Posts made by silverfox

@Auspice

Ngl I read that as "favorite TSers."

@thesuntsar

Probably!!

@RightMeow
Exactly.

@insomniac7809

I dunno! My kitties usually have DAMN GOOD REASON why they hurt me. Usually I pissed them off first.

There is a brand new dog park outside of my apartment door. I love petting the dogs over the fence (I always ask the owner first!). Today one of the dogs was so excited it bit me and scratched up my arm good. I am much sad now.

Petting dogs shouldn't hurt.

I'm finding all of this super fascinating. Except the last few posts.

@Ghost gdi, you posted something serious while I was typing.

ALRIGHT, back on target:
I ten billion percent agree with @insomniac7809 and @Roz said. If you're going to cheat ICly and you LEGIT are keeping things 100% IC, then you have to leave some tells. Pose some bite marks (seriously, do people DO THAT IRL? Don't answer, I don't actually want to know.), or random undies, or whatever. There has to be an IC way to respond to that kind of information or some way to find it out. Even if you don't pose those things to THEM directly, do it to their friends who will go or WHATEVER. But give a way for the story to go forward.

MOVING ON:

If your PC is going to cheat IC on another character do you feel obligated to let your partner's player know?

If you guys are already talking OOCly, then fuck yes. I always thought it was a super jerk move when someone was 'omg so happy chatty' and then their character was cheating but they never said anything. That's Grossss.

Do you think you are responsible for a character whose roleplay is related to yours if your paths are to separate? In other words do you feel guilty someone else's PC might become quote/unquote unplayable because of your IC choices?
Very closely related to the above, what if the choice that takes a PC mostly off the table is OOC? For instance if you stop being active on my PC's spouse to play an alt with Theno's PC. Do I have the moral high ground to get pissed off?

Gonna lump these together because they are super close. Number 1- no. I do not make your character unplayable. YOU make your character unplayable by refusing to branch out and find new avenues of RP outside of our relationship. Can it be a major hurtle? Absolutely. The first time my shy bi-ass greenrider lost his first major love because he found a girl while they were taking a break I cried all across New Mexico. However, I never ever EVER told the player how I felt. Instead I found new things to do with K'vv and he is still a huge part of my heart. He became so important to me BECAUSE of his growth. Ending a relationship isn't the end of the character unless the player doesn't do something to keep it going.
If I'm getting ghosted I do have a right to be angry. If they're still holding onto a character that mine is tied up with and they refuse to give me some closure, I'm going to be bitter. They need to (wo)man up, tell me it's over (ICly/OOCly, I don't care) so I can move the fuck on. We don't even have to break up on camera, that's fine. Whatever. But don't put me in a closet and expect me to stay there forever.

When it comes to TS what's the correct way to suggest it? Do you let the RP become more explicit until the big words come out or you get told no? Do you page the other player first and explicitly ask if they want to do it? Something else?

I generally let the RP lead to it, but when I realize it's gonna get hot I've grown a spine in the last year or so to go firmly, "No, I don't want this." Then HANDWAVE HANDWAVE HANDWAVE and it's fine. I will say that I've had A LOT fewer RP requests for one-on-one scenes since I put my "FTB Only" disclaimer on my female PC's +fingers. I've also found an uptick in the number of male players who DON'T read my finger who after I go "FTB plz" go 'okay!' and then never RP with me again.

Assuming OOC consent between adult players is there anything in an IC relationship, including TS, that you consider unethical? No, I'm not going to give examples since I'm keeping this classy! But you can.

I am fairly conservative IRL, so there is a LOT that I would find super objectionable. But as long as I can live in my corner and pretend that stuff isn't happening, I don't care. Just don't tell me. Please. God. Don't. Tell. Me.

Others

Okay. So. Here's a situation I found myself in. A character who was a friend of mine was sleeping/dating another character. NOT with my character. We'd still RP (friend and I) fairly often. I got PAGES upon PAGES of messages from their partner "weather checking" "So, you guys are just friends right?" "I'm worried he's cheating on her" "You aren't sleeping with him, right?" -- On, and on, and on. It drove me INSANE since my character was straight up gay and had ZERO interest in this character-friend that way. I, of course, told my friend what was happening (oh, and I reported it, but that staff was junk so). When does it fall on my friend to tell her IC partner, "You have to stop, and if this doesn't, <insert consequence here>.?

