So, I'm not staff or even friends with staff (that I know of) but since there's no thread for this game and there was such excitement over Spirit Lake (now closed to apps) that I thought I'd bring this to peoples' attention.
Sanctuary: modern urban fantasy though set in a small town in the same vein as Midnight, Texas the show and the books. Here's the link to the wiki. Check it out and app cause I just apped there and it's still very small and more people to play with would be cool.
Common one, I'm sure...
Paging someone to complain/comment about a third person and paged that third person.
@Derp said in What Would it Take to Repair the Community?:
This is less acceptable. What is the point of this? You aren't trying to say here, "some of the things you did contributed to the problems that we're currently facing, and you should consider how you're going to handle that going forward." This is just meant to browbeat and shame a person based on personal dislike for no other reason than to vent your spleen in an argument
Pointing out someone's hypocrisy is not browbeating.
@Aria Make them a mix tape and send it to them anonymously: Music to Fuck To.
I think it's safe to say that this foray into moderation is going to go through some growing pains and both posters and mods should be patient with each other.
That being said, I'd rather it go away entirely that continue the way it is at this moment.
@Pandora said in Personal Agency for Personal Boundaries:
"Let's fade to black" is fairly often met with 'Why?' or 'Oh, I wish I'd known you didn't TS before we let it get this far.' or 'Lol, let me just do one more pose, your character will get a kick out of this.' or a dozen and a half other things.
Point. And I just added clarification to the news policies that a request to fade to black should be accepted without question and ending the scene at that point.
Simply put, you've dodged a bullet. Don't run back in front of it.
I haven't really weighed in on the whole kerfuffle except to say that it brought to mind 'In order to save the village, we had to destroy it'. I still get that impression. But since it began, I think something has crystallized about what exactly happened and why some people are reacting so strongly.
Once upon a time, the moderators of this board in all its various incarnations did so as custodians of the community. By which I mean that the board functioned basically as the community as a whole wanted it to be and the moderators used a light touch to keep it that way.
At some point, and this is just my impression, this became @Ganymede 's board and people could either like it or leave. I make no comment on whether that's a good or bad thing but it seems like the custodians have become the staff.
That's going to stick in some craws. And here we are.
@Ganymede said in What Would it Take to Repair the Community?:
I hope that we can be cordial and cooperate when matters greater than us arise -- for example, if Cullen / Azazello / Surtr / whomever shows their head on BMD, I hope that someone will alert us so we decide whether to follow suit here before shit gets real
But that would be bullying, according to some posters that seem to have the approbation of admin. And being a bully is bad while calling someone a bully as a personal attack doesn't seem to get even a raised eyebrow, let alone any warnings.
@BetterNow said in MU and Data Organization:
Just popping in to add CLEAR CHARGEN DIRECTIONS. It will save you as staff, and your players, much sanity, if they aren't frustrated and confused while making a PC.
I just wish they'd read the fucking directions.
@surreality said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
- "IF THAT BEEPS ONE MORE TIME-" (I never get to the threat. Apparently the tone is enough that it doesn't beep again. This is good because I'm usually too addled to come up with one.)
And it did. So I took the shotgun off the wall and I fired two warning shots. Into his head.
It's been 10 years since this came out so there's probably a lot of people who haven't read it. It's worth having on this site.
http://wadewilson.livejournal.com/11285.html
Learn it, know it, live it.
Honestly, this whole thing feels like an 'In order to save the village, we had to destroy it.' situation. It's a shame really. Time will tell if it can heal.
Bad decision. Aside from the couple people who specifically tried to get banned, they shouldn't stay in effect.
Not that it really matters. The trust in staff here has been destroyed and I doubt they'd return even if the ban was removed.
@Ninjakitten +111. Well said.
A long while ago, I was interested in learning more about trans issues. I might be a white guy but as a gay one, I was starting out definitely on their 'side' (their side being equality and the freedom to be who they were without being murdered).
I forget where it was I was reading, some board somewhere I'm thinking that I remember having rules about being a safe space. But I read various threads and one day I decided to ask some questions. And i was basically given links and told to read up on it. Someone also commented about getting tired of being an ambassador. There was more than that but this was the gist of it.
If I remember right (it was a while ago), my reaction was not 'ok sure, I'll get right on it'. It was more 'Hey, I'm trying to be on your side here. Give me a break and stop with the tone.' In other words, educate me and be nice about it or I'm not going to bother. So I may have been coming from a place of being marginalized in some ways but I was also feeling very entitled in others while still being completely sympathetic to their cause and issues. It's also where I first saw the link to Derailing For Dummies.
So I get both sides of this. I've been on both sides. And it takes a while for to really understand what Ninjakitten explained so well. It's a shame that didn't happen in the very start of this whole thing but it only really makes sense and hits home after the fact.
