Posts made by Ganymede

@Kanye-Qwest said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):

All my life, it was "you're lazy" "you aren't living up to your potential" "why can't you just take care of it" and my favorite from my dad, "you're worthless". I think it's impossible not to internalize that stuff, and have it color all your feelings about YOURSELF.

I lived through this as well. After a while, I just didn't care.

Parents: You're lazy.
Me: And?
Parents: You aren't living up to your potential.
Me: But it's my potential, right?
Parents: Why can't you just take care of it?
Me: I did, just not the way you wanted me to.
Parents: You're worthless.
Me: If you say so.

Granted, I was a very difficult child to deal with, being one part smart aleck and one part rebellious asshole.

But looking back on how I was raised, I understand why.

It's a cultural thing.

@Atticus said in Atticus' Playlist:

Arx is, as you said, daunting. I'm not sure where to even start. How much lore understanding is needed?

I think it depends on how much you're willing to be, as you put it, the FNG.

The difference between Arx and, let's say, a World of Darkness game is that World of Darkness settings presume a certain amount of seasoning in a starting character. Werewolves, for example, generally understand what a tribe, auspice, and breed are (in the Apocalypse setting) in character, along with renown, gifts, and rites. These sorts of things you have to read up on.

This is not the same for Arx, which is premised off of fantasy stories. If you've watched Game of Thrones, you'll get a good handle on the sort of politics that may be played. While each of the major Houses of the Compact have their own flavor, they are easy to grasp with a bit of reading from the site.

You can start on a variety of levels. Maybe you're a commoner who bakes things for a living; that's a good concept to work with. If you're a noble, maybe you're a younger one that grew up sheltered, and therefore may have some incorrect notions about the world. When I built my PC, her background basically put her out of noble politics, which explains how and why I may have some IC questions about political issues and ideas which others have a strong grasp on.

Finally, the players can be excellent resources.

Where it gets a little overwhelming is in the depth of engagement, and that's another topic for another day. Think about all of the "world building" you wanted to do on a Vampire: Dark Ages game? You can do that.

@Atticus said in Atticus' Playlist:

I feel bad when someone puts so much effort into getting their character and demeanor correct for the era or franchise then I clodhop in with accidental colloquialisms.

I think you'll find those "accidents" quite common, but it does not ruin the feel of the game.

I have to double post to put up this 15 minute video.

This is where I live.

One of the tornadoes last summer tore through a neighborhood 100 yards south of where my house was. I ran through that subdivision regularly. It was flattened. The old foliage has been torn apart. What was once a forested little lane is now plain, with rebuilt houses. I can remember the eaves rattling and siding flying around outside. I remember the golf-sized hail that struck my new and old cars.

But that wasn't the scariest part.

It was a rare weekend that I wasn't in the Oregon District that summer. I was actually at home when the shooting happened because my partner was out of town and I was watching the kids. The club that was shot apart is a place I've been to several times, and the bar next to it is one of my favorite dives. Nine people were killed, but there were dozens shot and injured in just thirty-two seconds.

But I was at home this time.

Just in case you want to know a little more about why I'm so thankful now. And happy to be happy.

You'd be surprised.

Fate's Harvest is a good game. The code is solid. It is a Changeling game with a hybrid of nWoD 1E and 2E rules. Small population, but the role players there are dedicated and solid. Good for a casual gamer.

NOLA is also a good game. My last foray into it didn't go as planned, but that doesn't mean it isn't a good game. Players there too are solid. nWoD 2E.

Arx is an amazing game, but I have to admit that its depth is daunting. I'm a certifiable dino and I can tell you that this place is mind-boggling. Custom system, but it's the sort of game that you can sink your teeth into if you're the sort of Vampire player that really likes politics. It's got a lot of layers, a lot of crunch, and if you get into a good group the RP opportunities are seemingly endless.

For Dresden-type games, you might want to look into Gray Harbor. If you like steampunk, try The Savage Skies. Both use FS3, but they are on Ares platforms which means you can play them via web browser. Also, Arx is web-based on Evennia.

I think I have this remote-work thing figured out, and I haven't been happier in a while.

I take the kids to their grandmother's in the morning, then hit the office for a couple. Take my work back home with me. Eat lunch at home. Go get the kids in the late afternoon. Get dinner for everyone. Danny Kaye on the Google Home player. Then the partner arrives, and we get to talk and chat about our day. Get the kids entertained and ready for bed, then settle down again.

