@Kanye-Qwest said in Avatar / Korra game considerations:
man it would be cool if someone made an ATLA movie!
I'm only about halfway through the first season so far, but I gotta say, I feel like this property is brilliant as a series and wouldn't quite work as a movie.
@Kestrel said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
I made a New Years Resolution to stop arguing with strangers over the internet.
That's a stupid resolution. Here is a list of forty-six reasons why you are wrong to make such a resolution.
@mietze said in A bit of trouble on Firefly:
This is why I really have very little trust in our community's willingness to really deal with problems until a game runner proves otherwise, and I operate on the expectation that they will always err on the side of people who harass or have that history until it is too bad to ignore.
Yeah. That's the fragile part of the fragile happiness I mentioned. As much as I'm glad that victims are getting a voice and the community seems to be supportive, I've been through too much to believe that the support is generally more than lip service, saying the things you'd expect good people to say while doing nothing. I hope I'm wrong but I don't really think so.
Still. It's the kind of day where I need to hold on to the good feelings rather than the fear, so I'm gonna do that for now.
@Sunny said in A bit of trouble on Firefly:
I mean, MSB isn't safe. I know it's not safe, and when I'm feeling unwell I avoid it because it's unsafe. And I don't mean in the Hogpit way, I mean in the 'if I'm actively harassed, if someone is trying to harm me, if somebody shows up and starts doing genuinely bad things I can trust that the people running it will help' -- it's just not safe around here. I participate in a lot of places that aren't safe, by choice and with my eyes open -- but yeah. This community as a whole is terrible for that, and even MSB is really, really unsafe in that fashion.
I don't have anything to add here, just... letting you know I see you and you're not alone.
@Kestrel said in Depression Meals:
What do you guys eat when you literally can't be fucked to make anything difficult?
Realistically? A bag of potato chips, or drive-thru.
A super easy comfort food recipe is pasta aglio e olio, though. While you boil a box of pasta al dente, heat half a cup of olive oil in a frying pan over medium heat, crush a head of garlic into the oil and brown it (most recipes tell you to slice it, but that's a suboptimal way to get the garlic evenly spread, I say), and toss the pasta into the garlic-infused oil. Juice a large lemon into it. Most recipes tell you to add a ton of parsley, and you can do that if you want, but it's not crazy necessary. You have a meal full of carbs and heart-helpful garlic that takes maybe twelve minutes to wake.
@Kestrel said in A bit of trouble on Firefly:
@SquirrelTalk said in A bit of trouble on Firefly:
I have never known any amount of armchair psychology to be useful to anyone. We're not the ones who are going to solve whatever's wrong with that guy. Best just to keep them out of our lives, imo.
I find it very useful. If I know what's precisely wrong with the kinds of people liable to make my life worse, and I know how to spot early warning signs of their behaviour, then I know how to protect myself.
Did this guy make my life worse? No. Not even a little bit. But there are a million other guys like him out there, and they are everywhere. They're incredibly predictable and not nearly as special as they like to think. It doesn't hurt to go through life with a radar in mind.
Agreed. It's not about fixing him; fixing him is his own problem. It's about making the patterns easier to identify so other people can recognize them.
@sunny Hard for me to believe Chrono Cross would get that before Chrono Trigger, but I'm all for a more polished Chrono Cross with a hifi soundtrack.
@alzie I believe it is forbidden to currently explain what happened here. Suffice to say a lot of people got justifiably angry at one another, and let that justifiable anger lead to some less justifiable behaviors. I don't want to sound disingenuous by pretending I think everyone involved is equally culpable or that I don't have a side, but even so, I think it is fair to say no person involved (myself included) did anything that drenched themself in glory.
So if Kestrel reports a Klansman for being at a Klan rally, the effects of that on the Klansman's family belong more to Kestrel than to the Klansman who chose to be at the rally, who chose to be a Klansman, who chose to tie his family's fortune to his Klan participation? Because I feel like it's on the Klansman, and on the Klansman's SO who realistically had to know what they were getting into.