@Aria

If that doesn't work is there a work address possibly that could be used?

Usually I am pretty chill on my fellow teachers. Our job is fucking HARD.

But we had a teacher last year that I have lost any and all pity for.

Her management was a nightmare. (Seriously, her kids were out of control.) Her assessments were a joke. She had a split 2-3 class and she just taught ALL of her 2nd graders 3rd grade stuff without even bothering to see if they needed 2nd first. More than anything else though, she was herself unreachable. Any coaching went in one ear and out the other. She never implemented anything.

Thankfully, she resigned at the end of last year before she could be fired. I elected to move down a level to her position simply so we could STOP having incompetence in that position. (We struggle to hire veteran teachers so most of our new hires end up being 1st year teachers.)

I would be able to put this behind me except that I am STILL finding shit from her that I have to clean up. She has one child she literally didn't put a single grade in for last year. Not a SINGLE GRADE. That is a huge issue since we are a mastery system. There is zero record of her achieving anything and so now we are going to have to do some serious assessments to figure out where this girl's placement really is.

#vent

Colorado was at 80+ on Wednesday. Yesterday it was in the teens with four inches of snow. Today it is simply full ice EVERYWHERE and the 20s.

I dislike winter, especially when it tells fall to shove off and takes over.

@thesuntsar

That was the best. Time. Ever.

@Ghost

And yet... every day, "How do I spell because?"

"Look on the word wall."

Someday they'll realize it's there.

Maybe.

Then again, it snowed today. So my 7-9 year olds were inside all day long. I'm very tired.

@Ghost

PIFT ON YOU. (Yeah, I know you were joking BUT PIFT ANYWAY. I am also joking here.)

Onnneeee more reason I hate grading essays.

Also.

I'm not allowed to RP again until I grade the damn pile of essays on my plate.

I hate essays guys. I hate them. Even if they're only one paragraph long. I. hate. them.

@Rinel

I've made my "teacher" desk as small as I possibly can and still have a place to keep my shit.

On that desk I have a SINGLE PLASTIC WIRE BOX. One. On it is a sign that says "turn stuff in here" That is for my kiddos, but also for me. Every single piece of paper I get, any binders, books, WHATEVER gets put into that basket. Then on Friday after school I sit down with it and sort through it all. If it needs graded, it gets graded. If it needs put away, it gets put away. If it's important enough I still need it "out" but isn't immediatly going to be used it gets put at the bottom of the basket and starts the next week. My stack is usually about 7-8 inches tall by Friday.

This system:
a) Means that when I put stuff down it is (generally) in one place so I only have to look in one place for where I can get.
b) The kiddos know that they are ONLY to turn stuff into this pile. They aren't allowed to physically hand me anything or I //will// lose it.

It's worked for seven years now... but damn if that pile doesn't get HUGE sometimes.

@WildBaboons

I totally thought it worked to poke it at first.

I honestly like the 'test' idea. Ansible had a part of this to graduate from Launch. (Dear god the idea of playing a 5-year-old weirds me out now as an adult...) Part of the test was straight mechanics, but some of it was theme. Like, "If X happens, which of A,B,C,D,E are in theme things to happen." I felt like it did give us a common frame of reference and when I finally passed the damn thing (I swear I failed it four times because I'm actually not that smart) I knew how I was suppose to act in theme and knew when to stop a scene and go, "This has gone too far guys."

On Ansible we had to give it in person, but I feel like it could easily be done via some in game system (I vaguely recall something I once had to do to request a character), over a @mail with the questions in a room/on a wiki page, or even via a google form that pinged back to the people who "graded" it and gave a pass/fail or whatever. (I would totally give it over to players who like being in charge of that kind of stuff, with staff on consult as needed.)

@gryphter

Have you ever read anything by Lindsay Bourker? I think her Emperor's Edge books would make a lovely world.