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If someone really doesn't want a sandwich club on their game I don't think there's anything wrong with that, as long as they're up front about their expectations of activity, ect.

However most of the games I've seen where sandwich club suddenly becomes a problem are ones where hands off/no staff interaction beyond spends and approval is one of the appeals, but then someone gets pissed thar the group isn't paying attention to their pet storyline, ect. So then the annoyance/angst that staff has for the minute group defying their interest expectations can cause everyone else to suffer when they get stompy about it.

Personally if you set things up so that sandwich club is a possibility then just leave it be.

Having had to get order of protection before it's not usually granted for people who show up at a business and send an email with no threat in it. You only have to pay $200 to get your ccw in my state (I have the license) but given the nature of my work, it's fairly useless in this regard. I did think about it setting up my practice as well as talking to many many others. It's comforting to think of cowboy ing up but to be brutally honest to creates more issues than it solves.

And having grown up comfortable with/around guns I'm not stupid enough to view them as a safety blanket, especially as a woman. But yeah, that's a common response to, to this work environment. Get a ccw, you'll be/feel safer. Except for you won't be.

I always enjoy the ancient looking PBs people used to (and still do on occasion) slap on late 30someting and 40 something PC or NPCs.

Maybe it's just my life experience talking (and just being around a lot of different people at different ages outside of my cohort) but I find that I am more appreciative of a variety of ages as far as storytelling depth. And it tends to be in the hands of the player too. Some people play their middle aged/elder PCs very shallowly or by stereotype. And I've seen many young PCs done well (though admittedly the Doogie Houser types still make my eye twitch, but so do the old dried up hag at 40 PCs!)

Having played mostly on the fringes of late (young PCs or elderly PCs), it can be a really interesting experience to see players not willing to give either a chance. It can feel like a bummer, but I think it's rarely personal so I try to not take the kind of awkward OOC dismissal personally.

@Derp said in RL Anger:

@Arkandel - At least you don't quite jump on the hate-wagon. I even said that it's probably a legit reaction, several times over, but that it's simply not the reaction that I would have personally chosen to apply, because I tend to think in a different way, and that -potentially- there is another valid way to look at it. Why is that so wrong?

I don't hate you, I just think you're being an ass towards me. If you want to not be perceived that way, perhaps throwing in the "adulting" shit at someone isn't the way to do that. Since you know, you catch more flies with honey than vinegar. And up until you tossed that garbage my way, I was owning MY reaction to stuff.

Have a different perspective. If you would be totally fine with someone who knew you for 1 week when you were 12 telling you all that shit and showing up somewhere when it was clear they were not welcome and needed an appointment, then that's your right. I would worry about you though, because I don't think that's very safe to be "okay" with or to be more worried about the other guy's perspective.

Also, 1 of my friends who was assaulted, and those robberies and rapes that happen that I know about in my professional community? They do/have happened to men too. I don't know a single LMP male or female that would not be freaked out by what happened to me, because of that, and because yes. /Objectively/ it is /weird/.

Growth, and the capacity for it, mostly.

I am a very slow chargen person, I don't super enjoy or get excited about the process.

But the two characters that I played on a consistent basis and who I thought about a great deal and enjoyed the most both started out as relatively blank slates, and over the years progressed in directions that frankly I never had even thought about or intended in the first place. Both had a great number of people and partners come in and out of their IC life too, which was sometimes frustrating but also propelled a lot of those changes.

I also enjoy having real reasons to hook in to the larger world. The PCs I've had that were just as complex and growth oriented but who tended to be very limited in their interactions with others beyond a very small 1-2 person group tended to fizzle, even if the other person(s) did not flake.

Here's another angle to consider too. I've spend much of the day crafting a very professional and concise "I cannot by the ethical standards expected of me by my profession accept you as a client, but I can can direct you to other professionals who may be able to. Please do not come to my place of business without an appointment, as it is posted on our door all sessions are by appointment only and it's inappropriate to loiter otherwise. I am not interested in further contact with you." Sort of statement.

However, yes, in addition to maybe not giving this guy a chance to explain his side of the story, it is also a fact that declining a client strongly (or firing someone) is often a trigger for violence. This guy is unlikely to catch me at work unless he's physically stalking me. But there are two other people in my suite that have more regular hours and are around more. It's not only me that's endangered if that happens.

So I have to be a careful wordsmith, warn my suite mates to keep an eye out. It's possible they may not renew my lease in a month or so and I can't blame them--they have to make safety considerations too, we are all solo practioners in an office park that's somewhat private.

Does this satisfy you that I'm still keeping the feelings/considerations of this poor man on the table, @Derp? Adulting enough for you? Or did you not realize the very real and pragmatic if not "fair" to me a stalking incident like this has towards not only my person but also my livelihood because workplace violence is a thing, it has nothing to do with who's got a penis or not, and it is a reality that all business owners have to take into consideration?

I would say the odds are that the guy will leave me alone. But I can't be sure, and as @arkandel explained better than I, it is his crossing so many boundaries to get this point that means I cannot assume nor is it ethical for me to assume that this is something that's just harmless--because there's not just me involved.

I think the most out of the blue comments about the beauty of my PC's PB I've ever received was for Maren@Arx. Even though absolutely no one who made those comments was going to hit on her. I agree that the model is stunning, and think that probably people felt more able to comment on that in a positive way because it was not going to be construed as saying that they wanted to bang her.

