Posts made by Gingerlily

@Aria said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

@Cupcake -- This is why I have (legal) drugs. Ones that I take daily, and ones I can carry around in my bag in the event of the sudden onset of panic. I very rarely use the latter, in no small part because carrying them around and knowing I have them if I really need them alleviates some of anxiety. Huzzah, psychosomatic nonsense?

I recommend having something -- not necessarily meds, but whatever works for you -- that you can carry around and know it's there if you need it. Even if you end up not needing it, that reassurance is surprisingly helpful.

Yes to this! The effect of having a Xanax in your purse is calming on its own, without ever having to consume the Xanax in your purse.

@Arkandel said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

Can't/won't change food habits? This too is so annoying because... I'm the worst cook in the world. But putting chicken breasts in the oven/pressure cooker and waiting for X minutes isn't exactly rocket science, and adding a salad out of a bag isn't that hard. Done. Plus it's way cheaper than eating out. And this shit tastes good, too.

But is it as good as those Pepperidge Farm Milano cookies with orange flavor? Or a double stuffed Oreo?

I can't quit you, sugar.

@Auspice said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

Didn't eat enough yesterday.
Put off eating too long today.

Now I'm too far past hunger that it's hard to make myself eat, ugh.

My migraine meds have negated my sense of hunger, so I have to remind myself to eat, except I've always been bad about that. So it's down to setting reminders. But I get caught up in work or homework, so I'll make food, then forget it... or I'll just be so not-hungry from the meds that it'll take me hours to eat it and so on.

And then have days like today. I feel like shit because of the anemia, so I need to eat, but that 'feel like shit' state makes it hard to eat.

Now I know why, when I was reading up on these meds, it said they're, in rare cases, used to treat obesity.

My daily meds make me not-hungry too, you'd think I'd lose weight. Instead I don't eat from morning until 7 or 8 pm and then suddenly I am famished and want all the carbs that exist in my tummy.

I've quit smoking. I've quit recreational substance things. But I can't seem to quit sugar no matter what I try. It's so yummy!

@Auspice said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

I am a slow-ass knitter. Seriously. I am so slow.

And I am constantly being pestered to sell my knitting. No. Nope. Not gonna happen. Then it becomes pressure and then it becomes ruined as something relaxing.

My mother is an amazing knitter too (I am trying to learn but my fine motor skills are not impressive). She's said the exact same thing. I wear her stuff to work and get compliments and "I wish I could have one like that, she should open a shop". I told her I'd help her set up an Etsy shop or something and that it might be fun.

She said the 'fun' part is knitting for herself or her family or friends because she wants to, not because she's supposed to. Fair point mom, and @Auspice

@Auspice

What migraine meds did they change you to? Preventative or acute or both?

I somehow forgot this thread was a thing so forgive me for asking a question related to something you said a month ago

@surreality said in Things We Should Have Learned Sooner:

@Gingerlily I couldn't even read that, because this appeared in the sidebar, and it looked like fantastic popcorn reading.

It is.

http://mentalfloss.com/article/503217/you-literally-can’t-pay-us-go-gym-according-new-study

Woah!

I wonder if I could be paid to go to the gym. It seems motivating but a study is a study.

@Rusalka said in What locations do you want to RP in?:

@Gingerlily

I once had a character who ran a small art gallery. Paintings, checkout counter, that's it. Somebody came in one day and posed going over to the bar and ordering a drink.

Maybe they were pretending it was opening night for a hot new exhibit, black tie and open bar. Maybe.

@Sunny said in RL Anger:

@Cupcake

It doesn't make you a bitch to feel frustration / aggravation / etc in reaction to that. It's a reasonable internal reaction to that behavior. What would make you a bitch is if you then behaved with frustration/etc. Which I am positive you did not do. Thus, no, it does not make you a bitch. Your human reactions to social norms being violated are reasonable -- where the understanding/tolerance comes in is in how you moderate your external reaction, the choices you make.

My immediate reaction to someone slapping me (obviously this is not even remotely in the same ballpark or emotional scale or whatever) is always going to be anger. I may not punch somebody if I realize in time that they did it because some bug life saving blah blah.

Context does not matter to the lizard brain. Lizard brain controls initial emotional reaction. Context matters for thinking rational brain, which governs behavior.

Right totally. Like, of course that behavior is irritating and annoying. It doesn't jive with our basic social communication norms which have been created in part to avoid irritation and annoyance. It just in this particular situation possibly couldn't be helped on his part, so acknowledging it to vent here but not reacting negatively to the guy in question directly was a super solid call.

Edited because I left out a word, causing one sentence to make no sense.

@Auspice

She's right of course, you do need to eat. Hunger and/or low blood sugar are major triggers! Behave!

(jk, my neuro told me to go on a wheat free diet 3 months ago and I keep 'planning to start next Monday' ever since then.)

