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Yes. But I realized I was responding to your question if I wanted to talk about them from the Peeves thread and decided to move it to critters.

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This is Mimi. She is an almost exact copy of her mommy, right down to the line to get left eye that goes to the corner of her ear. She loves cuddles and has zero fear whatsoever. She was the first to learn to climb people and is very upset now that the vet has clipped her claws. My legs are happy and starting to heal though. When we had mom she always wanted to do whatever mom was doing, and I swear half the reason she ate so much was simply because mom was so into eating. Now that mom has been separated she is way more into bouncing and chasing her brother about, but isn't against a good cuddle too.

This is Jack. He was named first because his single white spot looks like a white tie - he is dapper! He is also our trouble maker. If anything can be gotten into he WILL. His mother was an excellent escape artist but she was big enough we usually caught her in the doorway. Jack though has escaped and made it into other rooms before we are able to catch him. He is also fearless af. He will go right up to our two cats and hiss to let them know he is the boss. My senior cat is not happy and has wacked him before I could drive in after one of his escapes. He is usually the first to pounce his sisters and will gnaw the heck out of their ears. With mom gone we have also learned he can YOWEL. He lets his displeasure KNOWN.

Finally we have Jill. She got her name from Jack because when they first arrived the two were inseparable. Since Jack has become so much more outgoing that has changed, but the name stuck. Jill is way more chill than either of her siblings. While the two of them race their brains out she sits and watches till they stay in place long enough to pounce. She LOVES toys and will happily lay on her back in my lap and bat at the soft toys I bought for them. While Mimi or Jack will fall asleep by themselves Jill requires some kind of cuddle to sleep. She has adopted me as a safe cuddle spot, but if she had her preference she would be at the bottom of a siblings pile. We were so surprised to learn she had torn her cage up when waking up from being spayed, but reflecting as I write this I think she was just scared to wake up alone.

Jill at the bottom of a cuddle pile as happy as a cat can be.

Eric Carle.

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So... I forgot to post that I brought home 5 more kittens!

They've been here long enough to have finished quarantine and joined Hansel and Gretel in the big kitten room.

So now we have one 7-kitten pile, with poor Tortie Gretel feeling so sad for being the only non black baby.

Names: James T. Kirk, Kathryn Janeway, Jean-Luc Picard, Christopher Pike, and Benjamin Sisko (Collectively the Captains)

The tortie is Gretel and her brother is also black, Hansel.

Randomly surprised today. Fireworks are a hot button issue on Nextdoor. Every week someone posts complaining. Usually, I don't engage, but there has been a LOT and last night one went off at the same time as one of my fosters was having a hard time in the litter box. It made them and a sibling jump. The mess was bad enough I had to give this poor baby a bath.

So I posted that the fireworks were hard on my poor fosters. Someone posted a flippant reply. I waited a few hours and replied that I understood people want to celebrate but that I still felt empathy for my poor babies and that I felt their comment was heartless.

Thus the surprise!!!

They APOLOGIZED and wished my kittens well.

There is some small hope left guys.

@ganymede

I want the line between posts back.

I think the most important thing is to know exactly what is NOT allowed. Have a clear line of demarcation where anything past X is forbidden. I think you would have to draw several lines too, depending on the context. Magic? Combat? Beasties? Npcs? World Impact?

Whatever isn't allowed, let me know.

I'm finding all of this super fascinating. Except the last few posts.

@Ghost gdi, you posted something serious while I was typing.

ALRIGHT, back on target:
I ten billion percent agree with @insomniac7809 and @Roz said. If you're going to cheat ICly and you LEGIT are keeping things 100% IC, then you have to leave some tells. Pose some bite marks (seriously, do people DO THAT IRL? Don't answer, I don't actually want to know.), or random undies, or whatever. There has to be an IC way to respond to that kind of information or some way to find it out. Even if you don't pose those things to THEM directly, do it to their friends who will go or WHATEVER. But give a way for the story to go forward.

MOVING ON:

If your PC is going to cheat IC on another character do you feel obligated to let your partner's player know?

If you guys are already talking OOCly, then fuck yes. I always thought it was a super jerk move when someone was 'omg so happy chatty' and then their character was cheating but they never said anything. That's Grossss.

Do you think you are responsible for a character whose roleplay is related to yours if your paths are to separate? In other words do you feel guilty someone else's PC might become quote/unquote unplayable because of your IC choices?
Very closely related to the above, what if the choice that takes a PC mostly off the table is OOC? For instance if you stop being active on my PC's spouse to play an alt with Theno's PC. Do I have the moral high ground to get pissed off?

Gonna lump these together because they are super close. Number 1- no. I do not make your character unplayable. YOU make your character unplayable by refusing to branch out and find new avenues of RP outside of our relationship. Can it be a major hurtle? Absolutely. The first time my shy bi-ass greenrider lost his first major love because he found a girl while they were taking a break I cried all across New Mexico. However, I never ever EVER told the player how I felt. Instead I found new things to do with K'vv and he is still a huge part of my heart. He became so important to me BECAUSE of his growth. Ending a relationship isn't the end of the character unless the player doesn't do something to keep it going.
If I'm getting ghosted I do have a right to be angry. If they're still holding onto a character that mine is tied up with and they refuse to give me some closure, I'm going to be bitter. They need to (wo)man up, tell me it's over (ICly/OOCly, I don't care) so I can move the fuck on. We don't even have to break up on camera, that's fine. Whatever. But don't put me in a closet and expect me to stay there forever.

