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Amusingly the most constantly talking about who they wanted to fuck and how much they thought of it were a bunch of mormon moms that I met when my older kids were in elementary school. Like I had been in poly and sex club groups in my life and never had anyone talk about what kind of edible underwear was the best tasting, or if crotchless panties caused chafing if you wore jeans so should you just wear skirts when you wear them or what. Until I hung out with them because our 1st graders were all friends.

I really do not shock easily but it totally blew me away. But I bet some of you KNOW what is coming next.

Yes, the MLM party invite. Before DoTerra, Young Living or LuLa, there was a sexy lingerie and toy MLM that was sweeping the community here. Fucking Hilarious. No that wasnt the name of it but it should have been!

Yes. When you're given a timeline by someone (I'll be back in a week) then it's a good idea to bother to abide by it before sending them a nastygram conflated with /other people's decisions and actions/ that you are unloading on them as well, and claiming you got the facts straight as best you could. A communication entitled "good riddance" doesn't seem to be a great way to open things up, does it?

The ooc showboating of "I'm going to get to do this cool thing, see you guys later" is obnoxious but a lot of people can't help themselves. That's why you host it at a time wren another scene doesn't have to be interrupted in the course of it. Channel or page showboating is one thing but in combination with a scene exodus so there's an audience? Yuck. And so unnecessary with just a smidgin of common sense and/or not behavior blindness.

My job. Doesn't happen every appointment, but damn if it doesn't feel good to see someone walk in and report a pain level of 8, and walk out reporting a 4, and to feel that happening right under your hands.

I would be curious as to how many women feel that way. I do too (less so now that i'm old) but always chalked it up to being raised fundamentalist with impossible and rather gross standards. I liked to read. I didn't like makeup. I questioned things. I was told I had a rebellious spirit and unless I curbed it no real man would want me. I didn't really like dresses or skirts, even though it meant I was inviting rape, as was having any friendships with a male, wanting to do male things, ect. (I wonder why I wasn't particularly THRILLED at the prospect of being a woman given how lovely a picture of what Captivating Womanhood was painted for me as something to aspire to? Hmmmm.)

But I think that maybe this is common, if not quite as gross and spiritually rapey, in non-culty environments too? I know a lot of women from a wide variety of backgrounds who I now can think back and recall them saying or apologizing for not being a "real woman" or feeling like they related to anything as a woman. Even though I am pretty sure any "feeling" that a woman has IS by definition how a woman feels! Intellectually I know that. I do wonder how common the feeling that one isn't "typical woman" or "can't do female right" is? I suspect it is pretty high. Even in people who most people would identify as girly girl.

I love it when people are willing to post negative (truthfully so or not) rumors about their PCs, or silly ones about others.

I guess whenever you put something negative out though you have to be prepared that there are many players who will take it as gospel truth, or that their PCs will. Sometimes that leads to fantastic RP but not always ending how you want. I do think that's why some players go absolutely batshit insane on any negative rumor posted about their PC, because of that fear that many people will take it as OOCly accurate.

However, the Some People generic but obviously targeted bbposts written by staff? Biggest pet peeve ever. And most of the time they don't even get it right. And quite a bit of the time they make the good/nice people worry while their target remains blissfully unaware. Yuck. I tend to be a fan of private conversation rather than "reminders" public that apply to like 1 or 2 people. It's just not necessary, and worries people unnecessarily, and there's really no reason to shame someone like that.

Are there girls there?!?

@Auspice that thought did cross my mind. Or he was lying. He was one of the stupider players I've come across though. Yay for first day in the TR vamp sphere. Sheesh.

I do think (well, I may be behind the times by a decade or two) that bi "unicorn" and "versatile" tends to not be about bisexuality itself but a very very VERY narrow target that largely involves M/F couple entitlement to their FMF threesome. Virtually every time I have heard unicorn in particular bandied about, either as a perjorative or otherwise, it's been in the context largely of "how DARE that person CLAIM to be bi and NOT immediately want to eat out my gf/wife as I watch and maybe fuck one or both eventually." Or "OMFG how dare someone who labels themselves as bi not want to form a triad with our already established couple. What do you mean she or he only wants to date one person. What is the point?"

