Posts made by Aria

@TNP said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@Aria said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

My mom says 'libary'. I cringe every time.

So axe her to stop.

runs and hides

You are the devil incarnate.

@Ghost said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@Ganymede I have a friend who says "supposably" and it drives me up the wall.

My mom says 'libary'. I cringe every time.

@saosmash said in The Work Thread:

@Derp I'm literally preventing myself from getting paid by not doing this contract invoice and yet.

Why meticulously organize the SharePoint library of training documents, templates, and standard work that I get paid to manage.....

When I can meticulously organize the org charts, source material, and land holdings of imaginary houses for an online game I play for free?!

PROCRASTINATION PROJECTS.

@Cassite said in The Work Thread:

@Aria That actually really helped me to hear, if nothing else.

That's the thing. It's perspective and I think that this far into it, and with this much longer to go, a lot of us are losing that. Especially my friends with kids who are not handling this well because a) kids and b) seriously, who is handling this well?

Everything has to be adjusted to take circumstances into account right. Everything.

But for parents who might be feeling guilty, especially moms who always get the pressure to be 'perfect':

Are you taking the precautions you need to in order to keep your kid alive through this shitshow? Do they have a safe place to sleep? Do they have food to eat? Are you trying your best to make this less awful for them?

A+ pandemic parenting. Everything else is extra credit.

You are hereby absolved of a small sliver of guilt, by the power vested in me as a total stranger on an internet forum normally full of people judging you.

@silverfox This is rough. This is really rough, and I want you to take what I'm about to say as reassurance, not dismissal of how shitty this is:

We are in the middle of a pandemic. Our job to keep our people -- our kids, our families, our friends, our students, our patients -- alive right now. Everything beyond that is extra.

We can aspire to more. We should aspire to more.

But the definition of 'okay' is radically different than it was a year ago. All any of us can do is our best, acknowledging that our best is going to fall far short of 'normal' for the foreseeable future.

Oh, god.

He's back.

@SuperiorHuron said in RL things I love:

Today, for the first time since May, my husband is flying home from Canada. It may be only for a few months, but he's coming home.

Now if only I could find a way to see my step kids, life would be super!

This is awesome and I am super excited for you!

@Ganymede

Unfortunately, noise complaints in Philadelphia go through the police department which a) usually has better things to do and b) I try to avoid calling on my neighbors whenever possible, given that I live in a mostly black neighborhood. The few times I have called, it was for a break-in , a DV call involving kids, or the annual summer game of "Gunshots or fireworks?", which I feel are all dangerous enough to warrant the risk of the police interacting with POC.

....Which is ironic considering that some of my neighbors will cheerfully call L&I on us for any reason they can think of, like the time we had materials from a renovation on our porch for two days. (Super appreciate the $375 fine for "dumping", assholes. Really. You couldn't just knock on the fucking door and ask us what's up?)

I'm probably going to call the neighborhood watch captains if it happens again and start there because even with how many of my neighbors are also police officers, calling them first about shady but not imminently dangerous shit is kind of the norm around here.

The guy two houses up the street from me has been out on his front porch using power tools, including a saw and some kind of grinder, in intermittent bursts since before 5PM. It's now 10:30PM and the noise ordinance for our neighborhood, which tends to echo sound a whole lot because of rowhome construction and the way our streets are laid out, kicked in two and a half hours ago.

As someone with C-PTSD, let me tell you how fucking awesome it's been to sit here anticipating random bursts of loud, horrible noises every few minutes for the last five and a half hours.

My face literally hurts from how hard I've been unconsciously clenching my jaw.

This is how people snap, dude.

The first of what I assume is going to be several music venues in Philadelphia just announced their permanent closure because of the pandemic.

Goddammit.

ETA: I know times are rough and I know there's about eight million different causes to donate to right now, but. If you have a few bucks to spare, consider making a donation or buying some merch from NIVA and their emergency fund initiative.

https://www.saveourstages.com/

I just do everything possible to avoid human contact. Not only because of the pandemic, but because, well, human beings are garbage.

Mask-wearing minimized. Problem solved.

@GreenFlashlight said in Dead Celebrities 2020:

This hurts more than I expected it to. I'm trying to comfort myself with reminders that dying at home, surrounded by friends, and probably being given the best painkillers money can buy after having lived eight decades is one of the best ways to go, but... still. I didn't know Alex Trebek, so it's not like this is a personal loss, but it feels like a cultural one; like American society as a whole is diminished by his absence.

Oof. Great, now I'm going to work crying.

Don't feel bad about this. Your reaction, I mean, not about him dying.

I was in one of the worse depressive cycles of my life and just starting to come out of it when Robin Williams committed suicide. He'd always been a part of my life, either from all the hilarious kids movies he did in the 90s to growing up watching Nick at Nite reruns at my grandparents' house to listening to his standup on college roadtrips.

And somehow my dumb garbage depression brain latched onto the idea that he meant so much to so many people and so it just wasn't right or fair that I got better and he did not. You'd think my favorite uncle died by the way I reacted and it made no sense to anyone except my husband, who listened to me ramble about it for a month.

Feel your feelings. They're the thing that make us human, even when they're weird or embarrassing or other people don't get it. It's okay.

@GreenFlashlight said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

When you're on a social media blackout because you don't want to get your hopes up over an event you know will be strung out for weeks or months in court, and your goddamn phone beeps a news alert at you. Fuck you, phone, do you know what my heart did just then?

Actual Conversation in the Aria-@insomniac7809 Household This Morning:
A: "FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK."
I: "You okay?"
A: "Yep. Just needed to get that out. C'mon, you have to get ready for work."

So I'm in the SCA and tonight I'm running ethereal (read: Zoom) court for our local group.

This basically means that I get to spend my evening on a call with a bunch of people I haven't physically seen since last December, giving out awards and recognition and shinies and nice things to say for a bunch of talented and dedicated individuals. Including the "noble" whose court I'm running, who has no idea that I've slipped a surprise present for him from one our seamstresses onto the docket.

Tonight I get to make people's pandemic suck just a little bit less.

This makes me happy. ^_^

@Auspice Sending a nice fruit basket to Khorne on your behalf.

@Derp said in Random funny:

This made me choke on my Coke Zero at work and my boss though I was dying. I hate you.

My reputation as the most horrendous bitch ever grows.