When it comes to TS what's the correct way to suggest it? Do you let the RP become more explicit until the big words come out or you get told no? Do you page the other player first and explicitly ask if they want to do it? Something else?

I generally let the RP lead to it, but when I realize it's gonna get hot I've grown a spine in the last year or so to go firmly, "No, I don't want this." Then HANDWAVE HANDWAVE HANDWAVE and it's fine. I will say that I've had A LOT fewer RP requests for one-on-one scenes since I put my "FTB Only" disclaimer on my female PC's +fingers. I've also found an uptick in the number of male players who DON'T read my finger who after I go "FTB plz" go 'okay!' and then never RP with me again.

Assuming OOC consent between adult players is there anything in an IC relationship, including TS, that you consider unethical? No, I'm not going to give examples since I'm keeping this classy! But you can.

I am fairly conservative IRL, so there is a LOT that I would find super objectionable. But as long as I can live in my corner and pretend that stuff isn't happening, I don't care. Just don't tell me. Please. God. Don't. Tell. Me.

Others

Okay. So. Here's a situation I found myself in. A character who was a friend of mine was sleeping/dating another character. NOT with my character. We'd still RP (friend and I) fairly often. I got PAGES upon PAGES of messages from their partner "weather checking" "So, you guys are just friends right?" "I'm worried he's cheating on her" "You aren't sleeping with him, right?" -- On, and on, and on. It drove me INSANE since my character was straight up gay and had ZERO interest in this character-friend that way. I, of course, told my friend what was happening (oh, and I reported it, but that staff was junk so). When does it fall on my friend to tell her IC partner, "You have to stop, and if this doesn't, <insert consequence here>.?

I should find the game I was playing with my kids the other day about poetry vocabulary. Figured out super quick that it was made for more of a high school audience when the poem's second line started with "bullshit" in all its 2 inch glory before my 9-11 year olds.

You know that aghast gasp on corny TV shows when something bad happens?

It is real.

If the RP and organic interactions with other people aren't the focus of the game, I won't play. If the systems overwhelm or prevent that basic focus you'll lose me.

I hated the SW game where I'd ask my little known group, 'hey, you wanna rp?' and they would respond, "yeah, in <insert number> when my shipment is done." That just murdered my desire. I am an adult with a bed time. In the evening I have 3-4 hours tops. If I can't find rp in the first hour, it isn't happening that night.

I'm really mad at myself for letting some of the Arx systems get the better of my rp. I can rp without them, but I got in my own head.

That moment when every thing goes sideways and you get to decide how you want to fall. swoons in happiness

@Pandora said in Accounting for gender imbalances:

I'm hesitant to go to HR to file a grievance against someone I consider a friend.

Friends don't let friends make a toxic work enjoyment.

But more seriously- you are in a professional environment and so is he. Quirky viewpoints are fine, but they need to be taken up outside of a work environment. It doesn't sound like people are able to work when he goes on these rants. Thay is what I would report to HR.

@mietze said in Learning how to apply appropriate boundaries:

I would say making a big ooc deal about annoyance issues rather than truly deep discomfort ones can be a boundary violation in itself, so I understand the caution.

I think this is where I always stumble, and I've never been able to figure out where I fall on it. There's an issue on one of my games where there's someone I simply can't stand. But I can't think of any game rules they're breaking - or even bending.

So even though they make me really uncomfortable to the point where I turn off channels/log off to get away from them... they aren't doing anything wrong.

In the end I usually err on the side of not doing anything and praying they go away before I reach my limit. Which... isn't helpful, but they're not doing anything wrong, you know?

"poop with trump in it" <-- found in the browser history of one of my students.

Having a scene that's so awesome it inspires you to want to go do other scenes. @thesuntsar is amazing.

When a kiddo I had four years ago sees me in the hallway and still wants to give me a hug.

I totally get wanting to not leave the after hanging. My personal favorite way to do it is to handwave the actual sex, but still to play out the after-glow. It's not as explicit, but I still know where their relationship stands after they've had sex.

One of my babies posted this on our learning management system today, and I am so sad that I can't give her a hug.

"I really miss you and my freinds, and because of that, I can't really focus. I miss real school."

These are musings not directed at anyone as evidenced by the lack of @atting. I don't actually care who said what, all the words together made me use.

1. How many people don't play PoC because they don't WANT to contribute to a stereotype?
   Me Musing: I grew up in Rural Colorado and DID go to BYU (so whomever compared something to BYU campus you are DEAD ON with that comparison.) I didn't have a single PoC teacher //ever//. It wasn't until I went to Houston, Texas, and had a beautiful and amazing mentor teacher for my student teaching, that I had PoC mentor. Those four months shaped my ENTIRE attitude around race and relations because I finally saw what I'd only "read" about in books. Legit - even my TESOL class that dealt with race in the classroom was taught by a white woman. Come on BYU, you can do better.

2. When thinking about "blue eyes" or other popular topes, how much of our ideal over them being "rare" and "pretty" is tied into systematic ideas of what is/isn't attractive?
   Me Musing: To be clear, I'm not accusing anyone of intentional racism or exclusion, or whatever. We're all built by what we are raised as. Both my elder sister and I married guys with blond hair and EXCEPTIONALLY beautiful blue eyes. How much of that was shaped by the fact that we were raised to see blue eyes as beautiful but weren't exposed till later in life to the beauty in other colors?

Okay, I will make an exception:

@Tinuviel and @Kanye-Qwest just kiss already and get it over with. #teamTK.