Posts made by RightMeow

@reimesu

A lot is going on IRL for people. Just take care of yourself. Remember there isn't a comment that can't wait 24 hours to be posted.

Sorry, I didn't want this to be a 'no you are wrong' thing.

Thank you for those that read my questions and gave answers.

Again, remember there are people behind screens, a pandemic and lots of RL going on, being kind is good.

Thanks again for the answers.

I appreciate everyone's thoughts on the matter. I've voiced mine in other areas. I just wanted to touch on the Clique. Now I understand that a lot of times I rose-tint people and things. I also understand that filter goes on for my wrongdoings too. I have many. I am far from sainthood. Many.

However, in all the forums that I have been part of good, bad, ugly, beautiful, etc - they were there for various reasons. Some were to discuss fixes. Some were to vent frustrations. Some were to see if they were wrong in their thought processes. We have all 'dogpiled' at one point or another.

I can only speak from my perception of these things. I have been slut shamed, dogpiled, personally attacked on here and by people here -- but you know what? Also on here, I have been defended by strangers, been vindicated, been protected, been educated, and been told I was not insane by people too.

I don't think this perceived clique is truly there. They were banned before the Discord post went up that they could put their handle. They may be more than welcoming to people to join in - have you asked or are you just assuming you are not invited (you in general)? I'm sure that if I started to use Discord, I could join and I am not part of any cliques I am aware of.

Do I respect the opinions and thoughts and RP storytelling of some of the banned? Yep. Do I agree with all of them? Nope. Am I saddened by the way all of this has unfolded on various sides? Yep. Am I going to ask questions? Yep. I will try to do it respectfully.

My views (and this is my thoughts not the letter of the law) is that admin on games, in a job, in a community, on a BBS, in life, in virtual life, etc all have to be held at a higher standard than the 'masses' that they have authority over. Is that fair? Nope. However, I believe they are setting a standard. I do not believe any admin here is THE EVIL or bad. I believe they are human. Humans make errors. Humans aren't perfect. However, not all humans are the right choices for all things. That is what makes us awesome as people.

I, for one, am awesome if you need some over the top optimism in your life. I will cheerlead for you until I lose my breath. It doesn't make me good. It just makes me who I am. However, I am not the person to come to if you want to talk metrics and stats. I am not the one to come to if you want to find the right code to implement something. I am not the one to handle a coldly logical debate, because I'm not that person. I'm amazed by the people that are. I'm amazed at my coworkers in life that can look at data, blink once and give me the percentage of average to how feasible it is. I am in awe of people who understand the game dynamics of combat, of econ, and of all the moveable parts that are hard for me to understand.

I think there is a perception of cliques because those are the loudest voices. Or maybe I'm rose-tinted here too, but I'm okay with that. We are so quick to call it bullying when there are questions from multiple sources. We are so quick to call it a clique, but I don't think that's factual. I really don't think anyone is on their off time thinking how to make one person's life difficult on this site. I think they are just being human and responding to human feelings and thoughts.

Sorry to ramble.

Don't forget to be kind.

Greetings.

I hope this is not taken inflammatory, but the thread is locked and I have some questions. I am not offering my thoughts, but I am offering the questions respectfully. A few items I would like some clarity upon. I wasn't sure what board to put it on, so I picked this. Feel free to move it if it's not the right one.

1. "Keeping this thread locked to keep it clear and uncluttered, but commentary and suggestions are, as always, welcome via PM to the admins." -- Clarity question - why are they welcome via PM and not to boards? Which maybe I am going to be banned for, but I'm curious about this. Again, I am asking with respect not a reactionary.

2. "Admins will interpret this code of conduct based on the spirit, rather than the letter, of the Code. Constantly walking the knife-edge and attempting to rules-lawyer this Code of Conduct shall be considered a violation of the spirit of the Code, and punished accordingly." -- Clarity question -- I might be reading it wrong (I probably am) but the wording sounds like rules can change at a notice because this is just a vague rule. Does that mean that any interpretation could be a violation? Also, what is the punishment? Or is that up to interpretation?

Again, I am just curious about this. I mean, I suppose if it gets me a ban, I'll be saddened by it, but in the end it's your boards.

Thank you for reading. Don't forget a few things. When responding we decide if we empower or demoralize. The other is to be kind.

In regards to the politics board - I just never read it. I also never turn on that channel on games. Hot topics.

So with hog pit, I'm not going to lie some of it is my own sick amusement about what people get upset over. However, that normally soon makes me sad That said...

Hog pit is a few times when I realized it wasn't just me going through an issue. Or when a known creeper was out there and circling me again - then turned someone against me - we actually talked here when OTHERS pointed out maybe that wasn't how it rolled out.

I'm not part of any groups, or perhaps part of all of them? Since I tend to rose-tint view most people and things. That said, people I didn't really know came to my defense and that is how we put two and two together. It does serve a purpose.

Update because you are now (really it's not new) my overshare group because you GET IT. Also, side note, thank you for getting it.