Like, this -- this is good. This is real good now. I know that others have it rough and bad, but it's been a while since I've felt this good.

I've played on all of those games.

Here's your bourbon.

@silverfox said in The Work Thread:

Crying signaled 'oh shit. Okay. Yes. We will step in now.'

No offense to your principals, but this is bullshit.

If you're a partner, owner, or firm, your job description includes being able and ready to step in at any time to assist before your staff come to you in tears. That is the price you pay for being a damn boss.

Like, I'm new at being boss, but I know what I expect. Some motherfucker put my assistant into tears and I called him immediately to terminate him as a client. He backpedaled faster than Roger Clemens at an inquest.

Everything begins and ends with the boss. That's why you get to be called bad muthafucka. You want your troops to march into battle for you? Battle for them twice as hard.

@Rinel

I've done federal habeas work for a judge, but I'm guessing it's out of date.

Yeah, sucks.

@WildBaboons said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

Edit: I always check GoodRx for meds even with insurance. It doesn't apply to the deducatble if you use it but I've found that 3/4 the time it's cheaper to go with the GoodRx coupon than insurance.

Seconded.

I have great insurance. But, y'know, fuck big pharm, get them dealz, homez.

@Warma-Sheen said in Good TV:

What I think is cool is that even with completely differing ideas about the dancing and singing itself, most everyone commenting so far has still liked the show. Hopefully it comes back for a second season, but if it didn't, I would understand that too. And I'd pray another company picks up the rights and keeps it going.

Maybe the big take-away from this is that there were circumstances which made perfect, beautiful choreography impossible, so if there's another season coming the new producers should take that into consideration moving forward.

Very few shows were stellar in their first season, but if they make enough of an impact to compel studios to produce more seasons then you can learn lessons and produce a better product.

To-wit: the Simpsons, Married ... with Children, or any other show that survived more than three seasons.

@Rinel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

I absolutely would do the same but we probably have a more wrecking ball disposition than is healthy for corporate culture

I keep hearing that from people, and yet I represent enough corporations to know that a good boss appreciates knowing what's happening.

It is keenly unappreciative for management to pull pranks on employees. Management is management, and that's why it can be lonely. This isn't fucking summer camp; this is someone's livelihood.

Some dumb motherfucker doing that shit in my firm would get let go immediately. This is not the time for their dumb shit conspiracy theories.

I would probably report that harassment to his boss, but I'm a no-nonsense kind of person.

@Admiral

Did you throat-punch them?

I would have throat-punched them and yelled: "how's that hoax cough now, bitch?"

Sometimes, violence is the only thing idiots understand.

@insomniac7809 said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Did you not get the "how to be horrible in Polite" primer before you unpacked?

Darling, that is more talent than skill.

@mietze said in Tips for not wearing out your welcome:

I think sometimes that people who find it too hard to mask/behave calmly tend to assume that it is easy for other people and natural and costs them nothing to do, when in fact it is usually far from the case.

For me, it is easy.

Then again, I do not pretend to be anything but a lawyercatbot with highly-evolved responsive algorithms.

Purple monkey dishwasher.

@Sunny said in If you work hard, son, maybe someday you'll RP:

But the point of bringing old friends in is to have a security blanket while you make new friends, not to have them occupy the entirety of your time. Intending to occupy your time with just old friends completely defeats the purpose of bringing them in in the first place. So maybe answer that question with 'Meet new people and expand our social circle so we all have more fun down the road'.

This is why I'm eyeing a return to form at Arx.

West Chester? Cincinnati?

Now y’all talking about my neck of the woods.

Still want to play and staff a game centered around Dayton.

My last PC was raised there.

@Groth said in Tips for not wearing out your welcome:

@Ganymede said in Tips for not wearing out your welcome:

@A-B

I am repeating because I was probably lost in whatever the fuck just happened a couple of pages before.

Why have you chosen online text-based games as a way to stave off insanity from your isolation?

Online text-based games are one of the more accessible means to learn to become better at communication and social cues.

Not everything is about you.

I was asking A-B.

@A-B

I am repeating because I was probably lost in whatever the fuck just happened a couple of pages before.

Why have you chosen online text-based games as a way to stave off insanity from your isolation?