Posts made by Aria

This isn't just an ADHD thing. I have issues with anxiety. Like, once went out on short-term disability because a cardiologist told me that if the clonopin didn't work, she'd have to put me on beta blockers so I wouldn't have a stress-induced heart attack at thirty level issues with anxiety.

I have had multiple people ask me how I have managed to stay so detached and calm for most of this pandemic. They think I'm kidding when I'm like, "Ohh. The way you're feeling right now? Is how my brain is all the time. The way my brain is all the time? Is designed for dealing with shit like this."

I am really, really good at calmly and sedately conducting risk assessments and contingency planning. I am really, really good at staring a crisis in the face and breaking it down into small, manageable, actionable chunks that will make the Worst Case Scenario measurably better in small but steady ways. It's the in-between where everything is ambiguous, where something bad is looking likely to happen, but we don't when or how severe it's going to be that my brain catastrophizes every goddamn thing and is like "HOLY SHIT, ARIA. We are all going to die AND be homeless AND lose your job AND also, fyi, EVERYONE HATES YOU."

When stuff you ordered from independent artists on Kickstarter/Etsy comes in the mail.

Especially when you backed/pre-ordered it so long ago, you weren't really expecting it, so it's kind of like a surprise present from past-you.

Thanks, four-months-ago-me! You have really cute taste.

Jesus Christ, 365 dni makes Twilight look like fucking Shakespeare. Just save yourself the trouble and hop on PornHub. You can probably find something with a better plot.

Yes. And I will say that as soon as the connection was made, the offender was banned. Immediately within his local area and globally within a matter of days. I am very pleased with the higher ups for making this call and honestly can say that it only happened because he chose a location that wasn't immediately recognized for what it was. I certainly wouldn't have looked at it and thought "Wait, isn't that the name of.... HOLY SHIT, DUDE. No!", and I'm one of the people who specialize in the history of names.

So I can see why someone reading a Medieval document might think something sounds cool and not realize that 600 years later... but. We don't need to make allowances for someone who made an honest mistake to keep making said mistake after they've been told. That's how people get away with ill-intentioned acts, all while giving a nudge and a wink. I'm just really, really glad that the two people who were 'concerned' about that are not remotely involved in the decision-making. At all. The existing rules against offensive or obscene names will be enforced as soon as we realize that's what they are.

In the case of all the gross stories you've head in the past year, it's largely a big thing because those people are being banned and -- just like in MUing -- that's a thing that gets a lot of attention. I thus find those instances both upsetting because they happened at all and reassuring because they're being dealt with so firmly.

@surreality @GreenFlashlight

Nope! This was a real life occurrence with a hobby group I'm involved in. Hence this going in the "RL Anger" thread.

A shitty thing happened. And it has now spurred something of a debate re: whether it's ever acceptable name something after a town whose name was also the name of nearby camp. At least when that thing is clearly meant to reference the town, especially if it's not one that people automatically recognize and are like "Oh, wow! You named it Auschwitz? That's incredibly tasteless and hurtful."

And I'm on the "holy shit you guys, unless you're talking about, like, Warshaw, which is a major city that people might associate with a hundred other things, then no, it is never okay" side of the debate. The instigating event was very much one where it was done on purpose, but even if it's done accidentally.... dude, just pick the next cool-sounding town name over. The one that doesn't have the brutal murder of 11 million people associated with it? Like, just maybe? If it was an accident, I guarantee the person will rename it, probably after being quietly mortified at their mistake. That was generally my experience with the guy who accidentally made a reference to a common bit of Irish heraldry, but which is also associated with a small and fairly obscure terrorist group that most Americans have never heard of when an Irish member of the group was like "Hey, could you maybe not? Thanks." If they're like, "NO! It must absolutely be Janowska and I will never change it and you are oppressing meeeeeee <fratic panting> FREE SPEECH!", then that person is probably a neo-Nazi fuckhead that is just having a tantrum because they got caught in their clever subterfuge. That person can piss all the way off.

There is enough racism and hate in the real world. Please don't make me deal with it in my escapist hobbies, too.

It's been many years since I've punched a Nazi in the head, but I'm really starting to miss it, you anti-Semitic piece of shit.

@Auspice said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

https://bleedingcool.com/comics/mile-high-comics-launches-dc-sucks-50-off-sale/

The sale isn't the peeve.
The reasons they're doing it is.

Ohh, god. I want to give them money, but their website looks a 12 year old's Geocities site from 1998. What the fuck?!

@Auspice And somehow, the prospect of making that decision is in itself incredibly fucking exhausting.

It is not my fault that the word for "year" (anno) and the word for "anus" (ano) are almost identical.

@tek I will see your dog doctor and raise you "that time I accidentally told the head of the Italian department that I have 19 butts".

Dear Professor -

Writing business memos is not "fun". I'm not sure what your concept of fun is, but analyzing the super dodgy revenue model of Uber isn't it, even if you present it as getting to write a pretend memo to their CEO.

May I suggest picking up a hobby?

Sincerely,
Me

@SuperiorHuron
I mean, your gif makes this one pretty obvious, but.....

Queen.

I have this theory that it is physically impossible to listen to Freddie Mercury and not feel at least a little bit better, regardless of whatever might be going on in your life. I've told this theory to many friends and they all think I'm crazy until they try it and it works every single time.

I've had friends who had their partner of seven years leave in the middle of the night, cutting off all contact without warning. I've had friends lose a parent to a years-long battle with cancer.

Did listening to Queen solve their heartache? No.
Did it make those moments just a little more bearable? Yes.

So, Queen.
The only other band that comes even close is The Struts.

@Wretched said in Fantasy Avatar Generator:

All the men look like children in bad middle school theater makeup and fake facial hair.

I mean, look. I would definitely go with this instead, but I haven't yet been able to convince @Apos to give me a war-bear or a magic staff.

We make do with what we've got.

That is absolutely heartbreaking and I'm so, so sorry for your pain right now.

I couldn't resist and did Mia on the same battlefield as Thesarin.

@Auspice said in Fantasy Avatar Generator:

@thesuntsar said in Fantasy Avatar Generator:

@silverfox said in Fantasy Avatar Generator:

Norwood, though I might go fiddle around with him more.

lol he looks so concerned

is there any other way for Norwood to look?

Disapproving.

I also made Secret Mia, which is WAY CUTE, but argggh. I cannot share because secret.

Mia

Thesarin

My doggo went to the vet today. Normally, I wouldn't be happy about this, but he's hit 10 years old and sometimes his breed doesn't make it much past that.

Turns out, all the things I was worried about are various kinds of cysts. I can go back to referring to them as his "old man lumps" instead of freaking out about him getting more and more of them.

I absolutely adored every single moment of The Great and could not stop laughing the entire time.