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@tinuviel

@tinuviel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

I'm good at lots of things.

That's the alcohol talking.

@arkandel said in Learning how to apply appropriate boundaries:

It's not about who you're doing it with but who you are, and my best argument - my only one, really - can be summed down to this: "But I'd like you more if you were someone else".

I think you're twisting the logic and words here to come to that conclusion.

No, it's about trying to push you into doing something you already 100% know you don't want to do at all, no matter the company. \

You really are the asshole if you are pushing your friend to do something that they have told you they don't want to do. Like, a really awful asshole too. Look at it this way:

You: Hey, Surreality, you want to go out on a date? We seem to have a good time together.

Surreality: We do have fun, but I'm not really into a dating relationship with you.

You: I'd like you more if you were.

You're putting Surreality in a position of jeopardy here because she risks losing the fun of playing with you by denying you. It's not precisely the same as a Weinstein, and you're definitely not pulling a Kavanaugh, but pulling a Duckie is still a shit move. In some perspectives, it's a worse move.

Of all people, friends are the ones who should care the most about how they are making you feel. Blood of the covenant > Water of the womb.

@bobotron said in Good TV:

Did they just murder Ray Palmer or Ryan Choi?!

I'm not sure, but he was voiced by Patton Oswalt.

The best part was Superman being voiced by Nicolas Cage.

@tinuviel

I don't know what is more tortured: that piece or Kim Kardashian's desperate attempts to remain relevant.

Bravo, sir.

@mietze

Here's how the conversation would go were it my partner.

Partner: Do you want to do this?
Me: Fuck no.
Partner: I'd really like to do this.
Me: That literally has nothing to do with me not wanting to do it.
Partner: Why not?
Me: There's lots of things I don't want to do, babe, like stick a cactus up my rectum; this sounds similar.
Partner: How?
Me: I don't want to do either.
Partner: I don't think I'm going to go if you're not going to go.
Me: Going to another KISS concert sounds a lot like having anal sex with a horny cactus.
Partner: You're awful.
Me: You knew this before you started living with me.

@surreality said in Learning how to apply appropriate boundaries:

A big part of that, really, is 'I don't want to take part, but you do you and enjoy it!' -- it's the spirit behind that principle, not 'I'm not into this but since it's objectively OK you can force my participation'.

Sure, I get that. But, bear with me.

Them: Do you want to do this?
Me: I don't want to take part, but you do you and enjoy it!
Them: But I'd really like you to join me.
Me: I don't want to take part, though.
Them: Why not?
Me: It's not my cup of tea.
Them: I don't think I'm going to go if you're not going to go.
Me: Why not?
Them: Because I really want you to play with me.
Me: Another time, then?
Them: What's wrong with just joining me for this scene, and next time we can do a scene you want?

Some people don't take a fucking hint, and that's when I have to be the asshole.

@surreality said in Learning how to apply appropriate boundaries:

We need a Your Fun Is Not My Fun But Your Fun Is OK variant of the kinky one just for this.

I'm all for this, but it can be a little draining when others always try to draw you into RP that is their fun, but not your fun. And then, when you deliberately attempt to avoid them, they get either snarky or accusatory.

Seriously draining. I've left games for this.

@surreality said in RL Anger:

He is also healthy as a horse, so these things just don't occur to him, for the most part.

So'm I. The things that kill me do so rapidly.

@tinuviel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

It's an acceptable alteration.

This was not acceptable alliteration, asshole.

@surreality

Your husband sounds nice and cool, but also horridly stupid.

I don't fuck around with my partner's health, and neither should he.

@roz said in Learning how to apply appropriate boundaries:

One very important thing to keep in mind when you're developing boundaries is this: your feelings are worth the same as other people's.

I'm a bit more aggressive on this point, and would say:

One very important thing to keep in mind when you're developing boundaries is that no one else's feelings matter as much as yours if you are made to feel uncomfortable.

Because, to me, that's the best way to put it.

I don't really care if the other person's enjoyment will be threatened or ended. So long as a particular line of RP is making me feel honestly uncomfortable, I will terminate it.

@aerianyx

1. Be aware that your boundaries are your boundaries. They may not be another person's boundaries, but that's irrelevant; the question is what makes you uncomfortable.

2. People who tell you you're overly sensitive are assholes. The proper response to "this RP is making me feel uncomfortable" is "I'm sorry I'll stop." Anything less than that is unacceptable, and a sign of an asshole.

3. Quid pro quo is disgusting and should be reported. I really don't (edited) care if it is totally in-character; it's disgusting and is one of the sorts of behaviors that should not exist in our hobby.

4. Stand firm, and get backup. When you set your foot down, it helps to talk to someone else about what happened. You don't need to identify who did it, but it's always helpful to know people have your back. And, by the way, if that "backup" tells you that you are being overly sensitive, remember Point 2 above.

5. It is always okay to suddenly disconnect. You never, ever, ever have an obligation to stick around. Ever. You may have to deal with the consequences later, but you never, ever, ever have to stick around.

Hopefully, this helps. I don't have much personal experience with this because I have very distant boundaries, but I've been told I'm a good listener. Also, I fuck up a lot but have enough presence of mind and awareness of self to not hold what I felt against the person I wronged.

For those reading my posts or e-mails:

@skew said in Coming Soon: Chontio, a Star Wars Stand Alone MUSH:

Force powers are kinda neat, but for every force power there's likely a career talent that can do it better. Which is to say: The Force is low power and is more a story element than a game-changer.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

Shawn James.

@theonceler said in Good TV:

I literally need this entire movie made into gifs.

I like to threaten insults more than use them. For example:

"If you want to send a dick pic, that's fine, but my profession is known for its penchant for engaging in unnecessary and intolerable verbal cruelty."

"You're a lawyer?"

"No, a urologist."

@coin said in Good TV:

Teen Titans! Go - Teen Titans - Young Justice - Titans.

This is pretty much how it goes.

TTG! is my favorite for the reasons stated above. And it is damn intelligent about it too. Low-brow humor? Yes. Classic Family Guy 80s culture intertextuality? Yes. Shameless self-mockery? Yes. For me, what makes TTG!TTM the best of the DC Universe is how it mocks the mainstream DC-Marvel movie-verse tastefully and viciously, to the point where it is the focus of the story.

You know, MIND MANIPULATION.

You can watch the whole series on Hulu. My favorite episode is the first short of S3E23, titled "Riding the Dragon."

@wizz

gany noes sadness

you'll never find another no one who'll take your shit like i have

I also like this one.

where's all the money gone? i'm talking to you. all up the hole in your arm? is the needle a much better screw?

(The London) Suede should get props for being proto-emo. I mean, I like emo well enough, but those whiny bitch-ass children ain't got nothing on Brett Anderson and crew.