It can be very frustrating. As someone who has dated men, women, couples, ethical slutted, ect--there is a whole fucking hell of a lot of entitlement by people directed towards anyone who claims the bi label but doesn't want to date or screw couples, ect.

That being said. I understand the need for space. I don't think there's really that much of an issue with a MUSH that says up front they will only accept male PCs. Or even more narrowly gay or bi male PCs. It's not like all the players will be men. I do think that keeping women to puppets is a little...well. Kind of offputting, because of my own personal hangups about that. HOWEVER, on a game where there can only be male PCs that is predominantly supposed to be about same-gender relations, but still for some reason allows straight male PCs, I guess it's nice that they can have RP around that if they wish and so I understand why that might be a thing? I probably would not play there because the puppet woman thing is a little much for my sensibilities. Single sphere games are about as narrow in focus when it comes to "we only allow THIS" as I enjoy as a gamer.

To all the mean customers today, fuck you, I've got my rainbow unicorn tumbler at my station today and am cute and caffeinated.

All you need is a FB page and instragram these days. Just scream and rant until you go viral.

In general I think the best policy if you actually intend to apologize vs excuse/save face is to keep it very simple and short unless they ask for clarification. The more you run your mouth the more likely it is that you'll say something to shoot yourself in the foot.

"I didn't intend to come across that way but I can see why it did. I'm really sorry that I was offensive."

Is better than:

"Sorry you took my words that way, but I didn't mean that. You shouldn't have interpreted them that way."

@Arkandel I would be intimidated by the salespeople at the high end store men's section, except for the experience I had taking my eldest son to get his first suit. I was so worried he would be looked down on or treated snobbily (his mom is a fat middle aged broad in tees and jeans then and he is trans) but my god was I so very wrong. So much so that i had to go hide so i didnt lose it and embarrass my kid by sobbing at how seamlessly and respectfully and amazing the people that helped him were without even batting an eye. I saw them do that with everyone that came in while we were there. So esp. if you have not really shopped for stuff like that in awhile, I think it's worth it to go to a place that has people on the floor to actually assist you, explain the deal (new promotion, what you are used to wearing, what the expectations are, what your budget is) and then have them help you.

The women's section is much the same way, even though asking for help made me so nervous and fearful of judgement I thought i was going to puke. Same thing, no judgment, a lot of help, suggestions of things I never would have picked out myself but really worked, and totally kept things in budget and versatile.

I think Arx has a lot of old school "spontaneity" that a lot of other games do not as far as strangers being findable and rpable in public spaces. It is still hard work a lot of the time to work into deeper play. I am not sure it was ever "easier", I just had a lot of time and patience for bad behavior when I was a younger woman.

If you decide to give arx a try feel free to ping me too! I would be happy to help!

Bored, the standard of "slightest effort" can range anywhere from meaning "if it's not all about my PC instead you are horrible" to "as long as scenes are being run you can have 5 of your Alts in them and it's cool with me" and everything inbetween.

I take phrases like "making an effort" well salted now because of huge disparity I've seen in perception of the same event I was present for.

Just started watching Dark (german tv series but on Netflix), it's pretty good so far.

I think people who run PrPs of their PC getting to be the star of the show should have to disclose that in their PrP first. It's not any more fun when a player storyteller does it!

Not currently playing (or staffing) but I wish you luck with this project! It looks really neat to me!

@Tinuviel said in MU* Gripes and Peeves:

Beren came,
And doom fell on Tinúviel
That in his arms lay glistening.

I have to admit, it made me giggle.

I definitely enjoy the hobby, including (especially) the people in it, far more than I don't. Are there people who trigger sad feelings and frustration in me, sure. But no more than any of my other hobbies, and usually a hell of a lot less!

@Kanye-Qwest said in Star Wars: Insurgency:

This thread is just reminding me that I still think the SWU has the silliest names in all fiction.

Dammit, maybe I shouldn't make my bounty hunter Sox Tyrdblatt after all.