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Office 365 ducking changed where the buttons are again and THIS TIME I can't put them back. grrrrrrrrrrrrr.

@Wretched said in Difference between an NPC and a Staff PC?:

But that's not the reality of the MUing community.

It's not reality, it's abuse. It's used for abusive stuff. When it happens it should be DEALT WITH. Every. Time. Because it is a problem every. time.

@alamias

Okay, cool. Sativas tend to trigger anxiety more than indica; the problem with the edibles (and a lot of the other products made from distillates) is that they take out EVERYTHING except for the THC, and part of the parts they take out is like, the anti-anxiety stuff. Look for "whole plant" and "strain specific" type of labeling, it's going to be better for you and run into less of a chance of side-effects.

What I'd recommend in your shoes is to buy a 10 pack of the 10mg; you already know 10mg doesn't give much of an impact, so on a Friday night (or whatever; you don't want to fuck yourself up for work the next day on accident) increase the dose you took last time, see what happens. So do 2 candies. If you see no appreciable difference, next Friday, have 3 candies. Do NOT, as a noob, "wait two hours and just take another" -- that's only once you're familiar with what it does to you, and you can more accurately judge safety/impact while you're NOT impaired.

Indica is a body high / relaxant, sativa is a head high and tends to spur "creativity" (though most of what it spurs is right proper stupid, mind). Many many people's experience with Indica is "take that, go to sleep", so be aware that a nap might be your end result.

@Ghost said in Difference between an NPC and a Staff PC?:

...could establishing an Oocly titilating line of roleplay with a staffer result in preferential treatment than others don't have access to?

Yes! It could. But I feel that what should happen in this circumstance is that the unethical staffer -- and that's what they are -- should be fired. Not removing an element from roleplay. Because what they are doing is the worst kind (to me, that part is an opinion) of abuse.

@ortallus said in Good TV:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PEe-ZeVbTLo

Morning. Nice day for fishin, innit?

That was really, really good, lol. I saw what it was and laughed, intending to watch a couple of seconds, and now here I am having finished it. I'm impressed with a lot of things about it, but particularly the actors' ability to convey emotion and intent.

If you, as a person, are the sort of person who knows that you are influenced by sexually charged roleplay (for whatever reason), the way that an ethical person handles that situation is to not personally involve yourself in sexually charged roleplay.

Everyone is influenced by different things, and has different aspects to their personality. The ethical person compensates for these things as self-correction. It does not need to be assumed that everyone who types out sex is doing so from a perspective of this influence.

ETA: I should have used the word 'biased' here; when I say influence, I mean influenced to behave badly.

Heading into the office in person for the first time since COVID stuff began, today. Whooo anxiety.

@Ganymede said in Difference between an NPC and a Staff PC?:

@Sunny said in Difference between an NPC and a Staff PC?:

I think it's inappropriate, regardless of profession, to equate roleplayed sex out to real life sex. That part of the premise is what I disagree with.

I think it is inappropriate too, but I remember a time when players literally flipped their shit when they found out a player that they had "staked out" as their territory dared to engage in TS with someone else under an alt.

I remember a time when someone flipped their shit at me for doing this.

I don't think either of us have time for that kind of shit, and I don't think staff should be concerning themselves with that possibility either.

I remember lots of this sort of thing, too -- I blocked someone less than a year ago from my life entirely because they were a terrible person around TS and IC relationships, it was kind of a nightmare. I mean, I've lived this.

As a staffer, however, I disagree that I don't have time for that shit: I do. I have plenty of time to kick it right the fuck off of my game.

@greenflashlight said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):

@wretched Wait, are we not supposed to do that? I thought telling relatable stories was the thing to do. Have I been selfish this whole time?

It's literally something that they teach in active listening exercises and in training classes so -- no, you haven't been. There's this weird meme going around that it's a bad thing, but...idk wtf is up with that.

@Wretched said in Poll: Do I enjoy this hobby more than I don't?:

As someone building a game that is going slowly, and hasn't really RP'd much in the last year +, let alone really invested in a character, because of the aforementioned game building and health. Its a generous and vigorous mix of love and hate.

You really need to RP. Please take some time to RP.

@greenflashlight

Nope. Caught toe of sandal on lip of bottom step, stumbled up three of them, caught it on the top step again and restumbled, grabbed couch and almost saved myself, shoulder went HA NO and that was that. I am counting myself incredibly lucky that I didn't break anything and that I have motion in my arm/fingers again.

