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I think home economics should be how to run a house. It takes a lot of work (and I don't mean that sarcastically). You should learn about utilities (deposits, how to connect, what they look at what you need to know), basic home repair (leaky sink, backed up toilet, backed up sink, repairs), when filters need to be changed in your heating and cooling, what you need to set up a kitchen/home (and how much that is going to cost), sewing, cooking, basic first aid, budgeting, etc.

There is a lot of work in running one, not to mention how to get one. They should also have a finance class about Roth IRAs, investments, how retirement works, etc. I think back to all the life skills I didn't really have/understand when I turned 18 and moved out on my own. For example, I knew nothing of my tenant rights or renter's insurance. I didn't know why I needed it or I was liable for. I didn't understand car insurance really and how to shop around for it, etc.

So of course, I try to prepare everyone growing up in my life. This includes why taxes are held from your paycheck and what percentage they are held from, etc.

(steps off her box)

In fact, I'm going to make a topic.

Post what a game did right. NOT A PERSON. No names just what was good about the game. No drama llamas or bad stuff.

Like Game XYZ had the best resource system because....

Doesn't matter if the headstaff TSed everyone and we all hate her. Just a list of good things we have seen. No sucking up. Just factual. Maybe we'll be able to coordinate that information to work on future games.

PS. Sorry if this might exist. I didn't see it but you know...

Wait... someone remade 'Pony'?
That's not right. That's part of my coughcough years and totally kills Magic Mike now.

My thoughts are this. If you have been an 'ideal' player and something happens that pisses you off. That's normal. It happens. How you handle it is pretty telltale. If you go to your friend who is your sounding board for all things (not just this thing); sure. Okay. Rant. However, if you go off on someone in a Skype conversation, Discord talk, IM, Email, or various means we have off game -- well chances are this is more the real you. You have probably been doing this or levels of this before and not gotten caught. Just this time you picked the wrong person or felt comfortable that you would be let off for your crime and did it more in public.

I have a circle of people that when things go bad, calls are out of my favor, or random things that just happen -- I vent to them. They know I don't hate the game or the people but I need to blow off my frustration. I have been spending months and this dickbag just fucked up all those plans. Fuck him. I should just... fuck up his plans.. waaaaa. --- They know that I don't mean I'm really going to fuck up his plans. I'm just crying that my plan has to be revised. They know I'll be fine online and not be vindictive. So in this I think it's fine (but maybe it's not). Also, on game I will actually be fine after I sleep. Sleep makes things better normally.

Now if I went on public/game channel and had a meltdown. Or I did this to strangers that don't know me and have the rapport that I have with others; this is uncomfortable and really can be seen as harassment. I would never try to do that because I would feel uncomfortable because that's not my sounding board for my sanity (or insanity). So if someone feels comfortable, if you looked into it. They have probably been getting info OOC, they have been crossing OOC lines, etc. Now if this is an offense that goes on and on -- the game (Arx in question here) has been stated as a 'safe place'; that means they have to protect in a sense against that harassment. It's not a slope, but it is a sticky situation full of potholes.

So really, just don't be a dick.

I'll be honest. I tend to use whatever is left over and that goes in the meatloaf. It's sometimes (for me) one of those 'kitchen sink' meals. If I'm buying stuff I tend to do pork and beef. Sometimes I even bacon wrap it because YOLO.

Crime is hard. It is completely fun but it is hard. There is risk. Your character may die. It might not be a blaze of glory but a whimper of discontent. I played in the crime sphere before on many games. The last attempt went like this:

My PC came on scene and made promises they were not at liberty to promise. They went to all the PC 'bosses' and asked for them to work together. If they said no, the PC then went to all their lackeys and recruited them over to their team. They just cut the feet out from under the main bosses and waited. There was a great dynamic on who was going to end up on top and the 'lackeys' had fun being bribed back and forth.

When it comes to law both have to have an RP blind eye. When law arrests NPCs that are in the area of crime, crime needs to be like dumb criminal. Shouldn't have gotten caught. Let him rot. He's dead to us or such. When crime does it, law has to be like, fuck if I know what happened. There are real life cold case files that were never solved from minor theft to murder. So it takes hand in hand co-operation. At the end of the day, it should be about enjoyment. Sometimes you take a hit. Sometimes you take a retcon. Sometimes you win. It's all about fun for people and such.

@Ganymede

Sooo... if you get single, wanna come over?

@Auspice

If you have a firm mattress it is actually worse for you to sleep as it doesn't 'give' enough.

@Admiral

In my non-medical opinion, it sounds like you pulled/strained your intercostal muscles. If you can, go to a massage therapist and ask for rib work. It will hurt like a mofo, but feel better when done.

I like crafting with rainbow vomit. I admit this.

I don't fully agree with the statement if they can't understand or won't fuck off they weren't real friends anyways (paraphrasing).

I have been on both sides of this issue. I have been the person that was like 'whoa dude not okay' and been the one that was told 'whoa dude not okay'. It doesn't mean someone is/was less your friend because they feel for some reason they have to safe guard. It's like a twelve step program. When you did something and go 'fuck I'm sorry' it doesn't mean they have to be 'It's all good man, it's cool". Most will. But it's not the person that was 'wronged' fault if the opinion doesn't change. It doesn't mean they are the bad people either. They have to see the behavior pattern has changed.

