Posts made by Aria

@Wretched I'm not going to pretend that I'm great at writing them, but I can send you a blanked out version of mine for a nice looking template if you want it.

Beyond that, I'd actually advise checking out articles for stay-at-home parents returning to the workforce and how they should write resumes that cover a role that's more demanding than most people realize, but which our culture often undervalues and certainly doesn't monetize. Focus primarily on the organizational skills required for household management -- scheduling, budgeting, etc. Those are very real, and very translatable, skills.

@surreality There's this old bit of advice for women going on dates with new potential romantic partners:

"If your date is nice to you and an asshole to the waitress? Your date is an asshole."

From this, I tend to extrapolate a more universal policy that if someone consistently behaves badly towards people because they think they can get away with it -- people in customer service jobs, online because they're protected by "anonymity", power imbalances based on real authority or that granted by gender/race/ethnicity/class -- do not trust them. Do not be guilted into feeling bad for not trusting them, or into changing your mind. They've shown you who they really are.

Jesus H. Fucking Christ, you insufferable monster.

It's 7:30 in the morning on a Sunday. Stop laying on your horn over and over and over. Get out of your car and go knock on the goddamn door.

@Wretched said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:

Anyway, even if you arent sure now, or are saying 'fione i am saying I am this' there is no shame or stigma is saying 'I want 100% right' or 'I feel different today than I did yesterday'.

There are entire gender identifiers based on this, which I'm extremely happy to see! (Even though none of them are quite right for me, either.)

I think I'm going to give this place a go, and maybe drag a few friends.... once I get around to reading 2e and seeing how different the system is and if my concept would actually work! >.>

@Derp -- Can you give a rough idea of when people are most active? I only see a few on as I'm posting this and if I'm inviting some of my friends with weird schedules, would like to give them an FYI of when to look for people.

@Packrat said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:

Personally I am male and also slightly bisexual? Or Hetero-curious? That is not quite the right term for it given curious implies that I have never given things a go. I have tried going on dates with and had sex with other guys but it does not do nearly as much for me as being with women does and I do not find very many men sexually attractive.

^ Me, but about women. Sometimes I say bisexual. Sometimes I say "heteroflexible", which seems more accurate. I honestly don't really worry about it too much because both my sexuality and my gender are close enough to the label of "basic cis-het white girl" that I appear to be given my body shape (giant boobs!) and the fact that I'm married to a man. Whether that's passing or erasure? <shrug> I'm generally more concerned with whether or not I'm intruding on queer spaces than whether or not people get my label right.

@RDC I have literally never heard the word "transtrender" before, but it sounds like the sort of thing a total asshole would say. So I'm going to go ahead and declare that anyone who decides to give you a hard time based on their determination that you are one is a total asshole and you should ignore them.

In conversation with an older lesbian friend of mine about the importance of David Bowie re: representation for her generation:

"My dad once tried to make fun of Bowie by telling five year old me he was a 'queer' because he wore glitter makeup and ladies' clothes....

I'm not really sure he took the interests of the average five year old girl into account when presenting this argument."

@Derp said in Echoes in the Mists - CoD 2e MU:

Mage on Portland is officially open!

Upsides:

There are plenty of beginning Mysteries to go out and explore.
It's a new sphere, so everyone's just as clueless as everyone else!
The players are fantastic.

Downsides:

The wiki is kind of a hot mess right now. I've been doing my best to get information out there, but honestly, I have no idea how this beast works. Mage templates aren't completed, and I cannot tell you when the ETA on them will be. All of the information is conveniently (haha nervous look) on a single page, so you don't have to go hunting for it, though. Even if it's a bit crowded.

Legacies I have writeups for but I don't have them on the wiki because I still am not sure where the hell I am putting them, and haven't even vetted them all really.

Things are basically in a beta phase for the next few months to see if all this catches on fire or not.

If you're interested come check it out.

http://portland.echoes.wiki/Sphere:Mage

How active is Mage right now? Are you getting an influx of apps?

@Jennkryst said in Fallen World 2.0:

Does anyone have the wiki data from Fallen World I can dig through and steal my old character deets from at some point? The Wayback Machine does not have the right capture time, and even if it did, it didn't crawl onto any of the character pages. Woe.

This would be rather nice, as I liked the concept I had there despite never really getting her off the ground.

My parents are now complaining about the hassle of having a P.O. box. At a post office with a 24 hour lobby. Which is next to their grocery store. That I offered to pay for.

facedesk

Why do I try to be nice to them?

@Auspice Maybe? If not, I'm going to offer to rent them a P.O. box.

