If I only ever have four sandwiches to bring because it’s a hard limit for me, then if you need more than that, I won’t ever be at your party. Please tell me up front, so I don’t waste everyone’s time.
I have in fact in recent history noped out of more than one game because their activity requirements were just too much. It was no hard feelings, I don’t think anyone was even crabby (a little disappointed maybe) but it wasn’t a PROBLEM.
My life and circumstances are HARD where RP is concerned. My job requires a LOT of mental and emotional energy to get through the day. It’s good, but it leaves me with very little left over for hobbies. I can find the time for my nearest and dearest when I have half a brain, but the full brain required for someone new is RARE. Not impossible, just rare. I still contribute, but it will never be through my gripping bar RP, not again. That’s just sort of how it is. Thankfully I have found a game where my situation works. Thank god I don’t have to deal with people who think not living on the game is a problem, any more.