@Wizz

I wish this had been my first big fall.

It was indeed quite humbling, though: I SKINNED MY KNEE. WHO FUCKING SKINS THEIR KNEE AS AN ADULT?

@Ghost said in Poll: Do I enjoy this hobby more than I don't?:

I think it's poignant.

Thank you for sharing your perspective with us.

@greenflashlight said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@wizz said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

married
polyamorous
woman
just seeking
a "belaytionship"

Tell me if I'm getting too personal and I'll apologize, but I'm curious. Which of these five things are the problem(s)?

I didn't get the sense that any of them were a PROBLEM so much as that's not what he's looking for, particularly in conjunction. When you're looking for a dating option and nearly everything you see is of a particular sort that you're not interested in, it's super frustrating.

@Ghost said in Poll: Do I enjoy this hobby more than I don't?:

@Sunny Let's not get combative. I've mentioned that I haven't always been the best at it, myself, but am keen to be a part of an effort to fix the problem. I feel this is a group problem that needs a group solution.

And while those boards have 3.2k(etc) posts, I think my overall point stands. As cathartic as bitching and venting may be, I feel that negativity reigns and that those particular boards are a symptom of a bigger issue.

Yep, you're right. I deleted the post because it was inappropriately hostile. I do feel like you are a negative influence on this community, but I understand that you are trying to be helpful.

@silverfox

It gets easier. WAY easier. Once you get the muscle memory built you'll be OK.

@Scorn said in Our Tendency Towards Absolutes:

@Sunny Except.. okay, example. You and your group are standing there as the shambling hoard of zombies edges closer and closer to you. Shambleshamble.

Your friends get the f*ck outta Dodge.

You stand there. You fail to act. You get your brains nommed by shambly zombies.

Sometimes failure to act should reasonably result in consequences.

Augh, yeah, but we're talking about people electing to not get involved with plots, not a scene. Scene consequences = ok. Consequences for not getting involved in staff plots = oh hell no.

@Ganymede @Derp

I wish I could help, could figure out something more helpful than just stupid words, but you both have far more value to your communities than what you produce in any particular day/week/month/year (and honestly, more than what you produce period, but that's a rant for another time).

Everything will still be here when you have the energy. If you forced engagement when you're not feeling it, we run the risk of burning you out forever. NOBODY who plays with you wants that. Patience is better. Time away from brain-y hobbies that require much thinkwork is not just helpful, but necessary to remain healthy.

@Arkandel

Absolutely. I wasn't making my statement as a value judgment. It's not BAD, just because it's not significant to the greater community (I would argue that mudstats is probably a bigger deal). Certain people around here, if they aren't actually out and involved in things, seem to be under the mistaken impression that trends here, spats here, general behavior here has anything to do with out there.

This is a small community of mostly very jaded people, many of whom have a lot of trauma. People love to try and extrapolate -- it's a normal people thing to do -- and think that because the rate of trauma/jaded here is what it is, the greater mushing community is that way.

It's not.

@greenflashlight

You are not alone in your idiocy, I think most people are this sort of idiot.

@Lotherio said in How to Escape the OOC Game:

@Arkandel said in How to Escape the OOC Game:

@Rook said in How to Escape the OOC Game:

I've met several people that have made no bones about outright saying "If I dont know you, we don't RP" and then they needle for past characters/games/interaction information to place me by. I have learned to simply smile and shrug, tell them that it is their loss, and I move on.

How can that not be everyone's response?

If I have to prove myself to you just so we can play a game together what does that tell me about how much of a gift to the rest of us you think you are?

Wow.

I'd like to think I've never seen it, but I have. Not so much a direct, if someone doesn't know you they won't play with you, but I've gone places under not my name and hit brick walls with folks I know. Then if I show up next week and its me, I get an in, at least a little time of day.

This. When I identify myself as myself (as in not actively keeping it on the down low), I have a way way way way easier time finding RP than when I do not. There are a few things I don't have to deal with as well, but my experience between characters when I'm 'out' on one and not on another sort of makes me sad when I stop and actually think about it.

ETA: I should add 'for the first few months' of not being out, because the moment I end up around people who know me it's pretty much all over. SOMEDAY I will figure out what my tells are. Someday.