WARNING: This post as pretty explicit language.
@Auspice said in Tips on Güd TS:
So, if you're playing a female character and her partner gets her well-aroused beforehand? She's much less likely to feel pain, even if she's a virgin. It might be uncomfortable and strange still, but painful? Not so much.
Chiming in briefly here to say: Indeed, yes. The first time I had sex it didn't hurt. There was blood like woah, but no pain. Not even after. However, it did take several attempts before actual penetration happened. Sometimes that can take some work. It might not be a: "Pushes in and feels the barrier, and then pushes through it". It might be a "attempts to push in, and gets repelled and slides around all crazy." Just, you know, if you want authentic virginity-losing-rp.
@ThugHeaven said in Tips on Güd TS:
- Read some erotica. I frickin' love Zane novels, they're my guilty pleasure. Seeing how the pros do it goes a long way.
I agree on the disclaimer. You also need to look at the subject material for erotica. I adore several of Cara McKenna's books. (After Hours, Hard Time, Lay It down)-- are good books. I feel like she writes pretty healthy relationships even when the sexual relationship border on kink (dom/sub or bdsm such as in 'Unbound'). On the flip side you have the 'Sweet <blah>' series by Maya Banks, where the female lead just wants "a man who will call the shots in all aspects of her life, not just in the bedroom". I try not to be judgey but it borders a little bit on the squeaky for me. At least, however, it isn't the horror show that is 50 Shades.
Here's my TIP: Communcation.
If it looks like the scene is heading toward TS take a few moments to find out the following:
- Does your RP partner WANT to TS or do they want to FTB?
- What level of detail are they comfortable with?
- What /words/ are they comfortable with? Are they down with 'cock' and 'pussy'? Or would they prefer 'manhood' and 'womanhood'. OR would they prefer things be even less descriptive than that.
- Is there anything they super don't want to have happen and would turn the scene from 'I'm having fun' to 'omg, get out as fast as possible'.
- ANYTHING ELSE. Really. Talk to the person OOC.
Some of the most enjoyable TS I've ever had, has been with people that I was comfortable enough with on the OOC level to talk about the TS. Talk about what I enjoyed and didn't enjoy. What they did and didn't. And I'm frankly not talking about kinky things. But like language. Pose length.
I had one conversation with a person who was shocked that I'd used the word 'cunt', and while it surprised them they were cool with it continuing-- it'd just been a surprise because every other woman they knew hated the word. I, on the other hand, hated the word 'cunny'.
TL;DR / LESS explicit language:
- The first time you have sex as a woman, it may take a couple of tries for actual penetration to happen.
- Becareful what erotica you read.
- Always communicate with whoever you're RPing/TSing with to make sure everyone is on the same level / comfortable.