@sockmonkey said in Social Stats in the World of Darkness:
Some people really enjoy rolling up characters who are perfect at everything and cannot be manipulated/persuaded/intimidated/etc. And that's fine. If that's their version of fun, then..
I would also say to that, there are stats that cover that. Resolve, Composure, Rigid mask, Indomitable... So if you wanna be totally blase, i would expect people to have the stats that represent that.
@surreality said in Respecs.:
WoD also really forces a lot of hyper-specialization, which is factor, too. To be very good at your special thing, you pretty much suck at everything, or nearly everything, else. You really are pretty much stuck with 'pick ONE'.
I don't really agree with this, i think gamer min max culture has more to do with it seeming like it's like that than it is.
A single success is a success. A skill at 3 is 'you are a professional in this skill' an attribute at 3 is you are /good/ in that area. Dex 3 int 3 medicine 3 is a damned good doctor, add bonuses for tools and operating rooms and whatever, you are almost guaranteed a success MOST of the time.
The way it tends to work on MUs however is 'Damnit i don't have 5's in every trait and 45 dice in this area and i wont get an average of 7 successes every time.. GOD I SUCK.
Sorry tangential peeve, carry on.
Edit:My point being is there is plenty of room to have many skills if you dont insist on being 'the very best surgeon on the planet here in this podunk towns hospital' Not being Stephen hawking doesn't make you a terrible scientist, etc./
@goldfish Sometimes i'll even play with some metapose if i know my character is being a dick.
"<Some assholish statement>" Did he just? ... yes, yes he just said that, with a straight face even, he's gotta be sarcastic right? RIGHT? Alas, No, Grover is just a prick, apparently.
I got a new drawing tablet like 15 minutes ago, and now it's all set up.
@silverfox This is something I struggle with. If someone hits my buttons i start fixating and growling like a Bugs Bunny villain. These days i can USUALLY catch myself when i am doing it, but sometimes I don't and i'm not exactly proud of it. This leads to me second guessing myself a lot before i make decisions/replies. Sitting back and thinking 'Okay is what they are asking/doing/wanting actually bad or do they just rub me wrong?' and often trying to put myself into their perspective or see how i would approach.
I think the worst thing is not that we have flaws, but to not work to fix them when you realize it/have them pointed out. I mean people who have known me for a time know i can be more than a little cantankerous, opinionated, set in my ways. I've bitten peoples heads off over little shit and for most of that I have some remorse. What really gets under my skin is when people are like 'well I'm just an asshole' as if that acceptance and ownership was the only thing required. Well you know i'm a prick so do dee dee, that removes all responsibility from me because by georsh Im an asshole and i said it out loud. It's just a fucking cop out.
@Thenomain It is not easy, and I still dread the next complaint that comes in, because i will always question my decisions when I am in a position of power like that.
When we banned Henry/Jingshen/Whatever million alts, I had players crawling out of the woodwork paging and thanking me that I was overwhelmed, and my first reaction is OMG PLEASE JUST REPORT THESE PEOPLE, but i can also now see why some people are gunshy, staffers are people too, and whether true or not, not everyone trusts staffers. I mean I am not always the easiest person to talk to when i have a bee in my bonnet either, but it is something I am trying to work on.
Related story time: As we are going through all of the old newsfiles from TR and FC for Miami, we noticed a lot of aggression in tone in the news and rules files. So many of them were written (I presume) immediately after someone fucked up.
We ddint wanna make this rule but now we have to so blah blah stop pressing your buttholes to the glass you asshole sphinx cat wannabies!.
And that might be a small contributor to the problem, and it was even pointed out to me as I was writing things by other staffers. Sometimes we let our exasperations shine through when writing rules that have become necessary. What this can do is immediately put people on the defensive, especially when it comes to sensitive things like TS. OMG IF YOU HAVE THIS KINDA TS AND STAFF HAS TO DEAL WIT H IT, U R BANNED Which doesn't help. Consent is consent. Don't shame people for consenting, shame people for not respecting consent.
I will probably not hit the nail on the head here all the time, but I will try to. I think those of us making genuine efforts to make our games safe places, where we respect one another, that people will be able to tell the difference between that and people who are genuinely abusive.
And to be clear, as many times as you and i have been at odds, or miscommunicate, I've always found you to be one of the most genuinely helpful people in this hobby. I consider you a friend and would never judge your intentions to be malicious. Mad 
for you.