@Cupcake said in RL Anger:

@Thenomain For clarification here is a summary:

Me: Have you seen Will yet?
Him: No, not yet, people keep encouraging me to watch it.
Me: You might like it, it reminds me a lot of A Knight's Tale in terms of style.
Him: I've read every one of Chaucer's works aloud!

So yes, I understand the intuitive leap to Chaucer, but we were talking about the comparison of style, not that his accomplishments with regard to reading Chaucer.

It came off, in context, like an out-of-nowhere brag, but I can see how someone on the spectrum might pluck a portion out of a conversation and zig when you thought it was going to zag.

Depending on where he falls on the spectrum he honestly might not realize he is bragging, that is a nuanced social thing that we expect people to get intuitively, but he genuinely might not. Kids and adults on the spectrum can be -super- frustrating to deal with, I totally get that 100 per-cent. But so many things that seem so simple to us about interacting may really not be.

@surreality said in RL Anger:

I can spot the chain, too, on that one. I'm not on the spectrum but have ADD, and the 'keep things in mental buckets' would have 'Chaucer' and 'A Knight's Tale' in a mental bucket (cool characters in guilty pleasure movies I love); 'Chaucer' and 'Shakespeare' would also be together in their own mental bucket (English authors of ye olden days), so you'd probably get an overlap with me, too. It'd likely also give Will a tenuous place in the Entertaining Instances of Anachronisms Included mental bucket, with things like A Knight's Tale and The Princess Bride and Blackadder so on.

SEMI RELATED: There is a theory now that likens the spectrum to an iceberg with the commonly known diagnostics at the visible top and a score of other things, among them ADHD and anxiety disorder, underneath. Not in terms of "If you have these things you are on the spectrum" but more "Genetically these things might be similar enough to contribute to one another across a family's history" Relevant to me because I have ADHD like woah and anxiety like WOAH and a kid on the spectrum. Sharing it with you because...I dunno!

@surreality said in RL things I love:

@Gingerlily It is honestly amazing how dismissive people are of some things. I'm heavy, I smoke, I've been in car accidents. 95% of the health issues I have now, I had for years before any of the above. This has not stopped every doctor ever from ascribing the problem to one or all of those things.

I still thank gods for the surgeon I dealt with earlier this year, who initially was mentally going down those roads, but when the testing came back that proved no, she is really not having this problem because she's a fat person, all of her numbers are 100% ideal from cholesterol to blood sugar to high end of normal blood pressure at the worst even with this infection that is trying to kill her, so we need to intervene now and not put this off and tell her to eat less and move around more, again.

Yeah for real. I have had a friend who is overweight go from doctor to doctor to be diagnosed with "You are overweight, exercise more" until the right one found that she has leukemia Oopsies.

@Sunny said in RL things I love:

Having a doctor that actually listens to me.

FFS, it makes such a difference in the quality of my life to have my GP believe me when I'm in pain.

This is such a big deal, and dodgy insurance can make it tricky but my feeling after years of complicated health issues is if I am not gelling with a doctor, GP or specialist, I ditch and try again. That relationship is so important.

Though I have had the same GP since I was 18 and the same neurologist since about 22. (My neuro now works with me in collaboration with another neuro at his practice who is a headache specialist though). But I've ditched dentists!

@Arkandel

On the MUD I played on for 12 years give or take, religion was a big thing. There were temples to all the Gods. My first major char was a priestess who became a big deal High Priestess. At every temple everything, people would rp sitting in 'pews'. There were no pews in the room desc and why would these pagany temples have pews? But people do what they do.

@Coin said in What locations do you want to RP in?:

One of the most indispensable things in any setting in the World of Darkness is hope.

Because true tragedy and narrative darkness is about loss and people can't lose something they don't have.

<.<

Put this in the Politics topic where it belongs.

For me there is no line. It's a case by case, mood related decision.

"What is the most fun?" that is my guiding principle, while also obviously staying true to my character's personality in so much as I don't randomly do what is the most fun every time and have a character with no personality of her own.

Also with the caveat of "What is the most fun that does not cause misery (ooc) to others." But yeah. Fun is the lodestone here.

http://mentalfloss.com/article/91124/youre-probably-using-drawer-under-your-oven-wrong

Mind blown.

@Monogram said in Things We Should Have Learned Sooner:

That drawer under below the oven? That's not for hiding pan and trays or storage space. It's a warming rack.

I had no idea.

I don't believe you.

@Catsmeow

But I DIDN'T do it I just wanted to! That's totally worth an upvote, not a downvote!

@Sparks said in Forum Factions:

"Has a Migraine at least 70% of the Time"

(Which would be like... me, Tez, Auspice, and maybe Meg. Complimentary chainsaws for removing the offending head will be provided.)

Edit: Oh, wait, it should have a GIF, shouldn't it.

I'm in that faction. I may not qualify anywhere else, but this one I'm totally in.