I don't think it matters that players are looking for things that are a bit different. Numbers, groups...yes it's a lot for Staff to deal with, but you also have to understand that PLAYERS can run things for each other, too. As long as people are patient (key word there) and understand that EVERYONE has RL to deal with, then you can have something smooth, inviting, and engaging. Big group, lil group...it's all about support.
Sometimes, Staff doesn't have enough support. On the other hand, sometimes players don't have enough support, either. As a Staffer, Player, Storyteller, I like supporting other's creativity and working with them as best as I possibly can. You're welcomed to play where you want, and should feel that way.