@Luna said:
Can't we all be adults who sometimes don't get along? Being cordial and getting along I feel are not really the same. Isn't it ok to not like everyone yet not feel the need to stir up trouble? At what point do you draw the line and say 'ok, you two are not getting along, so person a is allowed to say what they want but you're making them sad and mad, you're not allowed to say shit'.
Getting along doesn't mean liking people, it means maintaining politeness regardless, not being aggressive just because, etc. I don't care if people like one another, that's got nothing to do with the price of tea in China. Getting along means behaving like adults in an adult hobby. It means no slinging insults, and everyone paying attention to what they say. It also means not taking offense at stupid shit, not asking questions you don't want honest answers to, and a whole host of other things as well. The onus isn't on any given person, really, to take the high road. If everyone is getting along, then nobody needs to take the high road.
I have at least a dozen people in my office that I cannot stand. At all. They are, in my opinion, horrible people who should not only be fired, but should probably spend some time in the stocks with their claimants getting baskets of rotten fruit and vegetables. These are people that are genuinely doing awful things that are, unfortunately, just barely within the law. They know they're skirting the line, for the most part. They do it anyway because they're mean.
I still get along with them. I don't have to tell them what I think. I don't have to go have beers with them on a weekend night, either. We're adults in a professional environment. That's what people do. These rules of social conduct can and probably should make the transition to mushing. People are obviously capable of it. Is there drama and BS and problems sometimes? Absolutely. People are people. Usually drama and BS problems like that end up with somebody getting a disciplinary action, a grievance (from the union), or getting fired. Because that shit is not okay.
This is a hobby, not professional, correct. There are a number of reasons my analogy doesn't apply, starting with people having the motivation of money to behave themselves. Our currency is fun, and a lot of people don't need to get along with other people to have fun.
There aren't many of us left that are still in their teens and early twenties. The BS we pulled when we were kids is not okay any more. The hobby really needs to grow the fuck up.
