Best posts made by Sunny

While I would love to see a Dark Crystal game, I would NOT want to see it from someone whose primary interest is in making/running a WoD game (or any other game). I'd rather see someone who is interested in doing a Dark Crystal game do it. They're not even similar themes.

I find this kind of suggestion kind of jerk-ish towards those people who are putting the time and effort into making a WoD game. It's not what I want? But obviously if they're going through the immense undertaking of making a game, that's what they want to do, and being a snoot about it is just blech. Even in light humor, I think it's a lot meaner to say than people realize it is.

ETA: Leave people making WoD games (or any other genre the general 'you' is not a fan of) alone. Let them make whatever game they want. If you think there should be a different type of game than what is being offered, telling people who are making another type of game to change what they're doing...is not the way to go about it, and is unkind.

I hate everything.

@WildBaboons said in Getting Young Blood Into MU*'ing:

@Auspice said in Getting Young Blood Into MU*'ing:

Does it suck if no one acknowledges you? Sure. But I also, personally, don't give a shit if a couple people don't. So long as I have someone/thing to respond to (and that people I specifically address react), I'm good.

This. I've absolutely been in scenes where absolutely no one acknowledges my presence. Directed statements and actions just no responded to like they never happened. It sucks.... but really, I don't think the expectation is there to react to everyone if what they do doesn't involve you in any way. If someone hands you a soda, react to it.. but if they hand Sally a can of pop you really don't need to acknowledge it unless it was meant to be your can of coke.

While I agree this SHOULD be the way it is, it absolutely is not the case across cultures. There are some games @tek is probably playing on where it IS the case, culturally. I judge that culture harshly (JUDGEY EYES), but it IS something that they have likely encountered and are not just misunderstanding it.

it really, really, really, really sucks to not actually be able to trust my brain.

I may have completely misunderstood this, mind, but it's been my impression that it isn't 'racism bad', it's 'RL racism your players have to deal with is bad'. People don't want to deal with the same crap they do in their real lives, generally. Pretendy racism is fine.

So anti-FAE? OK for RP. Nazi? That's where folks' issue is. Nobody is actually a faerie trying to live in a human's world, so the oppression/racism/issues aren't the types of things that folks object to, when they do object.

ETA: There is a wide gulf between 'this is something I/my parent/my grandparent/my friend had to live with/lives with every day' and fabricated situations/stories. Anti-fae slurs don't call the same things to mind. This sort of setting is a good, generally safe way to explore these harder topics, really. WITHOUT doing damage to real people who have had to deal with real situations.

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@faraday said in Consent in Gaming:

@Sunny said in Consent in Gaming:

I can see your perspective, but I don't think there's a problem with somebody opting out of something even if it's just 'that's not fun for me' as a reason.

It's one thing to say: "Nah, no thanks" to a RP invitation because the plot/scene/whatever doesn't sound like fun. You can't force people to RP. That to me is different from raising a red flag on the scene using a rule designed to protect people from uncomfortable, potentially-triggering events.

And it's my opinion that FTB doesn't have to be for a 'red flag' event. That it's OK to use it surrounding 'this scene isn't fun'. My character did X. Yep, she did. She totally deserves to be chewed out by her commander. I don't want to roleplay it. Why does it have to happen on screen? I think it's just fine to FTB that. It's not even making me uncomfortable! It's just not fun and I don't want to play it.

ETA: Like, I do understand that this would be viewed as poor sportsmanship by some folks. I totally get it. I just don't agree that it is, that's all! I would thus not play on a game where this was viewed as poor sportsmanship, and would expect that were I running a game where I emphasized this was OK, those people who really don't agree wouldn't play there.

@GreenFlashlight

I find it helps to flip the script and be glad that he felt safe enough to get a tattoo like that without thinking very hard about the repercussions. He felt safe enough to get a freaking corp rainbow flag tattoo. Like, yay that he was able to do that stupid shit, right????

It was absolutely accepted and normal practice to switch to second person for all one on one scenes back when I started, as well. It may not have been everywhere, but early 90s WoD default was this way. It changed over the years. I only ever see it as a red flag if I request that it stop and they have a problem with that. Otherwisr, well, that's how they probably learned to play and don't realize some folks don't like it. I think it's projection to say that it's because there is IC/OOC bleed.

