@mietze said:
I think when I really honestly feel unwanted/unwelcome, it's a sure sign that I am very burnt out and spent. This is a fairly new revelation for me.
You also need to understand that some of us want you to be around more, and get very sad when you are not.
In the past decade, I can honestly say that I, as a player, have never felt unwanted. Some people do not want my PC around for one reason or another, but that has nothing to do with me as a player.
I think it is important to understand the distinction between avoiding a player and avoiding a PC. I think problems arise when players create a PC that is a fantasy extension of themselves, and then feel as if the rejection of the PC is a rejection of them. That's a fallacy.
Then again, if your fantasy-extension is really fucking annoying, it kind of says a little bit about the player. At least, that's what my judgmental-self would conclude, unless it is somehow obvious that the PC is intended to be comical or satirical.