So, people who have dealt with harassment and haven't wanted to speak to staff, for fear of favortism or nothing being done, or being outed... what can change to make you more comfortable reporting harassment? How can the community change, both on staff and player levels?
@Ghost
The Satanic Temple has seven fundamental tenets:
One should strive to act with compassion and empathy towards all creatures in accordance with reason.
The struggle for justice is an ongoing and necessary pursuit that should prevail over laws and institutions.
One's body is inviolable, subject to one's own will alone.
The freedoms of others should be respected, including the freedom to offend. To willfully and unjustly encroach upon the freedoms of another is to forgo your own.
Beliefs should conform to our best scientific understanding of the world. We should take care never to distort scientific facts to fit our beliefs.
People are fallible. If we make a mistake, we should do our best to rectify it and resolve any harm that may have been caused.
Every tenet is a guiding principle designed to inspire nobility in action and thought. The spirit of compassion, wisdom, and justice should always prevail over the written or spoken word.
@mietze said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:
I would be curious as to how many women feel that way. I do too (less so now that i'm old) but always chalked it up to being raised fundamentalist with impossible and rather gross standards. I liked to read. I didn't like makeup. I questioned things. I was told I had a rebellious spirit and unless I curbed it no real man would want me.
So, in my sophomore year of highschool, I met my Highschool BFF, and she was GOTH AF, and really put a name to a lot of my vibe and i too became GOTH AF (Because I am an individual!)
One of the things my mother would say to me growing up, during and after high school was 'No girl is gonna want a guy like that. No one will be attracted to you. Etc' Lucky for me, she was dead wrong and there were apparently many women who liked skinny guys in eyeliner with piercings and a mohawk, so fuck her 'just a phase' nonsense. Just one example, but my family was a very judgy one towards people outside of 'norms' (except for my Oma who has always been the best and most supportive), and as I get older (and as my wife points it out to me) i realize how much that environment fucked up my self esteem over the years.
So, what Fates harvest does (and what we are using a version of for Miami) is both Xp and Arcade Tickets. Xp has a weekly cap and it's fairly easy to reach with minimal staff interference. Once said cap is reached for the week, you instead earn an alternate currency that can be used for a variety of other things.
I like this, because well, i've had more than a little experience with XP going awry. When people go 'Oh Wretched, it's only a +1, Its just another +1, it's just another +1. And then one PC has 1500 xp because headstaff gets burnout and another staffer decides to do all the XP jobs for members of their own IC RP group and it derails the entire games XP system.
Not that i'm bitter.
I am generally with the 'I am in this hobby to be in this hobby' and I really hate xp based incentives, because it always starts out as 'oh its just a minor thing'. and then 'well you allowed that minor thing, why not this minor thing'.
So, alternative currency, maybe use it to play an antagonist for a specific time and plotr, to skip[ PRP justifications, to create a side economy of trifles and gewgaws and other limited one use items from across the spheres. Cash in for a personal plot about your past. Theres a lot of ways to use an alternate currency that isnt directly related to inflating your character's stats more.
@HorrorHound That description of Time is /real/. Yesterday me is dead, today me matters, future me is... unformed
Look, fucking your boss is fine if he's ethical!
@Auspice Or that restless feeling, like you NEED to DO SOMETHING but said something is a Sherlockian fucking mystery and AUGH. Exercise helps, why I swim, so i can push myself and not feels hitty from all the sweat, and scream underwater so no one can hear. And while I swim, its when i get my ideas, when things click, when it all comes together.... until my focus skips again.
Speaking for myself alone. Venting in peeve is CATHARTIC AF. Even if i'm wrong, or people don't agree, sometimes just shouting out what annoys you very loudly in a place where others might share their same feelings, orm opposing feelings, is great. Just letting the poison out, RAWR.
I don't think venting or complaining is bad. When it becomes an echo chamber used to hate on other people... thats another thing. But over the years having a place to just GET OUT THE BADNESS.
Hogpit: the toilet for your opinions.
I started prozac yesterday with mixed results. Lastngiht i cried because i was afraid my wife would love one cat less now that we got a new one. But today was a darn good relaxed day with few traces of anxiety; and while I know that it takes time to see the full effects of mental health meds, I am cautiously optimistic. (lets hope theres no 'Wait, nevermind followup in a month)
@LittleLizard Vampire should only be played like this from now on.
@Wizz Yeah i remember that scene with Deep and Starlight alone in episode 1 and I remember that very differently from the comics. I was like 'wow they really dialed this back.'
