@Catsmeow Pretty much that. Like... I have had the chance to get to know some folks in the hobby (some on the forums, some who never have been) well enough to know where plenty of bodies are buried re: RL stuff. I'd still never repeat that stuff, even if I dislike the person intensely.
Something game-ethics related? Yeah, if somebody wants that to not get out, they really need to just not tell me, because I can't just... not say something, even if it's telling them, "That is so not OK," and if it isn't knocked off? Yeah, I will say something. So if somebody wants to be an unethical ass on a game, seriously: don't tell me.
RL stuff, though? That's somebody's life, not public entertainment fodder. I realize a lot of people don't bother making that distinction, so there's probably all manner of 'fun' stuff I've shared privately with people that has made the rounds, which is partly why I'm a cagey cow these days.
I just... kinda can't do that. So I figure there have to be other people who are the same, just like the people who think any given personal RL tidbit they find out is a new toy to play with. At least there's consolation in knowing it goes both ways?