Posts made by silverfox

@Wretched

I loved this so much.

I was at the point of tears when it was pointed out to me that my event started without me. (I cannot seem to get the 24 hour clock + time zone differences right for some reason.)

But I logged on and another character who had zero idea why I was holding the event held down the fort for me, and everyone was so nice OOCly about my being 1.5 hours late to my own event.

So much gratitude. So. Much. Gratitude.

@saturna

clutches heart

@saturna

None of the links work.

Snoowww ddaayyyyy!

@Testament

This sounds like elementary school....

Good gods if your child throws up please keep them home.

@Arkandel @Wretched @Pandora

I would love. love. love. something like this. My first Moo was completely not-private so I have zero expectation of privacy now. For me, not having anything private is something I signed on to at 16 and have accepted for the past 15 years.

I'm currently chrome-only (and I love it) which makes a unique problem when it comes to logs. I can take them, but I currently don't have a program that will allow me to open a log after. I could probably sit down and think out a way to get around that. (Maybe I could log and go find a public computer or hold down my husband long enough to use his?) However, I'm too much of a limp noddle to do that. I'd convince myself it's all my fault (true story) and give up long before I retrieved the log. If there was a code I could type that would log and send it to me after, then I would't have that middle step. Then I could reflect on what //actually// happened rather than what my brain twists it into and perhaps make a logical rather than emotional response.

(My brain is also going right now, "Just copy and paste the conversation dumb-ass." To which I reply, "Usually I'm too upset in the moment to do that.")

My husband's grandfather died, but no one is communicating anything on the funeral or whatnot.

I want him to be able to go if he can.... but I need to get a substitute now if we are going.

I'm someone who has major issues talking with staffers. It's my own personal issue, and so I'll totally not report someone for behavior because I can't find a 'rule' they've broken, or I'm afraid that I'll be told in return that I was the one in the wrong the whole time and that I need to appologize to them for what happened.

If I did finally gather up my courage to report something then this:

@Auspice said in How To Treat Your Players Right:

All it takes is a personalized: 'I'm sorry that you're dealing with this. I understand this can be difficult and we thank you for coming forward: we had no idea this was going on and we will certainly look into the matter.'

is exactly what I'd want. "We heard you." Then whatever comes after, comes after.

This is a good puppy.

https://giphy.com/gifs/crufts-bearded-collie-colin-skeaping-5ns6dF52k99daL0qXj

@moth

@Kanye-Qwest

No one should ever feel bad about where they get their puppies from.

@moth

Excuse me. We would like the picture anyway pretty please.

Why yes. I did watch that whole thing and then fell into a YouTube hole. Thank you very much.

@faraday @Ghost

So I've never even seen a tabletop game (I have heard of them lots! But I've never even been in the same room!) so I'm so so so sorry if I ask stupid questions because I don't have that background.

That apology given :

What do you usually do to start a scene, or if you are building something larger than one scene, how do you begin that?

@Ghost gh

So this was kinda the stuff I was looking for, but didn't want to limit it because I was curious for all the stuff ever being a 100% novice to GMing. (Aka, concrete do and don'ts, even if the advice doesn't agree with one another like the planning it all out vs planning bits.)

So looking at #3
"If they roll their own checks and roll a 2 on a d20, they almost always assume failure, so the hive mind adjusts for that failure"

What does that mean? What is the hive mind?

And going further, what does it mean to roll their checks for them?

How do you approach GMing scenes? What's your way of putting method to the madness? Do you plan things out in depth, or just the broad strokes, or what? How do you decide what people @check and so forth?

@Cupcake said in When To Stop Listening To Those Voices:

If you feel you're being ignored or only minimally acknowledged in a scene, is there a healthy way to assert yourself to remind others that you're present?

So I was going to reply in the way that everyone else did, then I stood back and looked at myself.

I have someone I have decided to completely disengage with. I'm avoiding them quite on purpose because having them around me puts me into full bitch mode and I don't LIKE being in bitch mode. Thus I've missed out on a few scenes I wanted to go to because avoiding this person was more important to me. There were two times though, that the scene was important enough to my character's story I felt that I HAD to be there. In that case, I went.... and ignored their poses. Purposefully. If they joined my place, I found an excuse to leave. If someone paged me about them, I asked them to please not page me about them.

I don't even know what I would do if they paged me and asked what was up. When it comes down to it, they're not the problem. The way I find myself reacting to them is the problem.

So. TLDR, that's a really good question. I dunno.

My read aloud just made my students cry. (Good, happy tears.)

Nothing works all of the time. I just find that I'm less angry at myself for not being able to be involved if I can find someone else to focus on for a bit. Maybe it's someone I know is a friend/friendly. Maybe it's people that are out in public and I crash.

Last time I felt really crappy I went on a crafting spree and gave everything away and it made me feel okay that I was doing something that made someone else feel better even if it didn't solve my underlying problem.

At least I had a different message running for a little bit.

(Again, it's not always going to work. Nothing always works.)