Posts made by Ganymede

@silverfox

Maybe they aren't feral?

@macha said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

Proceed to panic for even thinking it, because I don't even know if I could sell them.

If you are making soaps to make a living, it may be a little late.

Unless you sell them here.

Either way, if you like to make soap, make soap. Everyone needs it; everyone likes it.

Do what brings you joy, even if it does not bring coin.

Khajiit will not judge.

@23quarius said in Oh, Humanity:

@il-volpe Ohhhh. Okay. I just know Superporn is a Thai name. So Super_____ I thought "mmmaybe it's an unfortunate Thai name?"

You need to talk to Mr. Phuk Mae Dong.

Real name, yo.

Not really a bad humanity thing, but nothing beats the day I had a gentleman with the last name 'Batman' (pronounced bhat-mahn) as a client.

Because when Batman files a summary judgment motion, you listen.

@betternow

Nothing formal but that’s how these things start.

@testament

Five fucking sickles.

@testament

Them: Velociraptors are so cool! They have a single sickle-claw on each foot!

Me: That's nice; cats have five or more.

So, like, what are your commissions like?

@coin said in Movie / TV / Streaming Peeves or Whatever:

The only things that have ever bothered me, really, were the whitewashing in Avatar by Shyamalan * * *.

Really? This is the only thing that ever bothered you about the movie?

@greenflashlight said in Movie / TV / Streaming Peeves or Whatever:

I no longer give a shit about Jared Leto after his behavior on the set of Suicide Squad, and will not watch his movies.

I no longer give a shit because of all of the rape allegations.

@arkandel said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

I remember him saying he was quite conflicted at the time because aside from the racist element in this, wouldn't he want someone reporting his kid being with someone that felt... wrong, in case she had been taken from her parents?

If there's something that I've learned in the last 15 years it is that calling the cops on black men is a very bad idea, no matter the situation.

Once again I apologize to everyone who may have been waiting for my stupid head to approve of their accounts.

That said, if you already have an account, please do not make another. Because of the wonderful people that sometimes come by to circumvent our previous bans I am being more restrictive than I have ever cared to be. If there is or has been an account request from another IP that another user has accessed this forum from, your account may not have been approved of. If this has been done in error -- I realize that some people log in from IPs which may have been used or are being used by others -- please re-register an account and have another user let me know of the error.

@silverfox

Unfortunately, no. No faces.

Except kitty puddin faces.

@silverfox

By imperial edict you must produce more cute kitten pictures else face dire consequences, you fiend.

@mietze

@derp

I don’t disagree at all with the sentiment or belief that an experienced paralegal will trump a new associate.

As far as I am concerned neither can draft a motion the way I want it done, so I do my own.

@groth said in The Work Thread:

I think being assigned tasks outside of your job description solely based on your gender is discrimination.

I agree, but what I read was that such tasks fell to her because her boss didn't do what he was supposed to do. Still, yours is a fair reading in context.

I have read articles similar to the ones you posted. I understand what is being said. In many ways, my suggestions follow; in others, they don't. Norm criticism is no different than what I would call "regularly checking in with people" or "keeping my eyes and ears open." And master suppression techniques are what I consider "being a fucking asshole."

I suppose I see things differently than most because, in my office, every member of support staff is a woman. On top of that, half of the attorneys and partners are women. And you still see the regular hierarchical shit happen because, well, some people are just shitty leaders no matter their gender.

I think I'm a pretty good boss to work with. Staff have told me this; but am I really? I mean, I do shit no other partner does, like: (1) upload my own e-mails into our online cloud storage system; (2) print out my own e-mails; (3) input all of my hours; (4) field cold calls and referrals; (5) spend more than five minutes every day with the associates to train them and make them feel comfortable; (6) get my own coffee; (7) make coffee for the firm; (8) handle my own discovery requests and responses; (9) file my own briefs, motions, and notices when I can; and (10) create my own notebooks for hearings and trials. And I do all this because, in my vision of how to practice law, this is shit that lawyers ought to be doing on their own.

But my administrative assistant always seems like she's walking on egg-shells. It's probably because people who are so damned independent in the workplace might not need you in the future. Maybe she's worried about job security. Maybe she's worried she's screwed up. One time, we missed a brief deadline: we got a continuance filed, and everything was okay. But she was near-tears because she felt like she fucked up. And she went to one of the senior assistants and asked if I was pissed, and was told: no, that's just Ganymede, you're fine, and they'd tell you to your face if you fucked up.

Like, I don't know how I'm doing. I don't. But I hope that showing that I want to be part of the workplace and I don't mind doing things they do or I don't expect you to make coffee and get me a cup if I come to work before you do, and all of that. Leadership's a tricky thing, I think, and what matters is the effort.

But what happened to Juniper is straight-up bullshit.

I just won an award (thank you) for my extensive pro bono work, so I decided to hold a firm event for it. I got the food; I helped set up; I helped clean up; I helped put all the food away; and I did it because it was my party and I felt responsible for it. And I think that's a feeling that's sorely missed in Juniper's boss, and in a lot of leadership positions in a lot of workplaces.

@groth said in The Work Thread:

By making social expectations explicit and evaluating them critically it's possible to have good conversations about if they bring any value or should be abandoned. Most discrimination of this type is done for no other reason then 'this is the way things are' so the solution is to force explicit justification and evaluation.

I don't recall Juniper saying anything about discrimination.

I can attest that what happened to her can and does happen everywhere regardless of the race, gender, and lifestyle of the "boss."

But I can also attest that the dynamic of women in the workplace -- I do refer to women expressly here -- is something which I do not think you appreciate fully, based on your responses.

@silverfox

Don’t send him back because he’s stir crazy.

Send him back for his insolence.

I do not reward knowledge; I punish ignorance.

@misadventure said in The Work Thread:

how do we all work to change that dynamic?

It will take time.

But it would be real nice if men and women in leadership positions recognize that you don't need to be an authoritarian to command authority.

It would also be real nice if a company's leadership be unafraid to give exceptions and embrace diversity.

And it would be real nice if staff recognized that everyone is going through something and how important it is to empathize with one another.

That'd be nice.

@Groth

I don’t think you fully grasp the dynamics of women in the workplace.