Posts made by Kanye Qwest

@Kestrel ugh, I hate being let down like that. These days, every time I like something a dude has done/created I have that nagging "you are probably going to regret enjoying this" feeling. Women are not immune, of course, but...

The thing about 'sexist behavior' - or racist, or whatever - is that it's so rarely a binary. I know several men I've had to bring around in my actual life who seemed to think sexist men were these mustache twirling goons who couldn't stop themselves from making comments like GET IN THE KITCHEN AND SUCK MY DICK every time they so much as saw a woman. It's so rarely like that. These biases and entitlements are deep seated and strongly conditioned, and often you don't even see them until you knock that person off-canter. You don't see that a man is sexist until a woman challenges him/has some kind of control over an aspect of his life.

RP is so emotionally charged, and SO full of wish fulfillment. You see sexism coming out of people around rp because almost no one gracefully accepts having their fun/power fantasy affected by someone else. I am an ethical, thoughtful, and compassionate person, and I get bent out of shape emotionally about rp.

Poor Remilia. She was so young.

ADHD sucks. I'm on meds and they help me with getting out of bed/literally being so fatigued I can't keep my eyes still on something without falling asleep, but they do nothing else. My executive is still 100% dysfunction. Fuck you, brain.

@Pandora god knows I'm not up to date but the issue used to be, a house can't reliably keep a holding that's like, in the middle of/surrounded by other peoples' lands. Adding an island would be one thing, but moving to an island while keeping a patch surrounded by House Grimdark lands wouldn't be feasible.

@Pandora what is lysene?? i've just been slathering it with campho phenique and trying not to cry LIKE A REAL MAN

@Sunny the systems are nowhere near ready for my suggestion, jellybean! You've got time.

It's the age old problem. People get mad when other people get things, because it seems like that's a thing they will not get, now. Those same people then get a thing and point out how unfair and awful it is that anyone is mad at them, because there was that one time they didn't get the thing but someone else did. Other people get sad because things don't always make sense. Sometimes people have cold sores.

My main thoughts:
it is important to remember that the PCs are NOT THE MAJORITY OF THE PEERAGE. There will never, ever, be a point where all the noble houses are duchies.

People want to attain things and feel like they have made an impact in the game world. This elevation thing is just one of the shapes that takes.

The only way to actually fix this, imo, is to get the systems in and tested and then do a hard reboot/time skip/wipe. Beta!

i have a cold sore.

@Jeshin Some people don't feel comfortable lying. Some games will go ahead and do the thing to your character while you are offline.

@Derp You said you were done. Are you not a man of your WORD?

Hi!

One time I banned someone from Arx for sexist behaviour and had to endure some really stupid pages from another player insisting that person was not sexist, they were just acerbic. To EVERYONE, you see? Equal opportunity jerk, and it was probably an overreaction on my part /the part of the players reporting him.

To which I said 'I discussed this behaviour with him and he acknowledged it was sexist but said he didn't think it was a big deal, so thanks info but maybe also don't devil's advocate'.

A lot of men aren't sexist until they experience a challenge to their presumed authority. The vast majority of people are pretty cool as long as they are getting their way.

So while I think a no-discussion-needed system for people to not be pushed out of their personal comfort zones is good, I couldn't care less about convincing third parties.

Ok, yeah, I can see that - how having something in place that means you don't have to talk about the situation, or justify yourself, would make it easier to use.

@Pandora It's a good thread, and a good thing to have a discussion about. I wish we could get a group of people who are not comfortable telling others "please don't do this/contact me/whatever boundary" and see what they would feel comfortable doing, because that's my hurdle.

Isn't any coded tool you give them to use in the moment, in scene/conversation essentially the same as saying 'hey could we not'? If the aversion is fear or wariness of conflict or insulting the other party, would throwing a card on the scene not trigger the same anxiety?

random straw men arguments are exasperating and get points deducted in debates

@BlondeBot said in Personal Agency for Personal Boundaries:

Fostering a culture isn't a thing that's done easily, unilaterally, or a one-and-done deal.

No, it isn't, but it is doable and should be done.

@Carex said in The Dark Side of online Role-Playing:

@mietze said in The Dark Side of online Role-Playing:

I am going to be making a locked thread in the hogpit (for now) to move the personal attack posts

Feel free to just delete them. I was just trying to explain why I didn't just agree with what, on its surface, seems like a perfectly innocuous post.

I was trying to illustrate that maybe agreeing without putting any deeper thought into it was unwise.

Kinda like this: https://youtu.be/fYOA8gXpios

honestly how dare you drag Some More News into this. Those vids are mostly full of thoughtful and researched content, and failing that - funny. You are 0 for 3, sport.

IDK. Feels a lot like a disorder to me.

@Ghost i like lots of silly fantasy based entertainment. I just don't like Star Wars. Or dr. Who. or Harry Potter. things that make people get snide and make weird assumptions. Tastes differ, there's no reason to be a butt about it.

this might come as a surprise, but not everyone likes your particular jam of silly fantasy. I haven't seen a star wars move in its entirety since I was a child in the 80s, and I don't really remember much beyond not caring.

@Ghost said in Gray Harbor Discussion:

@Kanye-Qwest said in Gray Harbor Discussion:

@Bad-at-Lurking i don't. I assume those were star wars jokes?

Are you unaware of who Han and Leia are?

Not entirely unaware, hence my assumption?

@Bad-at-Lurking i don't. I assume those were star wars jokes?