on the bed alone...

      Me: (PleaseDontSayHeWasJerkingIt) Oh? Is everything okay?

      Mom: He was on the bed and when I went in there he immediately hid something under the sheets.

      Me: (Still...please god no) Oh? I mean, is everything okay?

      Mom: He had a boxcutter that he was hiding from me. When I went in there he really quickly hid it so I couldn't see.

      Me: (New version of OhGodNoWhat? because alone+boxcutter) Uhm...thats not good. Is everything okay? Do I need to step away from my desk.

      Mom: He was...CUTTING UP A CARDBOARD BOX ON TOP OF MY EXPENSIVE EGYPTIAN SHEETS AND BEDCOVER. HE RUINED MY EXPENSIVE BEDROOM SET AND NOW I HAVE TO REPLACE IT BECAUSE HE CUT THROUGH TO THE MATTRESS.

      God damn it, Mom.

      Whew. Sigh of relief. I love my mom forever but god damn it her storytelling style freaks me out like this at least once every other month. She doesn't do this on purpose for fun, either. It'll be like:

      Mom: Oh. My. God. The craziest thing happened you'll never guess...

      Me: Hit me. What happened?

      Mom: So I turn down this aisle and I'm all alone, and I see this big guy with tattoos and this pretty girl ALL ALONE IN THE AISLE...

      Me: Oh no, what were they doing?

      Mom: ...it was BOB AND JEAN'S SON, BARRY. HE'S BACK FROM SERVING OVERSEAS. HE'S COVERED IN TATTOOS, HAS A BEAUTIFUL GIRLFRIEND, AND THEY INVITED US ALL TO A BARBECUE NEXT WEEK.

      AAAAAAAAUGHFJEOEI3U38...

      I'll trade you yours with her weird Christopher Walken-esque story pauses for mine with her regular text messages about some sad or tragic thing that should be making me miserable today.

      Like, every year on March 14th she texts me to remind me how many years it's been since my grandfather died.

      I need to know, in detail, about the tragic medical circumstances of her neighbors that I don't particularly like.

      Do I want to hear, at great length, the latest sad story coming out of the dog rescue she works with? Of course I do.

      If there is a sad/bad/tragic thing happening in the world, she will find it. And then she will contact me to tell me all about it, even if it's about people I don't know. Or she doesn't know. But it's vaguely local and there's possibly some very tenuous thread of connection between it and anything she is remotely connected to in any way whatsoever, and therefore I'm connected to it, and so it needs to just be a part of my day now.

      WTF, Mom?

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      @Auspice I think the fact that I figured out what his name was based on background convo was what really made it sink in. Definitely the best part.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      @Auspice said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

      way of the business world.

      Monday - all the meetings
      Tuesday - frantically catch up
      Wednesday - ?????
      Thursday - OMG WE NEED THIS LAST MINUTE
      Friday - oh god how am I gonna get enough done to not feel lost on Mond- ooooh weekend

      Ironically, this is why - when I was the senior admin that did the high level logistics for a department of 150 people - I forced my bosses to have their staff meetings first things on Wednesday mornings. Cause we worked in a department that was supportive for the highest level sales managers, our role was largely responsive/collaborative and this meant that on Wednesdays:

      1. Everyone was free
      2. They'd met with their business partners and knew what the ask was
      3. Had Tuesday to email about/think on it
      4. Could decide at the meeting and then immediately push it down to their teams
      5. Come Monday meeting again, could present the solution/product/whatever to their partners....
      6. Along with "We should have this to you in 48 hours", which sounds really fast but is actually EOD Wednesday and still gave our partners time to make 'last minute changes' while ensuring our teams had at least a full week to do the work

      They thought it was crazy until they tried it and discovered that it was awesome.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: Random funny

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      I had to see it. Now you have to see it.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      @Auspice Totally agree. 110%.

      I think what really kills me is that this is at the same company where I've been for the last five years and I've seen this treatment of assistants at every company I've ever worked at, regardless of whether it was an ivy league university or a pharmaceutical supplier or a chain of pet supply stores.

      So it's clearly not just the company in this case, but something about the title. My guess would be that it tends to be one of the lowest titles in most companies (barring things like a mailroom, a warehouse, maintenance, or something typically considered 'blue collar') and it's a job held overwhelmingly by women, so both hierarchy and gender dynamics come into play.

      I even once walked into the HR reps office and told her that at that very moment, one of the executives was chewing out his assistant so loudly that people from other areas of the floor were coming over to ask me what was going on, that I could hear her sobbing through the closed door, and if I were at my house and heard screaming like that, would be calling in a domestic complaint to the local police. HR responded by deciding that she and I were 'troublemakers' and causing gossip in the office. #truestory

      Just treat your assistants like people. It's not that fucking hard.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      Boss's Day.

      I just got an email about it from one of my coworkers wanting pooling together money for our two managers.