@Auspice said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@Aria said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Apparently someone has started stealing my dad's diabetes supply out of my parent's mailbox. So I guess that's a thing now.

I know medications are expensive, but jesus fucking christ you aren't 'getting back at the man' or anything when you do that. You're hurting someone else.

I am so sorry

Fortunately it was his testing strips and not his insulin, but even those run $1/ea and he has to test 2-3 times a day. A neighbor found most of them in the torn open box on the side of the road, but the police warned them it's probably going to keep happening. Since they know he's getting diabetic supplies shipped to the house, what they're most likely looking for isn't his medication or the strips. It's his syringes.

Apparently someone has started stealing my dad's diabetes supply out of my parent's mailbox. So I guess that's a thing now.

So I've discovered that by cutting down our cable package (which I really kind of want to cut entirely), I can't watch the new episodes of Supernatural until the day after they air.

If any of you jerks post spoilers for Season 15 in here without tags, I will hunt you down. And I will find you. And once I do, I will bring my dog with me and let him poop all over your yard without picking it up. You can totally pet him after because he's a giant Muppet who loves everyone, but still. Poop.

That is all.

@Auspice said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@Aria said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Boss's Day.

I just got an email about it from one of my coworkers about pooling together money for our two manager's.

Why? Why does this bullshit "holiday" exist?

doesn't sound like a real holiday to me.

Sounds like your coworkers have a bit of stockholm syndrome going.

No. It's definitely a thing. It's on October 16th. There's a line of Hallmark cards and everything, despite it violating the usual office etiquette of gifting down rather than up.

Boss's Day.

I just got an email about it from one of my coworkers wanting pooling together money for our two managers.

Why? Why does this bullshit "holiday" exist?

@Auspice said in PC vs Player Assumptions:

I try asking people what their goal is.

^ This. It's been many years since I've sat down and STed on a game for anything but tiny PRPs I spend the whole time worrying I'm failing at, since I'm way, way, WAY better at all of the 'behind the scenes' of staffing (world building, overarching metaplot writing, job processing) than I am at live GMing, but....

Yeah. That's pretty much always been my solution. If you're way off base and straying over yonder, I'll ask.

If you want to Do the Thing But Don't Know How, just message me and I'll spitball a few options with you. It may not be a quick and easy "Do #1, #2, #3, wiggle your butt once and wish really hard and then you can have the prize!", but I will cheerfully do a version of 'Here are a few ways you can approach this and/or here are the minimum requirements so snag them however you want'. Generally having an open-door policy about that and answering any questions they had with a pre-announced and firmly set boundary of "I will explain anything you want re: theme or decisions or plot, but this is not an invitation to try and argue me into changing it" seemed to prevent most issues. At least from my perspective, anyway. My players may have disagreed.

@TNP My mom has for BRCA 1 and 2. It was negative, or so she's always told me even with threats of "If you're keeping it from me for my 'peace of mind', it could literally kill me. So don't." There's something else that's causing it which is likely a genetic factor that's not yet been identified given how many variables can go into developing cancer but how consistent it's been in not only occurring in my family, but within a very narrow age window that is generally considered 'early' and the aggressiveness of my mom's variant. Hers fell into the G3 category, which is the highest the grade goes for breast cancer.

I turned 35 this year and needless to say, I'm getting my boobs squished ASAP now that the insurance is willing to cover it. They fought me on it every year from 30-34, despite family history and doctor recommendation. /eyeroll

@insomniac7809 said in The Work Thread:

@Aria said in The Work Thread:

I wish managers would accept honest feedback! Someone questioning an idea or even saying outright "I'm not sure this is going to work and here's why" is not the same as "You're a turd and also bad at your job and PS, you should be embarrassed in front of all of our colleagues." Unless they fall into the category of sleazy office politics asshole, they're honestly probably trying to help you make the underlying thing you're trying to achieve work.

Yeah. The idea is dumb, and the effort being put into it would be better spent digging holes and then filling them back in--at least that would be pointless, rather than counterproductive. But if management is married to it and all I'd get for pointing this out is looking like a malcontent troublemaker, well, fuck that; I'll keep my head down and hope someone above me suffers an unexpected attack of good sense.

I mean, I get paid either way.

Yeeeeeeeeeeeah, I've definitely worked for that manager, too. More than once. And I am super spiteful, so I was very happy when one of them got fired and another one had the company collapse under his horrible leadership. No luck on the shit-heels at the pharmaceutical sales company, but... well, they're pharmaceutical sales reps. I assume they're probably going to hell at some point. /shrug