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Watched Midsommar last night. There is a lot to unpack about that movie.

Despite the fact that there are definitely gory moments, it doesn't really feel like a horror movie to me, per se.

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@surreality Honestly, if they have problems with Motherland but not The Handmaid's Tale, I suspect they're not all that well-intentioned or woke.

It's funny though, because during the episode that was particularly dealing with the heavy emphasis on sex and sexual energy, it is explicitly mentioned prior to the ritual itself is that you should look to whoever you desire, regardless of who it might be and during the ritual people were partnering with others of the same gender, the opposite gender, and in multiples as it suited them.

I'm wondering if the baddies actually have a sizeable population of men amongst them, given their particular position in witch society being significantly less dominant than the roles available for women.

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@Ganymede Thank you. It's a little sad to realize that I was genuinely surprised by the fact that everyone I've spoken about this decision to thus far has given complete support in favor of it, and I am very, very grateful.

I've made a lot of choices in my life where I've felt that the only way to gain love and acceptance was to take on the weight of suffering rather than inconveniencing others. Trying to do that breeds resentment, resentment leads to snapping under the tension of it, and Yoda and so forth.

The current action plan is to write a draft and review it with my therapist before posting anything.

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cw: sexual assault

I've been preparing myself for the last couple of months to do something for myself, something that I feel strongly will help me heal from literally years of carrying around trauma and going through therapy.

I'm going to name the person who assaulted me in a public forum, where people we mutually knew will be able to see it.

I've thought long and hard about it. I've talked with my therapist about it, at length. I've talked to trusted friends who knew me from that time as well as more recently. It's like a weight that I've carried all my life, and I'm always going to carry it, but I've decided that it doesn't have to be so heavy. I'm not doing it to get back at him in any way, I'm doing it for me. I'm doing it because I want to put the facts in front of people we both know, and let them deal with their own responses to it. It's time for other people to sit with these facts and decide how they feel about it.

I've braced myself for what may come. Hopefully, people will believe me. It's probable that they won't. I'm not going to be the first woman who has named her assaulter only to not be believed. I feel I've prepared myself to that. And if there's no response from anyone at all? I'm prepared - I'm okay with that, too. Because I will have done everything I can at this point in my life to free myself of the weight. I don't have to feel like I'm hiding something anymore, and I don't have protect him out of some misguided belief that I'm making things easier for others by doing so. I'm not doing this for others, I'm doing this for me.

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@surreality Having watched the most recent ep, I've decided I really like the series; I find it fresh and original (which feels rare these days) and there's equal parts of romance and politics and the like. Your point made was right on, about this being young women in their late teens, striving for what they understand as normalcy, or arguably excellency in the world they perceive to be normal. And the Bechdel Test manages well here.

I'd be lying if I said I didn't enjoy the level to which the patriarchy is thoroughly smashed on this show.

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I've watched 3 episodes of Motherland: Fort Salem and I still don't quite know what to make of it. Thoughts, anyone?

The worldbuilding is pretty cool, but the premise in and of itself is a bit whackadoodle. I think it might be too much for the casual tv watcher to handle.

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Has the game gone down?

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The DownWithOPP flashbacks from this thread have made me vaguely nauseous.

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@Groth said in Good or New Movies Review:

That is blatant profiteering merchandising. Not a statement of support. Disney would sell nazi Donald duck plushies at far right rallies if they thought it would make them net profit.

Hey now, Donald Duck is a veteran of World War II and has absolutely no problem punching Nazis. Show some goddamn respect.

(My tongue is firmly planted in cheek, if it wasn't clear.)