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@mietze said in Why We Don't Make New Friends Anymore (Or Creepers Do Creepy Things):

Almost all of my chosen family locally ate people I met because of mushing

Probably a smart choice, that.

It's the "and actually manages to change their behaviour" part that most of our repeat offenders have problems with. I wouldn't have an issue with someone returning incognito if they'd actually changed their ways, I'm willing to assume that most people that do this have changed and are no longer a problem. But the more... pervasive ones we all know and love seem incapable of change.

You people and your instant leap from "providing incorrect information" right to "lying liar that lies" is fucking fascinating.

@Misadventure said in Cyberrun:

To me, highlights that 18 is a magical number in these considerations, especially when OFTEN people end up at 18-20 so it's really close to that line. If we're so concerned, why is that?

The number itself isn't important, but the cultural mores that surround it. Right or wrong, eighteen is (in many English-speaking nations) the dividing line between adulthood and childhood. In the real world, the difference between the minute before midnight and the minute after on an eighteenth birthday doesn't cause a change - we all know this... except bouncers outside pubs, apparently.

However. Playing someone eighteen or over is a decision to play an adult, playing someone below the age of eighteen is a decision to play a child. So the number itself isn't as important as the decision behind the choice of character type.

@silverfox said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Man. I hate when my husband makes something and works REALLY HARD at it and I just.. don't like it.

I feel like I should be a better wife.

That's no way to talk about your children.

@Misadventure said in Cyberrun:

And why doesn't Pris skeeve people? She's a 4 year old in an adult body, slated to be a sex worker.

Though this isn't remotely the same discussion, she does skeeve people. She's supposed to.

@Kestrel said in Getting into Writing:

Do you think creativity can be taught

It cannot, but that isn't to say that creativity cannot be learned. The main goal with any "using and understanding language" course is not to teach people how to use and understand language, really. It's teaching how to learn how to do it. It may sound like splitting hairs, but I entirely disagree.

I'm sure everyone can recall an English class in which one has been instructed to tear apart a supposedly great novel line by line with the intellectual equivalent of a scalpel. The idea behind that isn't to teach how to understand that book, but to teach how one can learn to approach and understand nearly any creative work.

One cannot be taught to be creative, but one can be taught how to learn what their creativity is. I believe every human being is capable of being creative, but almost no one is capable of being creative at all things or in all ways.

Though I would also argue that RP is less "creative writing" than it is improv and acting that just happens to be written down.

@Arkandel I don't think people want to be "in demand" in as much as they want to avoid being sidelined. "Sorry, we already have a healer and a tank..." So I'd argue that it's less about pure utility than it is about a combination of utility and a chance to actually do the thing you joined the game to do.

@Wizz said in Cyberrun:

Nobody here is on the fence about pedophilia, dude

I mean... I'm in the camp of "paedophilia is a mental health condition, child molestation is the crime." But that's just semantics in a conversation like this.

@Kestrel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Having a really light-hearted, fun, casual, jokey conversation about ordinary and not even passably problematic things.

Some rando butting in: I see you are all talking about things that make you happy. Let me tell you about the sadness that plagues my life and why I myself could never experience such happiness as you are currently enjoying. It all began when I was a small child ...

Oh, so you know my mother too?

No matter what MU you're on, RP is all consensual. Generally, a MU will advertise X, Y, and Z as their main themes or sources of roleplay. That's what you're consenting to by connecting and continuing to play. Anything outside of the base game expectations requires further information - that is to say OOC communication.

Set boundaries, establish priorities, and reach an understanding with the other player. It doesn't necessarily have to all happen in one long conversation, but it does have to happen. This is the same for super scary RP as it is for relationship RP as it is for combat-leading-to-maiming RP.

A person can't consent to something you want if you don't spell it out, so if you wilfully lie to them OOC and do something that goes against what you said, you've broken the unspoken rules of human interaction.

@aria said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@tek said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Imposter syndrome can eat my whole ass

Imposter syndrome is probably into that.

Yeah, but everyone secretly knows imposter syndrome is bad at it. And it won't be long until someone finally points out that imposter syndrome shouldn't actually be here, this is a place for professional and actual analinguists.

@Jennkryst I find religious discussions with you lot even worse than constantly being reminded Mummy exists, so I opted not to include it.

@aria said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

What is the phrase for feeling like you're being gaslit by 300 million people?

An election campaign.

Similarly, we shouldn't be aiming for 'back to normal.' Normal got hundreds of thousands of people killed. We should be aiming for better than normal.

@Jeshin At least in my case I tend to frown on overly sexualised PBs. I don't care about the person in the picture doing or wearing whatever, but the thought process behind the choice of that particular picture out of all the others of the PB? That usually has me looking in askance.

That and celebrities that have been... rather terrible people, especially if the action is recent.

@arkandel said in RL Anger:

@ominous said in RL Anger:

Who the fuck doesn't like fried chicken and watermelon?

<shiftylook> Uh, I don't love spitting out seeds.

Don't eat chickens with seeds in.

@Pandora That is in no way what I said, and you know it. "They are playing favourites" does not mean "and nobody else is."

Secondly, we were asked for our opinions, not for balanced debate. Not every group of people with a similar opinion is an echo chamber.

ETA: I also didn't say that they were playing favourites if they TS'd with their NPCs. Just that it comes across as such, which is often more important than what is actually happening.

It is not a pipe.

@Arkandel I think there's a slight mismatch in your first question. Character promiscuity and TS habits aren't always linked. Promiscuous characters don't need to engage in TS at all, and one person could play several monogamous characters.

@Ghost said in TS - Danger zone:

What is the definition of a SAFE TS partner, and if TS is just creative writing why is safety an important factor?

A person that sees TS in the same light as you do. The fact that we've had several reasonably reliable reports of stalkers, crossing games and crossing into RL, indicates that just because X-person believes that TS is only creative writing, Y-person isn't guaranteed to share the same opinion.