ETA: I mean, I think there is a huge dose of projection all over this thread, even if nobody else is going to say it, lol. Some people being unable to handle their shit does not apply universally, suddenly. Sometimes people rolling their eyes and saying the problem is invented...well, it is actually because the problem has been invented. 1 out of 100 does not a common problem make.

@Wretched

But that IS away!!! If they were on the kitchen floor he’d have a point stuff goes where stuff gets used or I lose it. Out of sight out of mind (like a closet) is so bad.

@gryphter

Those are different issues. They have nothing to do with this. The short answer is that games are not legally obligated to care if kids lie. If the game becomes aware that a child is present that has lied to be there, via an IAgree, the game IS legally obligated to care, and to remove them if they are discovered. If it is an 18+ game.

I discovered a 17 year old on my game once upon a time. I talked to legal help VERY QUICKLY. Amusingly enough, I was able to obtain written permission from his mother to allow him to be there, we took some precautions, and everyone won. Legally tho, because of how it works, we generally can't be held liable if they lie.

People using the phrase "big pharma". I'm hearing a lot of it right now due to current events, and it drives me nuts. "Big Pharma" is the reason I'm fucking alive right now, thanks.

I was debating this as length last night with my partner (because of course I was), and what we came back to on this one is that it really boils down to a consent. I consented to let someone else read X; I did not consent for a different person to do so. When my issue stops being an issue for me is when the issue becomes big enough that it overrides the importance of my consent to me.

My privacy is mine, like my hand is mine and I don't want you to touch it if you don't have permission UNLESS you are, say, grabbing it to pull me out of the way of a semi truck I didn't see.

So the FEMA training I was doing this week was (I thought) above my paygrade, but I was taking it to be able to support our current team. It looks like ACTUALLY, I am going to get a new assignment in relation to the COVID crisis. I'm pretty excited. Emergency management is definitely something I'm starting to really get nerdy about, the more I get into it. They are gonna let me make PLANS, guys.

@Derp

Other people prioritize the comfort of the anxious over the comfort of the people making them that way. They have different priorities than you do. This is ok. I promise it is.

I have found it helpful, when discussing anti-Semitism, to listen to the Jewish people in the room that are speaking. If there is a conflict between MY UNDERSTANDING OF something a Jewish friend has told me, and something that a Jewish person is presently saying to me, I am best served to listen to what the Jewish person is telling me in the present sense, not arguing with their viewpoint based on what my friend told me. ^^ I don't have to AGREE of course, but I will never personally have the experience or understanding of being the target of this kind of persecution, and I can only be improved (rather than harmed) as a person by actually listening to what I am being told, even if it doesn't agree with something else I have been told.

@eye8urcake

I am SO DAMN HAPPY your experience is going well. I was really sure you were going to be a fit, and I was completely right. Everybody is as happy to have you as you are to be there, I promise. I heard lots of really good things.

@solstice

If you have the oomph and energy to do so (you should not feel like you're obligated), you could consider reporting her to her oversight board in your state/county. She's unlikely to face consequences from a single complaint of this sort of thing, but having a record of it on file will help, and if other people have ALSO complained--it might eventually get teeth.

Also, it's super helpful from a 'cement in my mind she was WRONG WRONG WRONG' standpoint. Because she was. So wrong. I'm really sorry you went through this.

Realizing that you just entrusted a stranger with the future direction of your character and a- they have no idea this is the case and b-you know they are good at rp and c- there is no way any angle is going to be anything but fun. I literally have ZERO idea what is going to come of this thing that I just did except that it is very likely to be awesome and it's a thrill.

ETA: Like literally even if I get a 'no bad you are a crazy person stop this' it will be awesome to play so squee.

I work in IT. I am doing so from home.

My coworkers that are working in the office dropping everything to run and be my hands for 2 minutes for part of a bit of troubleshooting? It's ducking priceless. I cannot possibly express my appreciation for them enough. Not having to send somebody back into a ticketing system because I can't physically flip a switch is super, super helpful.