And I want to add on to Roz comment too, that if your "friends" are labelling people as "whores" for having a pretty PB and especially if they know you like pretty PBs too, I'm really sorry. That's really not a friendly thing, and I'm sure you deserve more supportive play partners than that.

@thebird Trust your gut on that one. It's not being insensitive. What/how your MIL reacted isn't safe at all (most people getting treated for anxiety aren't going to do that nor would it even occur to them to). I would never ever leave my kids with someone of that level of hatred directed at me in that unhinged away, not to be punitive but because no child should have to endure that kind of impulsive rage.

@tinuviel i look at TS typing in the same vein as meeting RP. If you are going to set up a romantic and sexual relationship for Reasons, if the parties want to scene that i do not see why they shouldn't.

Why should a staff member meet and RP with pcs about things they could just send in a bullet point mail and ftb rather than info dump in a scene (when honestly half the time people don't really react and they don't care about the other PC's reactions either so they aren't really cross-RPing). Some players might prefer it. Others like scenes like that.

I dont think most people who engage is sexual or romantic partner RP always type it out. I doubt that happens with npcs/staff pcs either.

I just don't see writing a TS scene to be any more of a waste of time than the vast majority of court scenes I've gone to on any game. Except for you don't hear quite as much people whining about how useless and boring he scene they are willingly parking their ass in is while its going on, when its TS rather than a court.

@hedgehog Having done PTA and magnet program type thing president/board for like 10 years at this point -- there weren't any complaints about you. I'd be willing to bet $100 on it. That is the pta/church lady way of expressing jealousy and being mean, and to get you off of their turf in a way that doesn't look bad to outsiders. I don't blame you for not wanting to work with this bitch anymore, but I hope it doesn't put you off on volunteering in general. but yuck. I hate that feeling.

I actually enjoy learning about new places/times/cities to be honest. So for me what I love is to see staff buy in and excitement, real tie ins for storylines, theme enforcement, and the like. If the staff barely scratches the surface in involvement with their city/area, if there's nothing to really help shape things in CG/theme, ect, then I don't think you can expect player buy in and it will slide to generic no matter if it's set in Paris, Fargo, or Mexico City.

The fact that I can head off a tantrum from the toddler by whispering "burp" or "fart" into his ear and get giggles instead.

True. But the same thing could be said for a lot of women too. There are some awesome sex ed things out there, but I would say many young folks don't have access to them. I have met many more women who are more squicked out at experimenting to find out what they like/don't like by themselves/with another than I have men. It could just be the bias in my upbringing here, but honestly--I could see more guys being interested in the 3D printing of the clitoris (whether they admit it or not) than women. Though I think (I hope) that's changing too.

I think it is cool though, that models are being used. I like to imagine that maybe it's more useful than the fake boob with the marble in it that the girls tossed around like a hot potato in 7th grade health class (it was supposed to be a tool for leaning how to do self-exams). I always wondered if they still have those things around. When I asked my eldest after her health class quarter, she gave me a very long look and said "Uhhhh no, why wouldn't you practice on your own boob?" So, hey, progress maybe!

Whatever the system was for BS Deimos and Orion. Simple, understandable coded combat that allowed for seamless rp and moving scenes and enhanced the Rp rather than grinding it to a screeching halt.

I really enjoyed getting to rp and do battle and combat scenes without having to worry about (for the most part) people bitching and moaning the entire time and endless rules lookups.

Not anger so much as bleh. I'm thankful I have the education and moxie to be my own advocate when it comes to healthcare issues, but it's pretty exhausting having to do it.

I think sometimes it's a case of the ST not really thinking about their group, sometimes, too. If it's got a bunch of teenagers and/or wannabe alpha males/females in it, I think probably it's not unIC for there to be lip and bluster and dumb and overconfidence. Vs. a more cerebral crowd.

Though I will say it really does suck to be the PC freaking out/panicking and therefore coming up with stupid ideas IC and have the other players or ST like...not react at all. Or even worse, assume that oocly you're a dumbass because your character is reacting vs being instacompetant.

I still do it--I think there's only been one PC of mine in recent memory that doesn't barf at blood/guts/weirdness or do silly things like shout and pretend they're going to stand their ground but rarely am I called on it and have to turn tail and run. :). But it is really a bummer that most of the time people don't even blink.

I did get a ton of hilarious pemits when my ghoul lost her lunch at a vampire execution on TR though.

My Vegas wedding was the best one. Anyone who wanted to make the effort to fly out there to join us was welcome, the pastor gave the best and shortest wedding speech I've heard after going to hundreds o weddings including my other one (I guess when this is all you do you get damn good at it!), we took everyone who came out to an awesome dinner in the top restaurant of the casino hotel we were staying at, and then people could stay and go to shows or walk around and people watch or whatever. Also the cheapest and most fun wedding. Then we just had a party at home for people who didn't want to/couldn't come, no gifts needed, just come and eat and drink.

So people not into something will project their own distaste onto the people that are? Including a "think of the dumb people/children you reprobates!"? Say it ain't so.

Yeah, yeah. And miscarriage due to overexercising, hot tubs, caffeine usage, eating lunchmeat, ect. should be manslaughter. Dropping a stack of fertilized eggs in petri dishes is as bad as the loss of life in the OKC bombing. Such a goddamn stupid argument. Nobody except for crazies like Eric Rudolf believes that shit.