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Mr. Nancy is the cowbell of American Gods and I am ready to die on this hill.

Why isn't Orlando Jones considered a national treasure?

@mietze I'm gonna try to break it down, and I admit maybe I'm reading too much into things, but I feel like this has been an undercurrent issue for a long time.

Take for example, the earlier comment someone made to the tune of "I only create straight male characters; I feel so boring." (paraphrasing) - I'm sure it was a joke, except I think some people genuinely do have this issue. The ability to roleplay a spectrum in gender and sexuality well is most definitely an ingredient for being considered a good RPer, and I think sometimes people who opt to stay in their lane might feel like maybe they're somehow less talented/more restricted in their capacity to play, regardless of why they choose to stay in their lane - for purposeful reasons like "I don't think I can play this because I don't identify and don't think I can do anything but produce a sterotype." As @Quinn was saying.

And then there are the women who play gay men and guys who play lesbians explicitly for the kink, and not because they're exploring any kind of meaningful RP. Which I think can also lend to that notion of wanting to explore one lane while RL being in another; the concern that you will be perceived as one of these types of RP seekers. (I'm not saying it's a logical conclusion, but brains be irrational brains.)

I could also be off my rocker and communicating poorly.

So my notion is, if you are self-assessing your capacity to portray another gender or sexual orientation, if you decide that you don't think you can do so because you genuinely don't feel you can grasp the nature of that gender/orientation and you would come off as a caricature (which for obvious reasons you wouldn't want to do), does that make you mindful of your own limitations, or limiting yourself in an unnecessary fashion?

Should people who feel like they can only meander down one of these particular paths have to feel like they should be embarrassed or ashamed about it?

(FTR, I'm not accusing anyone of shaming or embarrassing anyone else, but I do feel like there's a tone here from people who pursue certain singular characteristics like they could somehow do better, myself included.)

@Ghost you mean...

@Ghost He's got a fiancé that he's very into, so I'm reasonably certain that it was not an attempt at flirtation in the slightest.

@Misadventure It's a game I enjoy, that I'm generally good at, and want to stay on the board as a point of personal pride.

Prior to receiving an unsolicited overture of advice, my goal was simply to play the game, enjoy the satisfaction of playing the game well, and staying on the score board. I don't see any reason at this point why the two notions have to be mutually exclusive tbh.

Also, in the moment, he didn't ask me if I wanted some tips. He told me he was going to give me pointers.

We have a new arcade style game in our break area, a stand up box that has over 100 games on it. One of them is a bubble popper and I was one of the first people to play it and get my name on the board. A co-worker came along and wiped me off the board, which you know, happens, and it's trivial in the scope of things. I was determined to get back on the score board, not really caring where I placed as long as I placed and enjoying myself when co-worker in the #1 spot (who's a guy) comes up to the machine.

"I'm going to give you some pointers." he says.
"I didn't ask for pointers." I reply, while playing.
"Well, today, they're free of charge." he says, leaning on the game.
"And I still wouldn't want them." says I, irritated at this unsolicited "assistance".

Normally this is a reasonably cool dude, and I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt in retrospect, but in the moment, I was just like, NOPE.

So yo, co-worker, if you're gonna start talking about World Bank/Rothschild conspiracies, you are not going to stop me from informing you loudly that the whole premise of said conspiracies, particularly where the Rothschilds are concerned, is big ol' flamin' anti-Semitism. kthanxbai.

@Roz Heteroflexible, I love that.

@Thenomain It's actually less for others than it is for me. I like the notion of "knowing my tribe" while at the same time respecting the preferences of others for whom the notion matters less.

Edited to Add: I realize we're talking about my characters, though choice of pronoun is not entirely inaccurate. My attractions to women have been few, but they were there, and I won't refuse to acknowledge them.

Cis female, more or less straight. I do stick to playing females exclusively, and most of my characters these days lean toward...bisexual, I guess? It's men in general, or specific women in particular as opposed to categorically women.

I wish there was a word for that kind of 90%/%10 variable beyond "bisexual". Someone once described my character from Darkwater as queer, but I didn't really feel right giving her that label because of the 90/10 (well, maybe a little more 75/25 for her in particular) but with a general preference to engage in hetero relationships, it seemed false to claim queerness.

Lucky 13 gave me a crapton of BSG feels.

https://photos.app.goo.gl/Lb11XcqgzVSG8hDB7

BELLY.

I think there can be a happy medium. I've played minorities/women in historical games on more than one occasion, and I welcomed roleplay that reflected the intolerance and unfairness these classes have suffered. However, there's a point where it's not acceptable.

Like, I'm okay with my Victorian era female Indian medical doctor (shut up, @Ghost) being held in contempt by the white people around her and not wanting to utilize her services. But I wouldn't be okay with my Wild West Jewish seamstress being called "kike", etc. There's societal disdain and then there's overt abuse, and the last does not contribute to a fun rp experience.

(Honestly, if I were doing a PPZ game, I'd make race less important (because when the undead want to eat you, all humans taste the same) than class. Because I am certainly NOT permitting some Chinese trained lady's maid to my whist party no matter how well she's developed her five finger death grip.

I do not have mental fortitude to run a game, but if anyone decides that a PPZ themed game is something they'd be willing to run, I would be happy to help world build, write newsfiles, help develop plot, etc.

A good experience on one place makes you really face your bad experience on another. And gives you the strength to let go of something that is making you miserable, because you continued to think that maybe it would somehow get better for you.

I get it now, how sometimes it's better to just stop logging into a game for your own health. Renewed realization to understand that if your presence on a particular game starts causing the worst parts of yourself to rear up, get out.

@surreality Is it just me or has Jedediah Goodacre reached the 'supernatural trifecta' for actors? He has played a vampire, a werewolf, and a magic user.

Bonus points for also playing a fairy tale prince.

Amazon Prime has The Changeover available for rent or purchase.

You may or may not be familiar with Margaret Mahy, but she's probably New Zealand's most beloved author, and I read The Changeover as an adolescent and absolutely loved it. The movie really does it justice. The casting is amazing, and the film unpacks a lot of the theme of transitioning into mystical power as a transition into adulthood thing. The film is eerie and creepy and suspenseful without being gory, and has a sort of starkness to it that is interesting rather than bland.

Seriously though, is there any media where Timothy Spall isn't a fucking creeper? He's downright scary in this.

Has anyone watched The Order on Netflix. It is...kinda bad, but also kind of good, and pretty much can be summed up as "What happens when werewolves and the Mysterium don't like each other much. Together, they fight crime!"

Also, there is Matt Frewer with a truly epic old man beard.

I actually really like how they portray magic and they have a pretty unique take on werewolves, though.

You know what would be cool? Pride and Prejudice and Zombies. Seriously. Regency era manners + the walking undead.

"It is a truth universally acknowledged that a zombie in possession of brains must be in want of more brains.”

@ZombieGenesis I wasn't hard core into 90210, or even Riverdale, but I loved him in the original permutation of Buffy and he was still one of the teen idols of my generation and I am not feeling alright about it, especially considering he died at age 52.