@ThatGuyThere said in Cultural differences between MUDs and MUSHes:
@lordbelh said in Cultural differences between MUDs and MUSHes:
This is something I'd agree with, but it also runs directly counter to the idea you have to ask before joining a scene (asking means you can be denied, which means people can totally have private scenes anywhere they like.)
To me the asking to join is not about getting permission, but about acknowledging there is a scene in process and being polite. I would consider anyone who said out right no to the question to join more then a bit of a dick. that still said i will tend to minimized interaction with those that don't ask. It is one of those polite non questions that helps social situations function. Like the How are you doing? to a stranger in RL you aren't seeking a real answer just giving them polite acknowledgement.
Me, I always ask and I mean it when I ask; there's multiple reasons why someone might not want me to join. One of the biggest being that the more people there are in a scene the harder it is to keep up with the scene. Sometimes I can RP but my attention is divided, so having a scene with maybe 2 or at most 3 people works ideal. I still pose at about the same speed, can still do the stuff that requires my attention, and we're fine. But in such a situation a 4th is just more then I can handle. If you just come in and RP in this situation, I'd exit the scene.
Now, if one's in a public place, there's no obligation to ask, but I consider it polite to do so. I know if I'm RP'n in a public place there's a chance someone can come in, and they're free to do so, even if it goes over my attention limit and I must exit.
Granted, I almost never say no, even if I don't feel up to a scene that includes X odd people. My fun's not more important then their fun so I try to deal with it for a bit then withdraw, usually.