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You have my sympathies. I have a reoccurring nightmare about my dad every couple months that gets so bad I have to call him, no matter the time, to make sure he's okay. So I can empathize with how you feel.
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@Auspice Get a memory foam mattress topper. I'm a side sleeper and often have the same problem. The topper makes a HUGE difference.
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@Auspice They come in different thicknesses. Since it's for a medical reason, I'd definitely say don't skimp on the cost and get a thin one. You'll definitely notice a difference sleeping.
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Seconding the advice re: foam topper and massage therapist.
(But then, I have a bed that'd make the Princess and the Pea go, 'Bitch, you have a problem,' and I married a massage therapist, so take my advice with a bucket of salt.)
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@Admiral said in RL Anger:
I get so many 'almost sneezes' a day now and its like sex without orgasms.
Dude, sex without orgasms is great. You know what sex without orgasms is called?
SEX. And if you're not orgasming, YOU CAN HAVE FUCKING MORE SEX.
Sex without orgasms is like a high without an end.
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Sooo... if you get single, wanna come over?
If you have a firm mattress it is actually worse for you to sleep as it doesn't 'give' enough.
@Admiral
In my non-medical opinion, it sounds like you pulled/strained your intercostal muscles. If you can, go to a massage therapist and ask for rib work. It will hurt like a mofo, but feel better when done.
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@Jaded
Mrf, I get that. I send you all the solidarity too. It's good to know I'm not the only person who has weird dreams like that. My one last night was about getting a job composing for symphonies and somehow my fiance breaking up with me and not speaking to me. Not sure why. I blame the buffalo chicken from dinner. -
Re: mattresses Tuft and Needle y'all. It's like sleeping in a fucking cocoon.
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I'm looking at picking up one from Helix Sleep, I know three people who have them and they act like they had mid life turnarounds because of them.
@Jaded
Mrf, I get that. I send you all the solidarity too. It's good to know I'm not the only person who has weird dreams like that. My one last night was about getting a job composing for symphonies and somehow my fiance breaking up with me and not speaking to me. Not sure why. I blame the buffalo chicken from dinner.And so as not to double post. The one I have is about my dad dying. It is always about that. Sometimes I'm the one to find him. Sometimes I get a phone call. Sometimes it is at a hospital. I would like to blame food.
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I have Reasons to not buy a new mattress at this time (the top of which being 'I can't afford shit'), but a memory foam is def. on the list when I do.
The lack of sleep is catching up to me, tho. Like, bad. It's affecting work. I've felt sick, even though I know it's just exhaustion.
It may be time to go to the doctor and ask for a month or two of ambien (thankfully, I'm not one of the people who gets any side effects from it).
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Helpfully or not, I've found that memory foam mattresses have a short shelf life. Short is relative when the average mattress is supposed to last 7-10 years but so on this scale, I'm talking like 2-3 years or less depending on the manufacturer, how violent of a sleeper you are, how many hours of the day you're on it, etc.
All memory foam mattresses (as in not all of them but the ones that constructed just out of layers of various foam materials) sort of lose their memory and stop becoming load bearing. So you end up sinking and wake up basically on your base/slats or you get weird dips and valleys. This is less annoying if you sleep by yourself but more annoying if you share your bed as you both end up sort of in the middle of a depression by morning.
For some people, this is an acceptable flaw in the technology and just commit to having to replace more frequently. Or depending on the manufacturer, you might get a warranty that will just keep replacing them.
So something to be aware of.
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@GangOfDolls With mine I've found I have to be really scrupulous about following the instructions to turn it every few weeks. I forgot for six months or so and one side now has a permadivot. The other side is still good as new after 10 years.
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I know this isn't the thread for it but... does anyone here have any experience with shikibuton beds?
I am seriously considering going that route and would love opinions.
On topic: FUCK AIR MATTRESSES.
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Just get a spoonk!
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So.
I saw two surgeons in the hospital. #1 couldn't do the job, really, so they had to call in #2.
#2 is amazeballs. #1... I am stunned this motherfucker has time to do surgery at all with all the time his dumb ass must spend in malpractice court, holy shit.
His first OMG WTF was, the day after surgery, just, you know, fucking off entirely without leaving any notes for anyone for a long weekend incommunicado. Because of this, I was not even permitted a glass of water for three fucking days. (When he got back, 'sure she could have had fluids... why do you ask? Oh, I didn't leave any instructions for anything but the blood tests four times daily, oops!' <murder gleam>)
His second OMG WTF, well, I was on call for a room for surgery with #2. #2's team prepped the room, had me an inch from getting put under... and #1 snakes the room -- the last one that will be made available for the day, that #2's team prepped and was occupying -- for himself and his team, for a non-emergency. (#2 took a while to come see me about this because apparently he was screaming his damned head off about how fucked up this was to someone in charge of... some kind of things, I gather. Have I mentioned that I seriously fucking approve of #2?)
And today, we come to the third OMG WTF. #1 put a stent in a duct and was tracking the infection in an organ. #2 replaced the duct completely and removed the organ in its entirety, all of which was laid out in the notes in language even I could understand. #1's team never stopped bothering the shit out of me at all hours of the day and night throughout my stay in the hospital, they were made well aware of this.
#2 removed the staples a few days ago and cleared me for continued survival without further complications and a few blurry pinhole camera photos of lumpy things that he later removed from my innards. This renders all of #1's contributions -- which were essential early on -- gone, in full.
#1 still wanted me to come in Thursday, and was asking me to get thousands of dollars in tests done beforehand.
My folks insisted 'that's just what you do when the doctor tells you to'.
To which I said: Fuck and no. There is no need for this other than wasting our time and money. I spent the better part of today being screamed at loudly for this by my family until my husband had to tell them to grow the hell up and fuck themselves.
So we call the office to cancel.
Then we found out exactly what it was we were cancelling: surgery to check on the status of an organ I no longer have and to remove stents from a duct that was rebuilt from scratch with the stents removed by #2, who explicitly stated as much in all of the notes and to #1's team of minions.
Holy motherfucking shit, #1. Seriously. How do you not have a fucking cot in the lobby of civil court with this level of unprofessional incompetence?!
They only bothered to look at the notes from surgeon #2 when I called to cancel what they simply referred to as 'an appointment'. Not, you know, surgery that will require at least one or two nights in the hospital.
Holy motherfucking shit, what in the actual hell is wrong with people? <rubs face endlessly>
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@surreality said in RL Anger:
Holy motherfucking shit, what in the actual hell is wrong with people? <rubs face endlessly>
File a grievance with your state board for the practice of medicine. It's not a malpractice claim: it's putting the rest of the profession on notice that this guy is a fuckwit.
Please. I encourage people to file legal grievances because it's the professional equivalent of calling the cops on a lawyer to investigate them for potential ethical wrongdoing. It hardly ever comes up with anything substantive, but standards go lax when people think that the cops aren't sniffing around.
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