      Why? Why does this bullshit "holiday" exist?

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      @Ghost said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

      @Aria Just hang out and occasionally yell "SHUT THE FUCK UP, DONNY."

      I meeeeeeeeeeeean..........

      I am having fun! Like, I am well and truly enjoying myself. Mostly.

      But I'm a terrible bowler. Like, a truly terrible bowler. My handicap is almost 100 points that they just give me so I'm not sad. But I also warned them that I'm a terrible bowler, many times, and that I'm kind of fine with that because I'm there for the beer and the chatting. So the sheer amount of mansplaining from bowling nerds who think they're competitive sports nerds is buhhhhhhh. It's pretty tempting to shout "SHUT THE FUCK UP, DONNY." Like, regularly.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: Good TV

      @Ghost said in Good TV:

      @Arkandel said in Good TV:

      @Ghost That's basically every single CW show. About 70% of the plot would be gone if only people with every reason to talk to each other spoke to each other.

      I joke about Supernatural often:

      On ODD numbered seasons, Dean is mad at Sam for sacrificing himself. On EVEN numbered seasons, Sam is mad at Dean for sacrificing himself. For the first 6 episodes of EVERY season they're angry at each other until the inevitable bro-hug moment.

      To quote Chuck, "It isn't jumping the shark if you never come back down."

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: RL things I love

      @Ghost said in RL things I love:

      Yesterday my SO asked me to help her clean up a room and set it up as a craft room. A bunch of boxes got set in the hallway. We just moved, so we have a bunch of weird stuff in wrong packaging, like an Amazon box filled with hand towels.

      I see a taped box for a computer monitor. A 24" computer monitor. I didn't remember packing that.

      Me: "Hey, babe, what's packed in this computer monitor box? Do I need to unpack it?"

      Her: "...shit. Merry Christmas. Guess I'm gonna have to find you another xmas present, now."

      Moral #1 If you're hiding Christmas gifts, remember that when asking your SO to help move stuff around.

      Moral #2: If you call it out, you might get an extra present out of it!

      A couple of years ago, I "won Christmas" as @insomniac7809 describes it. Since I will never, ever, ever top that gift -- and I say this as someone who prides herself on giving great gifts -- there's a new rule in the house.

      I don't have to try when it comes to his Christmas presents anymore. He just tells me what he wants, I do some research (which he hates when it's for buying shit), and then present him with a few options to pick from. He gets exactly what he wants and is usually thrilled by it, and then I'll toss in something smaller and much less expensive than the 'big' present -- usually a book of some kind -- that's a surprise for him to open on Christmas day. It works pretty well.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      Re: Grief -

      I generally find that one of the worst things people go through other than the pain of the loss itself is no one else knowing how to act around them and/or being weird about it, even though it happens to literally everyone at some point. It feels so horribly isolating, at least to me.

      My tactic, rather than trying to use platitudes, is generally just acknowledging how horrible and shitty this is and that it's probably going to be horrible and shitty for awhile -- but that they're not alone, have people that care about them, and can ask for help, even if that help is just unloading if they want to.

      Same goes for scary medical diagnoses, bad financial problems, or serious relationship breakdowns. I don't think I've ever once had someone respond badly to that. Most honestly seem relieved to have someone not expect them to pretend to be okay for the sake of public appearances . I've ended up having a serious bonding moment more than once, even with coworkers.

      If you are in a position to offer help, I recommend going over and just taking on some mundane task for them so they have one less thing to try to brain about when they're stressed and/or numb. Even when people have the very best of intentions, it can be hard to muster up the mental energy to figure out what needs doing, let alone parcel stuff out.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: This is 2020

      Pet more dogs.
      Use my fucking bullet journal.
      Buy less, and also get rid of, crap I don't need.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: The Work Thread

      @Auspice I think that's what really killed me. I had done everything in my power to help her, including trying to position her for my job, which would've been a promotion. My role still exists, is a level up from where she had been, and has executive access. There's C-suite executives at a $5 trillion company who will chat with me in the lunch line and the ladies' room instead of looking at their buzzing phones because of the work I did in that job.....

      But instead she decided to turn it not just into a comparison, but a direct competition. I even pointed out to my boss -- who agreed -- that I got more done and did better work. That she was better perceived. And that in both cases, it was because I did my job and she spent most of her time socializing.

      If she'd put in the effort towards her book of business that she'd put into pushing a narrative about how "she just wasn't getting a chance to shine because Aria", she'd still be employed and making more money. Instead, she's got 45 days to find something before she'd out the door and honestly, I'm okay with that. <shrug>

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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    • RE: Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

      This is the point of tax season where I basically have all of our stuff entered.....

      Save for our mortgage information, because our mortgage company's website sucks and works on exactly no browsers despite what they say, and one piece of paper from my retirement investments that won't come until more than halfway through February.

      Fuck you guys. I want my refund. 😞

      give it to me

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
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