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@Tinuviel said in How To Treat Your Players Right:

@faraday said in How To Treat Your Players Right:

I can't even imagine how you would respond to "Bob is being creepy" in a constructive fashion without logs or details.

You... ask for more information.

How do you do that if the complaint is anonymous, man?

Moved into my new office today.

All by myself!! It's warm, too!

I think because it kind of reduces amputees to just being that, like it's the thing that defines them, rather than it just being a character trait. People aren't their disabilities, and anything that leaves the impression that they are can be uncomfortable. Absolutely do not think that this was intentional or is malicious or bad in intent or anything, but I do think it's a little insensitive.

I'm old. I like to remind younger people of how terrible they were when they were younger than they are now in the hopes that they will treat now's kids nicer than older people treated me when I was the dumb kid answering the phone. I am now the grandma that asks about your day when I call in. It makes literally everyone's life better, and I get way better service, too. I have given up worrying whether or not they think I'm stupid. They don't care. They just want to not get yelled at.

I feel like there's a fundamental breakdown somewhere along the way here for some folks in this discussion.

'Incentives for RP' does not mean incentives for just any ol' RP. Some games used them that way, but that was because they were copying the games that came before them, not because they understood it.

Votes -- and other incentives -- have always been about rewarding the specific behavior you want to see.

Some games made them worth more for new people, some games made it so familiar people couldn't vote you once in a while, some games pooled them all together and split the rewards amongst the playerbase, some games capped how much a given person could spend, some games -- it goes on, and on, and on. But it's never been just 'we have to bribe people to play at all'.

So the question isn't actually 'how do I reward people for roleplaying when I do not want to use XP?' because you're right, it's stupid, and nobody's actually doing that. The question ACTUALLY is:

'how do I reward people for <a particular behavior I want to see, such as helping new people> without using xp?'

That's an easier question to answer, because it's specific, and it shows us all what we're actually trying to accomplish.

I hate that I have such an impossible time asking for help and it makes me resentful of people who have an easier time of asking, so they get what they need. I despise being resentful of other people when the actual issue is my own damn pride and I know it and it STILL HAPPENS. Stupid feels.

@krmbm said in Difference between an NPC and a Staff PC?:

And now we're back around to the optics: You, as a staffer, just made it appear that a relationship with a staff-run NPC is the way to get story.

The? No. It shows that it is A way to get story.

One of my friends runs a charity. They put a call out saying they need can openers, the handheld ones that don't require power (about 600 of them). Since then, she has started finding them on her porch in the morning. In her mailbox. On the step at her office. New, in boxes, shiny. No tag saying where they were from.

It's the can opener fairy.

(I'm pretty sure it's one of her kids, but it's still freaking HILARIOUS.)

@krmbm said in Difference between an NPC and a Staff PC?:

@Sunny said in Difference between an NPC and a Staff PC?:

If someone objects to an ethical staffer including a sexual element in their plot because it is a sexual element...

Do you think that's why people object? Because that's not why.

Then why do people object to an ethical staffer using the element? I don't understand, you're right. "Ethical" is the KEY part of that sentence.

@Seamus

The emergency management information I have been receiving from the federal government as part of managing this disaster disagrees with you. There is neither scare tactics nor scare media involved in this part of what is going on, and I assure you it is not just marginally worse than the flu. I suggest that you start paying attention to what's coming out of the CDC and comply with your local government's recommendations, rather than blowing it off as hype.

@Ganymede

I think it's inappropriate, regardless of profession, to equate roleplayed sex out to real life sex. That part of the premise is what I disagree with.

ETA: And I disagree with it vehemently, but I've said so repeatedly already so I'm not going into it again.

I really appreciate you making a separate thread for this.

Also:

@Ghost said in Poll: Do I enjoy this hobby more than I don't?:

Okay so my delivery was cheesy, but I think the sheer number of posts dedicated to complaining and breaking people down compared to the number of posts related to loving the hobby or working together is telling.

I think it's important to ponder it.

Enjoy pondering it. Let us know if you reach any conclusions beyond 'humans be humans and tend to complain more than they praise'.

@surreality

Yeah, 100% correct, I'm definitely not talking about "MSB: the Hobby", I am talking about the hobby we are talking about on the forum, which is mushing.

I'm tempted to ask the same question about MSB because I'm a (removing word for male genitalia; I typed it, so I'm calling myself out, but I did at least catch it), but I don't see a valuable conversation coming out of that. This? Yah.

Also: I RP with like, 2-3 other MSB folks on the regular. I have a "regular" roleplay circle of like 10 people I play with OFTEN, and WAY more than that that I interact with semi-regularly (a scene every week or two depending on what's going on).

The number of people who post on MSB (or even read here) are dwarfed by the number of people who do not post on MSB on one single game.

This place isn't anything beyond a discussion board. It's not a window, it's not an indication, it's not a reflection. You would have to have even a significant minority of mushers participating here for that to be true, and we don't. We are completely irrelevant as a community to the larger mushing community. Participating here matters very, very, very, very, very, very, very little (if anything) EVEN in the scope of the mushing community, let alone mattering in the real world.

Giving it any sort of weight or acting like it's any sort of canary in a coal mine is nonsense.

ETA: Seriously. MOST mushers haven't even HEARD of this place.

@Quinn

I use my RL name in my email and other places about the hobby. While I've had bad experiences with folks online, I have had far, far, far, far worse experiences with people who knew me in meat space first. Yes, bad things happen, crazy things happen, people do terrible things. Someone who thinks NOT sharing their email is actually keeping them safe? I'm pretty sure they're actually the one with the false sense of security.

I use Facebook. I mean, at all. I use it. It has my name, my town, and my picture on it. I am way, way, way, way, way more at risk just existing on FB than I am using my name in my email and sharing that with people. This is 2019. Google knows what I ate for dinner yesterday, even though I don't remember. Making a personal choice to be particularly private? I can understand that, absolutely.

Refusing to understand/acknowledge why someone might make a different choice, or saying that someone making a different choice is engaging in risky behavior does not take into consideration the realities of the digital world that we live in these days.

http://www.jlakes.org/ch/web/The-elements-of-style.pdf

All else is false. And wrong. And false and wrong. And also should be lit on fire. That's my professional opinion.

(I state again, in case anyone missed it, this is very specifically in reference to formal/business writing.)