We have adjusted my dosage twice. I'm starting to feel different. Not in a bad way. When I take it, I feel more motivated almost. I think that's the best way to explain it. I will go to the grocery store instead of just thinking I should. Or wash the dishes or a million other things.

However, I'm still super forgetful. So, we aren't at the right dosage, but I think we are going the right way. This makes super happy too. I didn't know my brain could slow down this way and it's almost like learning to think all over again.

Also, my emotions seem a little more balanced (not that I was out of control there). When people would talk about letting something go and not letting it effect them. I'm almost there. Like I feel better about drawing boundaries in how I'll be treated and how I'll react to it. I'm not sure it's the meds but ...

Sorry. I rambled. I just don't have anyone in my not cyberspace life that has ADHD to talk with on the same level. Although, they are all encouraging.

Thank you for reading!

Don't forget to be kind.

I'm going to my first ever drive-in movie. I'm super excited. I bought a million snacks and got blankets and that's all.

I'm just bouncing here and squeeing happily before heading out in like half an hour.

I'm sad I don't have Discord right now. Wishing you all the best on your connections though!

I've fucked up a lot over the years. I mean, like a lot of us, I was in the community before I was even 20. Sooooo decisions were made.

I've trusted people I shouldn't have.
I've hurt people that didn't deserve it.
I've taken things personally when they weren't.
I've said shit I should have just shut up about but thought I knew everything (spoiler alert: I didn't)

I mean, we are human and we do fucked up things in our human, flawed nature. We still have the capacity to change and to admit our part in it. I'd like to think regardless of what I did or sometimes did not do when I should have - that I've turned out on the kinder side of things. Might not be true, but I try.

We've all grown and that's pretty awesome actually.

@ganymede

It's been awhile since I posted here. Mainly because I forgot my password. Forgot who I could reach out to. Remembered. Got it and here I am. Then I felt HORRID about reaching out, it's fine.

I went to my doctor and was like, let's talk about meds and such. Then I went to a therapist who said I had moderate ADHD. I was super excited by that, until my sister reminded me that mild and moderate are not the same; even if my brain tried to tell me they were.

So long story short (sorry). I have started meds. The first dose was nothing. This one still isn't right as they have to up it to find the right one. However, I expected to be cracked out since it's speed-ish. My heart doesn't race though. My brain feels a bit more mellow. Not like I don't care about things, but like it's not this constant spinning issue.

Anyways. I just wanted to share. Nothing else.

@ganymede Other things broken: MY HEART,

@ganymede

(cancels her trip to come visit)

Sure!

I think that like any relationship though, it's on the two people involved to put the label that best fits them. If they label themselves best friends. They are best friends. If they label themselves writing partners. They are writing partners.

When it comes down to it, we are all people sharing our time and talents with each other. I don't know if it needs a label. I think it's more important that we are respecting the people around us and appreciative of their time and interpersonal communication. Sometimes I think we lose too much of the enjoyment by trying to define it and put the label on it.

Also @Ganymede we are totally friends. You don't get a say (j/k). We were friends from the first cat pic.

I'm all about shared enjoyable experiences. Both ways on that. I want to enjoy what I am typing. I want you to enjoy what you are typing.

This goes with my always happy, super huggy, super complimentary PC too. It's not everyone's bag of chips to have the always chipper one. So I tone her down when needed too.

Here's my thoughts and they are not right or wrong, they are just thoughts. It means it also doesn't invalidate your thoughts if you disagree.

I think if you are going to play a character that is not a 'white hat' on a game that is a majority of white hats a few things have to be in place. The first being the player cannot be a jerk OOC. I think they have to be understanding and co-operative. They can't be the 'it's what my PC would do' (shrug) sort of person. This moves into the other area, which is also OOC. If you are going to take a stance that goes against the views or are traditional to non-traditional, you have to be willing to pull back the 'jerk' part of it if it makes PC uncomfortable.

The PC itself needs to have connections, friends, etc. They need to be more well-rounded than just to sow discontent. They also have to have a reason for their thoughts. Which can be an RP avenue but not a quick fix. Maybe they have a bias. Maybe it's a culture. Something that time and experience can be a 'redemption' story.

That's just my thoughts though.

@ominous

I hate the dating scene too. Feel free to trade stories.

@eye8urcake

I know how it feels to just HATE how you look in something or dread going to something where there might be drama. Like Derp said, fuck them.

You are the amazing person you are. You look how you look. Rock that. If you are uncomfortable in the dress, it's only for a few hours and besides, there is even a song that says vanilla is the finest of the flavors. So you be that vanilla cone! You be the best dessert in a desert you can be.

As to the people. Yep, fuck em. Don't give any of them the power of how you feel about you. I know it's hard, but sometimes people suck. You go to that wedding. You watch your son marry the person he's chosen. You dance in that moment to that song and you enjoy being included, being there, and the celebration of love. Don't worry about the other details. They won't be remembered when you look back on the memory, just that you were there and the happiness will.

@misadventure

I use to read that webcomic religiously. I haven't read it in years though.