@Wretched said in Consent in Gaming:
suggests some sort of repi- er whats the word
Reciprocation?
I think you're on the ball there and I think that's why people get annoyed when someone constantly ducks out of RP because 'it's not fun for me.' Yeah, well, I wouldn't be asking you TO RP if it wasn't fun for me, so thanks.
I think that's why I bristle so hard at the 'my fun' or the 'I shouldn't have to RP anything that isn't my fun' idea. Because it implies: someone else's fun is worth more than mine.
On Ithir, there's a lot of people who want teaching scenes in exchange for giving/receiving a teaching discount on a skill. I don't particularly enjoy teaching scenes. On either end. I don't wanna be the student, I don't wanna be the teacher. So I will pass. I'll just say 'let's RP about whatever and just say the teaching happened off-camera.' But I know some people really like those scenes so yes, I've absolutely sucked it up and RP'd giving someone swordplay lessons. I tried to keep that part of the scene short and sweet, but they wanted it and I knew from experience that they had been willing to handwave the teaching part for something for me.
But it absolutely would have been a dick move, IMO, to refuse. So, what, it cost me a couple hours and let our characters talk and have character development while I played out a scene that isn't in my preferred things to do. Whatever.