@surreality Absolutely. Iâm not advocating taking things to unreasonable extremes, or running to staff with every little thing. Common sense must prevail. But I do think things are not always so cut and dried - particularly when your characters have closer ties. Here are some more actual examples of more subtle situations - all assuming Bob has vanished for a moderate period of time with no word and no prior instructions:
Bob just started teaching your character something, but you havenât seen him for awhile. Jane asks, âHow are those lessons with Bob going?â
Youâre a doctor and Bob is your patient. Last time you RPed with him, he was critically injured. Jane asks, âHowâs Bob doing? Has he been discharged yet?â
Bob is your IC boyfriend. Your last scene involved them having a big fight and you cried on Janeâs shoulder about it. Jane asks, âHow are things with Bob? Did you patch things up?â
Now you can try to do some RP gymnastics with vague or evasive answers. You can just beg Jane OOCly, âPlease for the love of all thatâs holy stop asking about Bob!â But sometimes neither of those things makes sense and youâre forced to make an assumption about whatâs going on with Bob.
A considerate BobPlayer will just go with whatever you decided because theyâre the ones who left you in the lurch. But sadly, not all players are considerate. Or, as @Sunny mentioned, the avoidance was for OOC reasons and theyâre not comfortable with you making assumptions about them. So thatâs when having staff backing for your assumption can come in handy.