This kind of discrimination happens in schools too where women are the majority of the work force. Men (unless they are gay which is a whole different conversation...) are assumed to be "better" at discipline and will disproportionately end up with more challenging behaviors because "they just need a male influence". This leads to many of our amazing male educators burning out quickly and leaving the field altogether.
To clarify: DUNE the original book and the few after I remeber enjoying greatly.
The sequels were just a bit much.
I read it back in high school (lord help me 18 years ago...) and most of the sequals/prequels though I do remeber getting bored and giving up on them.
I feel like I enjoyed the book.
With the movie coming out I want to reread it.... is it worth it to buy a copy? It would be a new copy as every used bookstore has sold out and purchased brand new copies.
I live 1000ish steps away from my school. Today I just felt the WEIGHT of our staffing problems (we've had to cover someone, and 5 someones today all but two days for the last month) and so decided that over my shorter plan period I needed a brain break.
So I went home.
And cuddled kittens.
10/10 mental health yes.
VINDICATION
I came in with a vendetta about our kinder and 1st graders. These two groups have not had a 'normal' year of school EVER. So my push was to NOT pull them for any intervention beyond English as a second language classes until January. Their start data was exactly what we expected, they were behind like woooaaahhh. Did our progress check today and 75% of the kids behind are now directly on or above level.
It worked. The kids just needed to be in school.
Why was this a vendetta? Because it meant we poured all our resources into 2-8 (especially 2) and flooded them with support. All of those kids ALSO made growth.
It worked. We are moving the needle. Maybe the stress is worth it.
Lol! The door actually is open, so little gray one (Cecelia) is behind in the space the door jam creates from the wall. They like to play paw attack under it.. We have a baby gate shrouds the doorway itself so the kittens don't escape when we enter (until they are big enough to jump it...) and to let some fresh air in.
They also play paw attack with my kitten Calypso.
I turned this into a gif for @Ganymede to use again some day.
Sugar thinks eating my fingers is fun.
***Cute Big Pics***
And my poor foster fail Calypso feeling so left out cuz the babies aren't vaccinated and so we are keeping them separate out of an abundance of caution. (Not a strict quarantine because they were with another foster and so every moment of their lives has been tracked the last 5 weeks.)
***More Cute***
He is the most chonky amazing boy! He didn't have a single second of fear for the new place. He went straight to playing. When you touch him he purrs louder than my adult cats!
Right now I'm just trying to focus on the fact that he had a good life - much much better than the hoarding situation he came from. He had a cat BFF in the ragdoll of the woman who adopted him, and a mommy who loved him.
We got new fosters today.
My husband is already smitten. The orange and white he declared to be Sir Charles Purrington . The others are Sugar (tabby/white) and Cecilia (Tabby)
I mean - I don't feel exploited? I feel like there is just no win. We're a public service sector (a PreK-8 public school to be precise). We're dealing with children. We can't just... not do stuff.
So if we don't have the people then we just HAVE to make do with who we have without endangering out students?
I am unsure if @Macha's comment was towards my post or her own, so please take this as more venting and not directed at you if you were talking about your job, not my comment.
I mean, I can't call my district assholes though. We already pay the most of any other district in the state. Like, SIGNIFICANTLY MORE. Plus we're under enrolled so we are also literally getting less money from the state this year. My little sister came to work for us from a district in a northern city and is making ten dollars more an hour than she did there.
I make forty thousand dollars more than my elder sister in another district on the far western side of the state.
We still can't hire for all our open positions and are utterly screwed once we lose our covid-vaccine refusers. No one wants the jobs already.
I heard today that another school in our district is shuttering their autism program completely. They just don't have the staff to cover it AND the regular classrooms.
I don't know what will happen to the kiddos enrolled in that program. Will they just be tossed into gen-ed? Will they get their needs met? Will this increase class sizes?
Just like - wtf is wrong with everything right now. This is a whole different kind of stress from last year.
Not having enough people is really starting to wear on us, and it's just getting worse.
At what point can we just not... function any more?
I'm not so much angry as just.... I don't know.
I am angry.
I also feel a little bit betrayed?
But maybe just resigned.
And a little (?) like maybe I should understand even though I don't really.
We are losing a key person in our building because they won't take the vaccine and my district has a mandate.
This person is the whole world to several of our students. Like, they know EVERYTHING about the kid. But now this person is going to be gone and thanks to rules we can't tell the kid why that person is going to be gone.
I don't want this person to go - even if they aren't vaccinated... but if they aren't vaccinated are they physically safe?
I'm so lost.
What I'm hearing in this thread is a whole lot of "We need to stop treating this as a black and white issue."
That means that before we make a judgement about someone's health based on weight we should shut up and listen first. Likewise, if someone has told us they are trying to lose weight, we say "what can I do to help you?" and then again listen to them.
This is the same for doctors. Stop assumptions, and just listen.
@groth said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
In terms of losing weight it works and I can vouch for it working for me
Fixed
@groth said in Autism and The MU* Community:
You have this idea you want to communicate but it is misinterpreted and in your effort to clarify, you're viewed as obstinate.
I have one particular online-have-met-irl friend where our relationship has been really on the rocks lately and I think this is what is happening. They come to me with what I perceive is the same issue, though they feels what is being brought forth is unique and different, and I just want to shout (and have lost my patience) "we have talked about this stop it!"
We have had very open conversations. I feel like the act of rebrining up a topic is an effort to pressure me to change my mind and they feels that they are just trying to get clarity and nuance.
With my energy levels for online gaming since the Gray Harbor stuff being so low I am not able to be as understanding and put my feelings aside to be able to understand the actual motivation behind their words, versus the one that I perceive.
My solution isn't a great one. I've have just... pulled away. Not cut off, but limited our conversations. I can mentally know they mean no harm, but it doesn't stop it from feeling like harm.