@Auspice said in Tips for not wearing out your welcome:
If I had a dollar for every time someone thought telling me calm down would solve an anxiety attack I'd have no debt to speak of.
"Gee, I hadn't considered not feeling angry or hurt, thanks for that advice, did you come up with it all on your own?"
@ominous I get that you probably feel ganged up on at this point, so I'm not trying to do that. I'm just saying as someone who doesn't even know what Gloomhaven is, "I am extremely justified in yucking your yum, so quit asking me to stop" is a pretty weird hill to die on, such that I'm concerned maybe something else is going on. Are you a thousand percent positive this wouldn't be a good time to take a break, and come back later when you feel more fresh?
@insomniac7809 said in The Work Thread:
Sales are down because foot traffic is zero and there's nobody in the goddamn store.
No, I'm pretty sure it's because millennials put avocado on toast.
@Auspice said in Diversity Representation in MU*ing:
it doesn't help that in recent years I've come to realize I am also demisexual and holyfuck explaining that to people makes me wanna cry sometimes.
"I don't get it. You like girls, and I'm playing a girl, so you must want to fuck me whether you know me or not because that's how attraction works, right?"
@SilentHills said in Visit Fallcoast, sponsored by the Fallcoast Chamber of Commerce:
I think the types I'm kinda referring to are the 'I'm so pretty. My powers revolve around how pretty and charismatic I am. I have fifteen boyfriends and girlfriends. My template is very obnoxious. Also I'm very random! Insert GIF here!' I hope that gives you a better example.
Oh. Yeah, that happens. Fallcoast's house rules specifically make it cheaper to be The Sexiest One Of Them All, so it's a little more pronounced here than a lot of places. I have too much sympathy to judge; it's hard to not wish you were one of the beautiful people.
@Macha said in RL things I love:
Puppy play time. It's just the best.
A coworker's husband brought their baby puppy in to work for her to take back home (they work different shifts and didn't want to leave the babypupper alone), so I got to play with a baby chihuahua for a few minutes at work and anyway, the moral of the story is it should be required by law that workplaces provide their employees with puppies to play with for a few minutes every shift.
@Ominous said in Diversity Representation in MU*ing:
It is so wrong to look that angry while wearing that hat.
@Lithium I am not on the game you were on. I'm in a Discord server with some friends who are on the game you were on. I have no direct experience of you, and no right to speak for anyone who spoke to me in confidence, so I cannot provide you the specific list of verifiable or falsifiable allegations I'm sure you want. And, for the record, I absolutely get you wanting specific allegations. As someone who once lost a job over accusations of things I am quite sure I did not do, I am still haunted years later wondering what specifically anyone thinks I did. It drives me crazy as I wonder if I somehow did the things I was accused of but was too delusional to know I was doing them, or if someone had a reason to tell lies about me.
But I can say that despite not being on that game and not knowing who you are, I know four people who have told me directly that they felt very uncomfortable around your characters and would avoid scenes you were in. I do not say this to indicate you're guilty of anything--I don't even know what specific metaphorical charges have been leveled against you--but because if someone like me can hear about it from so many people, it may indicate something about the way you approach people needs reflection and adjustment.
If I could be more helpful to you, I would. This is as constructive as circumstances allow me to be. If you wish to hear from someone who does have knowledge of you and went out of their way to avoid you, then perhaps a more contrite tone with a focus on repairing relationships over defending your reputation would convince them to reach out to you, or perhaps not. In either event, it seems you must rely on the charity of those who were present.
@Kestrel said in Dead Celebrities 2020:
Sam Lloyd, AKA Ted, the sad-sack lawyer from Scrubs. Also a really good singer.
Died of an inoperable brain tumour, not coronavirus.
No! Absolutely not! He is not allowed to die or be ill or ever have bad things happen to him!
"Hey you know what this toast needs? To be bigger, softer, and have no flavor because it's drowned in maple syrup."
@Wretched said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
For a few years, when talking to people, I'd preface it with "Hey, so I won't even try to describe the stream of consciousness that got me to this question, but."