Its a step towards mental health to accept what you have done (good or bad) and be okay with what happens. It's not easy. It's completely not easy, but it is a large step towards health.

In MU* world, yeah it's hard to erase what has been said or done. It's like that IRL too, though. Most people, even those still like NOPE, will start to pay attention if the behavior actually alters. We've all gotten apologies from people and they did the exact same thing next week or next month. So just be you, Honey Boo and most will probably see it.

@Thenomain said in Coming Soon: Arx, After the Reckoning:

@Catsmeow

Let me have my hill to die on. UX is as important as the fun stuff.

But aren't you.... over that hill....

haha age joke
haha.. wait, it might apply to me.

I go back and forth in the phases. In truth, that's how grief process works; sometimes you go back a step. I like the denial step a lot. I'm all like, I can do this. Then I do too much. I like when I"m in the acceptance step.

However, really we are here for you, well I am. So if you need to vent there is a PM button up there. Just let me know first if you want me to listen and shut up, or if you want me to silver line the dark cloud.

I would be more down with the mortal+ over mage.

@surreality

To be fair, you can't blame your family for screaming at you that they know what's best for you medically. Especially if it has no bearing on them or they have never gone through it.

They learned this from watching politics.

(Obviously I'm making a joke here)

But yes, people do forget that you can deny medical tests and procedures. I always ask why it's needed, what happens if I don't have it, what happens if I do have it, etc. As well as I let them know if they try to force my hand, I'll get as many second opinions as I want until I feel informed.

To be fair though, I speak medical terms and understanding; so unfairly I get a different doctor/hospital treatment.

@Aria

It's super SUPER user friendly. The game is welcoming. It's active. You'll enjoy yourself. I say give it about a week or so to learn the commands and then you will be like -- Holy Heavens, why haven't I been doing this forever?!

@surreality

It's the internet. Right now some guy is in a chat room convincing some girl that he has a camera in his head that does just that. She shall run off and tell her friends about this really neat guy she met online. Because no one lies online.

@surreality

That sucks. I'm sorry. As I tend to be a die-hard optimist, I sometimes don't see the bad coming in the people I associate until it's too late. Then I still rationalize it for them.

Don't give up on all the people. I'm sorry you have to go through it though.

@Auspice

I'm sorry you have a migraine. I understand and also have a love/hate of the migraine drug cocktail. For the pain, for the migraine and for the nausea, but geez do I love that moment that my hair doesn't hurt my brain.

I hope you feel better and it broke up the migraine so that it can fade out the rest of the way too. I personally like ice around forehead and temples with heat on the base of my head. It helps me. I'm not sure if that works for everyone though.

Oh hell no
@Auspice

OH HELL NO

I'd be having a roomie talk about who has access to the apartment and when. I have a right to my feelings of comfort and safety too. So I'd be like:

Hey, I know this hasn't come up before, but we need to talk about visitors. I'm not really comfortable with them here when you aren't without some discussion beforehand.

@Auspice

You don't have to justify your feelings. Your roomie is in the wrong here. I'm all for people bringing home who they want and doing what they want (as long as I'm still safe and feel safe - don't bring home the high meth head yo). However, I'm not okay with it when their not there. For a few reasons. So I'll hand them over and you can give them to her.

1. I don't like surprise people - That is a way to get the surprise person harmed. If I am home alone and you aren't the one coming in the door, it might not work out well for the other person. I'm not prone to violence, but I am prone to personal protection.

2. People aren't always who they appear to be. I like my stuff not stolen. I like drug deals not done in my apartment. I like things on the up and up.

3. Here's really the one that should be first. RESPECT. I don't even bring a friend over to another friend's house without asking. That's just if they are going to be there for a moment with me quickly. I mean we grew up asking our parents if people could come over, it's obvious that people need to be made aware.

4. Anxiety. People who are not my people left there causes deep deep deep anxiety on my part. Now, if we talk about it and I'm prepared, then I can alter my reactions and you know understand it's happening.

I have had a roomie who gave her boyfriend her key to our apartment and he did drug deals out of the place. I came home early and was like um... no. He also had other girls over #KeepingItClassy - So really, you have to know the person well and EVERYONE living there has to be okay with it. I don't give out keys or grant access until all parties are comfortable. Your home is your sanctuary and your safety area.

Obviously, by the length of this post, I'm angry for you.

It's hard when relationships are going through the rough patches. It's hard to allow yourself not to be okay.

If you ask anyone in life, my super power is my optimism. They say this all gloriously well and are proud that I, their friend, is probably the most happy and positive person. So my confession? I hate it. I hate every little moment of it. My optimism is in most instances the largest lie in my life.

I was raised by an addict and that 'just keep swimming' is just keep lying. Smile! If you smile no one asks questions. If you laugh it off, no one inquires too much to the bruise or the fact your parent is still asleep. Then you start protecting them and the best way to do that? Never show a negative thought or emotion. It becomes this perfect stage act and you just cannot stop even when you want to. Why? Because you have cultivated this image and now you have to maintain it. You can't be sad because you are the one they always expect to be happy. You can't be 'a realist' because they are looking to you for all the silver linings on all the dark clouds. The worst thing? Is you lose yourself and your identity because you are think people won't love you/care for you/hang out with you when it's bad. Also, you find it as a truth because you make people double uncomfortable when you are upset. You are their security blanket and your optimism is their drug and they don't know how to let you be a real person.

TL;DR - I might have jut got too real for MSB - Sorry.