I think there's also something to be said about it being more about tone differences, than superfriends vs not-superfriends. WoD in particular is really susceptible to differences in tone being basically like...gamebreaking/immersion breaking.
If we're not all taking the game at the same level of seriousness (not like, obsession with RP seriousness, but like, my fancy hat is important and we are not here to laugh! seriousness). Witness: the fishmalk showing up to Elysium, and how often that was a straight up night killer.
If people are playing two different versions of the game in WoD, it can get really hard to reconcile really quickly, even when it's tone and severity of said tone. In a lot of other settings, it's super easy to disregard the little bits of cognitive dissidence that goes on, but in WoD (old and new!) it's basically baked in that you have to care about wtf your neighbor is doing.