Posts made by Sunny

@coin

I mean, I asked the question, and then I followed through to SEE. It was the results that weren't pretty.

It's not actually about being intimidating or anything, I don't think -- I honestly think it's about habits and patterns of behavior. Those who can be very social, outgoing, and tend to be confident -- the majority of the time, they're driving relationships, since they have the energy / push to do so.

It creates a pattern of behavior:

I always say good morning to my friend. If I stop saying good morning, the friend is not going to intuit it's because I want THEM to, they're going to assume I don't want to talk, or they did something, or -- any number of things, none of which are "hey, maybe it's my turn to pick up reins I have literally never held". Because I changed the terms of our relationship without including them in the discussion about it.

I induced my own meltdown at one point by going, "what happens if I stop reaching out to people?"

...not pretty, do not recommend. Ego still recovering. DO NOT DO. Danger, Will Robinson, DANGER.

Office 365 ducking changed where the buttons are again and THIS TIME I can't put them back. grrrrrrrrrrrrr.

@coin

Yeah, I haven't read the comic, but what I've read ABOUT it says it's done pretty well with staying faithful to at least the tone and weight of it. Bodes well for some of the other properties the studio is working on.

@buttercup said in Good TV:

Also I think my love for Invincible has made me more content then I should be with my super hero fill of greatness!

I love Invincible SO MUCH. I can't really do gore so it gets rough at moments, but gosh, the characters and storytelling are so good it keeps me watching despite my hangups.

Training somebody who WANTS to learn what I am showing them. It is such a gift, when most of the teaching I do is to...less than receptive audiences.

@tinuviel said in A healthy game culture:

I mildly object to the idea that a game can "bring out the worst" in people. People are the problem, not the game. The game is just an excuse people use to be toxic. It's the "what was she wearing" of our little community - along side the actual "what was she wearing."

ETA: I'd also like a moratorium on the word 'toxic'. We have plenty of other adjectives we could use.

I've seen it enough times and have enough personal experience / data to say that it's incredibly weird to say that the specific games (and their attendant cultures, which is impacted by the subject matter, though not defined) do not in fact have a significant impact on how people behave in the associated environments. While one can hardly blame the games wholesale, competitive games drag competitive streaks out of people, paranoid games draw out anxiousness, and so on.

eta: missed a not. Games DO impact the behaviors of the players, particularly in the course of playing the games in question.

@redbird

Yeah, I can’t get into Ares games either, alas. Not everything is using that platform currently, but a lot of games sure are. I am also not presently playing, but I do have a PC on hiatus on Arx. The pandemic has not been kind , but I’m still kicking.

@redbird

I am really glad you're still kicking around.

-Lili@TR

Time cube guy???? Is that you?!

@cobalt

There are LOTS of things it could be that are not at all catastrophic, but you're not going to stop being terrified until the vet. I wish you lots and lots and lots of luck distracting yourself until then.

@cobalt

Oof. Thinking of you both.

@hobos said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

This will explain why it is a little more complicated than just listening sometimes.

But it's not. You're in here telling a Jewish person about antisemitism, and justifying it with educating the rest of us. It's not more complicated than that.

I have found it helpful, when discussing anti-Semitism, to listen to the Jewish people in the room that are speaking. If there is a conflict between MY UNDERSTANDING OF something a Jewish friend has told me, and something that a Jewish person is presently saying to me, I am best served to listen to what the Jewish person is telling me in the present sense, not arguing with their viewpoint based on what my friend told me. ^^ I don't have to AGREE of course, but I will never personally have the experience or understanding of being the target of this kind of persecution, and I can only be improved (rather than harmed) as a person by actually listening to what I am being told, even if it doesn't agree with something else I have been told.

“Israel created Hamas SIMPLY to justify their actions” seems pretty fucking cut and dry anti-Semitic to me. YMMV I guess.

@iluvgrumpycat

She didn't. @Cupcake said "accuse", which is possible by sharing somebody else's post.

eta: this thing you're "correcting" never happened. Cupcake did NOT say "she went on to say" and she did NOT attribute the words themselves to the woman, so maybe you should slow your roll about OTHER people putting words in peoples' mouths.

@saosmash

That really sucks.

@derp

Please be safe.

@derp

I'm sorry that you're going through this, I don't really have words for how terrible it is. I really hope you manage to come out the other side before things blow up on you further.

https://www.eurogamer.net/articles/2021-03-04-valheims-body-recovery-squad-will-help-you-get-your-items-back-and-all-for-free?fbclid=IwAR0wkmKe2LypGWBsNo55DvLAQrj64kYKFTZQIg5fchmM9_uhD30KtqEhC24

So sweet.