Posts made by Cobalt

I am, in fact, apparently getting a raise. I'm confused as to why my boss decided to bump me up not one, but two levels, but I'll take it.

@Wretched If I had spoons, I'd help. But I have no spoons, also we have different ideas on how WoD games should run.

@Apos said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:

@Pyrephox said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:

"writhing loincloth" remains a phrase that lives in infamy in my memory

There should be a game of guessing whether a phrase comes from TS, or lovecraftian horror, or both.

"wrestling like two greased up midgets"

@Cupcake "False claim to queerness" -- I feel this on a visceral level. Given that I consider myself demi/pan-- in that I have the potential to be interested in anyone --but I typically have fallen into long term relationships with men.

I married a man, I dated another man for five years after my marriage. There are women I would have been with if the timing and opportunity were right...

It just never is. And so I feel like a pretender saying I'm a member of the LBGTQ+ community when I have mostly been in monogamous hetero relationships.

@surreality 1) a 1.5ft hard bristled brush for cleaning things, like the oven catch trays. 2) That is our top oven conveyor belt its melted to. 3) No idea as my boss wont answer the phone, and neither will his.

So my boss can deal with it tomorrow. For now the other AM will have to deal with a Monday night with only one oven.

@Arkandel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@Cobaltasaurus said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

I'm out of spoons. Metaphorical spoons.

There... is no spoon?

(I have nothing).

No. Spoons. Left.

I'm out of spoons. Metaphorical spoons. I'm done. Finit. I do not give any shits. I'm gonna burn this store down and laugh and dance in the flames.

@mietze said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:

Usually when I have heard pansexual being used by people actually think of themselves as that, it means that they are open attracted to all forms of gender identity (not just male/female) and genitalia.

I think a significant number of people who prefer the term bi for themselves would fall into that category, but not all. (Not everyone is attracted to nonbinary or trans people, who is attracted to cis men and women).

This pretty much:

I use the term to describe myself, because in theory I'm attracted to any person, no matter their gender identity. Whether they are cis male, cis female, trans male, trans female, nonbineary, etc. If I'm going to get super into detail I'd consider myself pan-demi-sexual. In that as stated above, I'm open to being attracted to anyone no matter their gender identity, however, these days I require an emotional connection to someone to really be into them.

@Testament said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:

Mostly play straight male characters. Occasionally(very occasionally, infact I can only think of one)will I play a bi female.

Nowadays, I play asexual, mildly sociopathic male characters. Because I just can't give two shits about romance RP or TS anymore. There's very little interesting in it for me anymore. There used to be a time when I loved all the romance stuff.

And now? Zero interest.

This is me lately, too. I have pretty much zero interest in playing out real romantic relationships. I'm fine with playing somewhat flirty characters, or those who use romance to get what they want, but playing out a real love story doesn't really interest me.

@Pandora said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:

There is much weird going on in my head & I feel like most people are female-ing better than me.

I feel this on such a deep level. This might be a topic for another conversation, but I feel this so much. I'm pretty happy with my bits and don't want different ones but sometimes I feel like I do the non-physical, the ephemeral, or behavior parts od being female wrong or not as well as other women.

I started to go ahead and start my own thread because a) I wanted to narrow the scope down to a specific topic, and b) I wanted one in the mildly constructive forum so we might have a bit more of a civil conversation.

So thesis, or topic, or whatever: What are your experiences with either your OOC sexuality or your IC sexuality on games? What are some of the things you experience as, say, a bisexual player playing a straight or a gay character? What are your experience as a gay player playing someone straight? Someone straight trying to play someone who is not straight? (If people try to tell me there is no straight person out there who wouldn't try to play someone like Klaus in a game where you play FC I'm going to make you eat your keyboard, my friends).

Here are some of mine:

@Ghost said in MU*ginalization:

@Cobaltasaurus said in MU*ginalization:

@Roz said in MU*ginalization:

This is a lot of words so I'm just gonna vote Yes as a general "yeah I've experienced sexism on a MU*" kind of response.

Oh. My vote should really be "yes" then, since ive also experienced sexism on games. Also homophobia, toward my male bi character.

Also bi-erasure toward the same character, and slut shaming.

Eta: in the last two im talking about things that crossed ic/ooc lines since they were unthematic to the game. Not just IC unpleasantness you might expect in say a modern day game setting.

@Cobaltasaurus @Wretched

I, myself, have not experienced first or secondhand bi-erasure, but I could definitely see where that's come into play. Sucks that you had to deal with that. Thanks for the input.

So here's the thing about it; it's just a thing. It happens a lot more than you think. When the situation happened, I actually didn't even realize it was bi-erasure happening until someone else told me. Or at the very least I didn't realize that was the term for it. And thinking back over my history of mushing that was actually not the first time I've experienced it.

Back on Haunted Memories (one of the first nWoD games out there), I had a female werewolf alpha who had mainly female members of her pack. I was told, OOC, that people just assumed she was a lesbian. Despite the fact that her public RP hooks referenced a husband that she lost when she first changed, because he was a werewolf as well.

I was incredibly young at the time and went out of my way to get her a male lover, to show people that she wasn't a lesbian. (This is real fucked up, young me why did you do stupid things?)

I can't really speak to what gay men go through in this community but I imagine (from experiences of my own playing either gay or bisexual male characters on rare occasion) that it's a lot of stereotypying and female-players fetishizing gay relationships. My own experiences with female players telling me how "hot" gay sex was made me incredibly gunshy and disinterested in playing male characters interested in men until Arx (I have been mushing for nearly 15 years). With the exception of the one time I played a bisexual male on Star Trek: Gamma One who ended up seeing a PC I knew was played by a gay male OOC.

ETA, I forgot to add before hitting post:

I can't really speak to what lesbians go through in this community, because most of my female characters that are interested in other women end up also eventually being interested in men (I'm looking at you Cyto@HM and Nikki@TR), as an IC/OOC bleed through my pansexuality that I can't help no matter how much I try.

But we ALL know the Elfbian Mafia Stereotypoes. I'm sure lesbians in this hobby have a difficult time.

ETA2: FC, not OC. Whoops.

"I'm in crunch time with my freelance work so I dont want to tour apartments for a couple of days, future roommate."

"Okay! I got us an apartment tour four hours before your closing shift tomorrow!"

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@Too-Old-For-This I. Want. So. Bad.

@Admiral thats why I wish I had the space for a puppy, cause adoption of a great pyr for $100- with all their shots and being spayed/neutered is not likely to come around again.

@surreality @Scorn its beautiful!

@Scorn It is absolutely gorgeous. @surreality does amazing webpage design.

There are Pyrenees puppies at a local shelter and I am like I HAVE A HUNDRED DOLLARS GIVE ME THE PUPPY!!

(But I do not have the SPACE for a puppy right now )

DOGUMENTARY TV!! (Great pyreness)